OtherRoooToo

OtherRoooToo

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231 weeks ago @ The Toast - ADHD, Not MPDG: Growin... · 0 replies · +5 points

If you're hyperverbal, the "oh, there's nothing wrong with YOU" is so, so much worse.

Especially - as several other sufferers of color have indicated above - you have family from a culture of the "not only can there not be anything wrong with you because we have to dump all these household tasks on you because you're a GIRL, but on top of that we're ALREADY going to be judged negatively in this culture so there CAN'T be anything wrong with you because that's going to ruin your chances.

Now CONCENTRATE!!"

'kay.

231 weeks ago @ The Toast - ADHD, Not MPDG: Growin... · 0 replies · +1 points

I swear before Jeebus - why don't the docs *tell* you about these kinds of things??

There's all this handwringing about abuse-abuse-abuse -- how about some counseling beforehand WRT how meds can potentially really wreck / substantially impede parts of your functioning?

I mean, aren't they supposed to be the experts ...?

*sigh*

231 weeks ago @ The Toast - ADHD, Not MPDG: Growin... · 0 replies · +3 points

"Does anyone else who struggles with attention find that they HAVE to watch every episode/season of a show they get into,"

That can be a thing, if you're sitting on the ADHD/Asperger's-ish edge.

/personal experience

I find I have to limit my viewing pretty severely because of that. I'm like a GoT/NEVER person, because I just had a suspicion.

Of course, I then discovered The White Queen and found out that the Stark/Lannister feud was actually semi-based on what happened between the Yorks and Lancasters.

Good thing TWQ was only one season long. *sigh*

231 weeks ago @ The Toast - ADHD, Not MPDG: Growin... · 0 replies · +2 points

Thank you so so much.

I have friends from/in Seattle, but if I can get even a recommendation or referral from her, it will be worth it. Because then when I contact the office, my request for an eval will be coming from a credible source, in their minds, instead of just little old me, who couldn’t possibly be trusted to know anything, let alone the workings of her own mind or how to spell ‘neuroscience’.

Thanks again so much; I’m very very grateful.

(Also your username is just The Awesome.)

231 weeks ago @ The Toast - ADHD, Not MPDG: Growin... · 0 replies · +5 points

My mother does that.

And never understands why I practically want to kill myself when she does, because talking is stimulating for HER (and of course, everyone should have the same reactions she does to everything, because if they don't, they're just being unreasonable).

That's also extremely helpful given the fact that she wants to relocate (she says, as she keeps changing her mind).

Le sigh.

231 weeks ago @ The Toast - ADHD, Not MPDG: Growin... · 2 replies · +2 points

Can I ask who the neuropsychologist was who tested you?

(If you can believe it, you get a fair amount of "never heard of it / of course you're bright and you don't have it" in NY - in NYC, even. We're supposed to be a sophisticated place, but sometimes that purported sophistication can break down in the face of racial & gender bias in medicine -- which even doctors will admit is there but seem reluctant to take any steps to do anything about. :-( )

232 weeks ago @ The Toast - A Slightly Subdued Ope... · 0 replies · +2 points

yes

this

♥♥♥

232 weeks ago @ The Toast - A Slightly Subdued Ope... · 2 replies · +3 points

You know what I'd love to know ...?

What worked to "show you" that?

Was there a way it was put to you that didn't make you defensive or angry?

What were the words & phrases that got through ...?

232 weeks ago @ The Toast - A Slightly Subdued Ope... · 0 replies · +3 points

Jeebus.

Has it really been three years??

232 weeks ago @ The Toast - A Slightly Subdued Ope... · 0 replies · +4 points

Sounds like you had a great therapist.

I've had, unfortunately, a series of several who were much more terrible.