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But he was more like the nice comfortable chair in a room that you'd never part with than the flashy artwork that is pretty but you change when you're bored with it. Ben Gazzara was comfortable and never boring.
I guess that the reason I feel the need to defend James Garner here is that I have always felt like he's the kind of man with whom you could and would have spirited discussions on a multitude of issues, yet it would remain friendly. I see a lot of old fashioned sensibility with him that navigated a town and industry that is anything but old fashioned. I haven't read his book yet. The quotes regarding Ronald Reagan made me cringe. But on a second read, of the excerpt, it seemed to me that he was speaking as much about actors becoming politicians as he was about President Reagan specifically. And there are people that I still respect very much that I would say that they just don't "get" Ronald Reagan. I can read his book of his speeches and know clearly that President Reagan had many great original thoughts. So Mr. Garner feels differently. President Reagan's legacy is secure regardless.
I think anyone would reflexively defend their parent if they felt that they were attacked. Also, I don't think Ms. Garner attacked anyone's beliefs or principles.
Anyways...That is enough rambling on my part. My apologies if I prolonged this unnecessarily.
Some of the most distinct memories of my daughter are from her earliest days. She was my little miracle. I can forget a lot of things, but those early days of my children are indelible. I'm sure it is the same with Ms. Garner and her father. I wouldn't be surprised if that photo was one of his favorites.
That being said, I have always admired your father for being his own man. He has stood up for what he felt was right (now that I think about it, I agree very much with what I know about much of your father's 1960's civil rights stance). I can just feel the character instilled in him from Mr. Garner's Oklahoma upbringing. An upbringing that I think was very similar to my folks early 20th century West Virginia upbringing (And we had a Bumgarner marry into the family).
My dad was conservative in some ways and far left in others. I didn't always agree with him, but I always loved him. I also hold your father in great affection. He made me smile a lot over the years.
This is not kissing up to you, but your defense of your dad struck a chord in me. I know that you will keep defending him and always love him. As you should.
That is sad. But I remember catching continual crap from the 1980's on without being allowed to simply offer a different viewpoint in the debate. Scorched earth offensive has now been met with scorched earth response. It probably won't tone down until one side wins.