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I am sofa king thrilled for all of you. How surreal it must be to know that you created content and a community that appeals to a presidential candidate, and not just any presidential candidate, but the single most qualified candidate in history.
This is one hell of a mic drop.
If there is a way to subscribe to the email threads, I would pay a princely sum. But you are probably all going to be on slack.
I will miss this site, this community, these contributors, and this private clubhouse more than I will ever miss something from the internet.
In the comments above, Flan says the Toast was her first hometown. That is a disarmingly lovely way to describe the Toast - a hometown on the internet. I have never had a hometown in real life, but from what I've read in Southern novels, there is usually a nasty faction lurking in hometowns, ready to shame and judge when the moment arrives. The Toast really didn't have that at all, and it is the only place on the internet I have ever known to be free of that kind of shit.
Put another way, the smart, clever, and genuine managed to intimidate and bully the trolls away. I don't think I have ever seen that done anywhere, and i don't think I am ever going to see it again.
This site was magic, and I cannot believe I was fortunate enough to be a part of it, even as a (mostly) lurker. Thank you to all of the writers and the toasties for your collective contributions to a community that I don't think I will ever witness again.
I will forever be shaped by Passive Aggressive Sarah, who thought she wanted a gregarious and affable roommate, but only if said gregarious and affable roommate would return to the apartment by the arbitrary curfew set by Passive Aggressive Sarah. If the gregarious and affable roommate was late, or took a lover for the evening, Passive Aggressive Sarah would retaliate by basically turning off everything electric in the apartment and complaining (or leaving notes about) about gregarious and affable roommate's selfish and indulgent lifestyle.
Once, after a remarkable weekend with a lovely gentleman, I came home to a house full of Post-it notes about the expense of Christmas tree lights. I was allotted certain hours to enjoy them - I recall it was 7-9pm. I moved out the day after Christmas and have never even googled her name since.
I saw Grease over a dozen times in the theater and a hundred times more after that on video. I always loved Rizzo because she was so form fitting in her own skin. She was harsh, blunt, vulgar, cynical, and yet also palpably vulnerable. I don't remember a single girlfriend of mine liking Rizzo the way i did, but I never had any doubt that - of all the female characters in the cast - Rizzo would be the one you would call to help you move the body.
I only wanted and aimed to be like Rizzo, and largely succeeded.
Bartender who sleeps with whomever the hell she wants , however the hell she wants, but is particular and discriminating in a seemingly algorithmic way. She never lets them stay the night, she never sees them more than once, and she isn't looking for anyone with white knight tendencies.
Also, she has managed her money like an investment banker and will one day retire and collect rent from everyone else in town.
It is really upsetting to me that I don't know what this is describing.
No explaining why you didn't act before, why you behaved before, what you know now that you didn't know then, no justification, nothing.
"I was dead fucking wrong when I said/did X, and I am so sorry for my behavior."
Expect nothing in response, as you shouldn't for any apology. To be clear, that is what the * is about up there. This is all true for any apology you give, and if you can't give it utterly and completely unqualified, you aren't apologizing. You may be initiating a meaningful discussion on the topic, but you aren't apologizing.
If you can't give an unqualified apology for the contexts you describe, don't initiate a discussion unless the one you offended initiates it. And if the one you offended does initiate a discussion, I still strongly recommend the unqualified apology.
I'm an apologist, it would appear.