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242 weeks ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 2 replies · +16 points

You an' me from our nativity
Live in captivity
To a society with a proclivity for heteronormativity
We learn negativity
With no objectivity
To any other potential human interactivity

And our passivity
Leads to inactivity
In the face of sinister uncensored insensitivity

The nitty gritty isn't pretty it's a pity to admit he gets a little bit chitty 'cause he don't get the tittie
Boy wants to set a committee to get every he some kitty, needs to quit, split, he's dreamin' like Walter Mitty.

242 weeks ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 1 reply · +4 points

Actually, I kinda remember this bit where they got a doctor to comment on the various Game of Thrones injury, and he pointed out that removing that organ actually wouldn't do much to eliminate that particular distress, and that the kindest thing to do to a character who had been relieved of said organ (with only period-appropriate medicine available, that is), would be to remove...er...all the bits. And then the distress would be considerably minimized.

242 weeks ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 0 replies · +10 points

Yeah, it's SO sexy being reminded that other human beings are actually ENTHUSIASTIC about getting naked and having sex with each other. Yeah it's SO sexy to think of all of the happy couples being so eager to sleep with each other while I'm left out in the cold.

I guess by this metric, lingerie isn't sexy, because all it does is remind you that there are OTHER people who are actually getting to see their partners in lingerie while you're "left out in the cold."

Consent isn't what's "kicked your ass your whole life." You're doing that. You.

Look at what you're writing. What woman in her right mind would give consent to a guy with this attitude? Dude, you could look like Chris Hemsworth, and women would still avoid this mess, because women learn to pick up on these vibes.

You're scary. Your attitudes are scary.

You seriously need to go to a therapist, and a good one, preferably one who specializes in sex/relationships. Because your own brain is screwing you over, and you're continuing to make horrible choices, and frick...it's terrifying.

242 weeks ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 3 replies · +15 points

Frick. This continues to be horrifying.

Elliot Rogers didn't have lovers because he was a legitimately awful person. Like, prior to all that. He was cruel and unkind and already freaking creepy.

You're putting the onus for "creating this monster" on people who didn't like him, instead of on him for the decisions he made that made people not like him.

But it's telling that you have more sympathy with a man who murdered people because he felt entitled to sex from women and created a whole--completely fictional--narrative in his head about why some men got sex, but not him...you display more empathy for him than for women in general as people.

"This horrible society" where women are free to say no and men aren't assigned a woman to take care of their sad boners isn't what made Elliot Rogers. His own decisions did. His decision to be bitter, to believe the worst in people, to believe that he was entitled to sex and that the universe was unfair for not providing it.

242 weeks ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 0 replies · +5 points

There is a WHOLE BOOK about why not oobleck!

242 weeks ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 0 replies · +10 points

Well, maybe if the world were a better place if guys did.

Typical. All about men's pleasure, and at the expense of women. Unless you're volunteering to pass out some of those blowjobs to other lonely guys.

Although hey, I mean, escort services and such do exist--you actually can go and get yourself a blowjob for "trying really hard" (by using money).

The only guys who get blowjobs are the guys who are born with good genes that naturally draw women to them??

That is so empirically not true. Like, at all. Looks can be part of a genetic lottery, sure, but who you are as a person is your choice. It really is.

But also...plenty of dudes who rolled low on looks/talent/etc get blowjobs, if that's your metric of success.

But seriously, everything about this comment is so gross, and proves that you don't live in the real world--you live in some kind of bitter distopia where everything you see is filtered through a haze of bitter grossness, where women are objects without agency or intelligence (no one "flocks" to dudes who don't have something to offer, and looks alone really aren't enoug)

You don't deserve a blowjob. No one "deserves" one.

And buddy? You AREN'T trying hard. You really aren't.

A guy in your shoes? Should probably see a VERY good therapist, possibly one who specializes in sex/romantic problems.

Your anger is scary because it reads like the manifesto of Elliot Rogers. the fact that you can't see that is also terrifying. A man who feels entitled to blow jobs and who flat out says that he dislikes consent because it means women can reject him is terrifying.

242 weeks ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 4 replies · +11 points

It's really horrifying.

Like, consent isn't conditional.

I don't value consent because I'm "privileged" and get partners whenever I want to. (I don't?)

I value consent because I respect other human beings as people, and know that consent is important whether or not I get what I want.

242 weeks ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 1 reply · +12 points

Maybe if you spent a decade in my shoes you'd realize how horrible it is going through life without any intimacy.

*waves*

Yo! Single for literally all of my life. SOMEHOW not a MASSIVE RAGING BITTER DICK ABOUT IT.

Dude, don't blame women for your inability to healthily process emotions. Like, seriously. Gross. The way you are, the attitude and behaviors you take? Those are a choice. There are so many people in the world who have had a much rougher time than you in relationships, and somehow, many of them DON'T get molded into bitterness.

But hey, keep on kicking yourself in the balls, because that's what you're doing. Having a romantic partner? Absolutely is a pipe dream as long as your insides are filled with a withing mass of venomous snakes.

242 weeks ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 0 replies · +6 points

But all the hot ones partnered up, eselle! All of them!

... I really need to get a scan of that panel from Strangers in Paradise: "But what will Freddie hump now? Poor poor Freddie..."

242 weeks ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: How ... · 0 replies · +13 points

but it's hard to stay enthusiastic about it when people keep using that agency to reject me

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Holy. Balls.

That might legit be the most chilling sentence I've read all day, and I spent to morning internet-talking my friend through a massive emotional crisis.