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Not every chance or second chance is related to attraction, either. Lots of rejections have more to do with personality, lifestyle, and values. In a lot of cases, people know what they want when it comes to those things too. In others, they may have some bias about people and might benefit from getting to know someone better. In still others, a perception may be off. A lot of second chances happen in situations where someone was dull or awkward on a first date, or made a non-malicious but thoughtless comment that came across badly. People who go on dates with otherwise nice, appealing people might decide to give it one more shot to see if their date is always awkward or if perhaps the person was just having a bad day.
Either way, it's something that should be completely up to the person giving the chance or the second chance.
This is why women generally don't give feedback about why they turn down approaches or end short relationship. It's also why there are fewer replies to online messages and accepted first dates and general willingness to give mediocre matches a chance to prove they're actually awesome. At some point, I think a lot of women have tried it and gotten a similar big bag of NOPE in return.
I checked mine, and it actually did what I think it was supposed to do, screening out a couple of invitations to multi-level marketing parties and a series of messages from a guy who had a two-night stand with in 2007 and whose other profiles I blocked long ago. Even though it worked in my case, I don't know why Facebook is so committed to deciding what content I see rather than trying to make decisions on my behalf, or why it can't at least announce that it's screening content for me. (Well, okay, I probably do know, and suspect it's nefarious and advertising related...)
"The finding that men were more discriminatory than women in sexually inexperienced partners requires further thought. Men’s disinterest in sexually inexperienced partners contradicts historical sexual scripts that stress feminine chastity and premarital virginity (Abbott, 2000). Women’s lack of discrimination is also curious, considering the influence of sexual scripts that reinforce hegemonic masculinity and, along with it, expectations for U.S. men’s heterosexuality, including the presupposition that sexually experienced men are more desirable (Kimmel, 2012). In this light, it is surprising that heterosexual women were not more critical of sexually inexperienced men as potential partners, and equally interesting that men were more critical of women who embodied notions of virginity. It is worth noting that neither gender roles, sexual scripts, nor evolutionary psychological models would have necessarily predicted the direction of these findings, indicating the utility of integrative developmental biopsychosocial frameworks for the study of contemporary romantic and sexual expression (Garcia, Reiber, Massey, & Merriwether, 2012; Tolman & Diamond, 2014)."