Xolandra

Xolandra

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2 days ago @ Clever Manka - Thursday Link Dump · 0 replies · +4 points

2 days ago @ Clever Manka - Thursday Link Dump · 4 replies · +6 points

"because vanishingly few of them have any idea how to make themselves wanted"

And lemme tell you, even the ones who are manage to bugger it up in the end. IME, of coruse.

2 days ago @ Clever Manka - Thursday Link Dump · 0 replies · +5 points

Not just Canadian, but a Montrealer, the most metropolitan of Canadians!

2 days ago @ Clever Manka - Thursday Link Dump · 2 replies · +7 points

O hullo, did someone say music recs?

This dude is from my town, and this album is legit bangin: https://missinglinx.bandcamp.com/album/spaxe-came...

Also new to me, i believe I described this as "needs more Saul Williams, less Of Montreal", but of course YMMV: https://indianagent.bandcamp.com/album/meditation...

And finally, for those who need soothing, instrumental sounds: https://artascatharsis.bandcamp.com/album/letters...

1 week ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 0 replies · +5 points

I already carry a backpack, the tupperware should be easy ;)

1 week ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 0 replies · +4 points

My staff-job experiences tend to be an extended fantasia of everyone around me being all “wow heh-heh gosh you’re really not afraid to say what you think!” and bosses generally finding it extremely refreshing that one person in the room is honest with them... until the day someone decides it isn’t fun any more

Story of my life, both professional and non. Noted re: alarm in my own ringtone! "o sorry, I have to go, emergency". Excellent strategy, thank you.

1 week ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 0 replies · +3 points

Nope. 19/20 that's not it at all.

I just cannot let go. Like. My brain says its fine and cool, but the rest of me still wants the person to die in a fire. Like... I am still sad and mad and upset and regretful about the friendship that I lost last fall even though it was 110% clear that that person had changed and was no longer the kind, caring, generous person that I thought I knew, and I hope that they are well and that they are cared for and I am scared that they are alone and sad and I will never, ever, EVER reach out because I was _deeply_ wounded by what they said to me that ended our friendship.

My relationship with XGentlemanX fell apart because he didn't respect my boundaries in 2017, and I couldn't get over it. My brain was all "here are the reasons", but my gut was more "AND FUCK THAT GUY".

I just can't let go. I don't know why. I really, really don't. But it may, perhaps, have something to do with the fact that I have a family whose reaction to a sensitive kid was to tease the sensitive out of them, and so i have a LONG history of being fucked with til I cry and then being told that i am being unreasonable. So maybe I just jump straight to the unreasonable? Or only give a person one chance for fuckery and assume that all other interactions will always go that way?

1 week ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 0 replies · +2 points

Awesome! I just got b12 supplements too!

Supplement siblings!

1 week ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 3 replies · +5 points

No, that's not it at all. It's more that I resent being manipulated, and these things always feel like manipulation, rather than a genuine attempt to bond, or appreciate or understand my work.

I once took an entire chocolate display from a table at a law firm holiday party and handed the candy out to homeless people while drunkenly wearing a (also taken) elf hat. I hated that job and you couldn't pay me to spend a moment w/ those ppl elsewise but...open bar is open bar. Ilu, too.

1 week ago @ Clever Manka - Mid-week check-in · 0 replies · +7 points

it's me, the person who will reliably drop the first F-bomb in the meeting

Fwieeeeeeeeeeeeeeend