Yesterday, in a New Jersey rest stop, someone had vandalized the bathroom stall with " I love toast" and a drawing of a piece of toast. I re-vandalized it to "I love the-toast.net". I will miss this place!! Living on in the Clara Barton!

It may be a fringe opinion, but you are correct. What LW describes (tossing, etc) is not a situation where I would take the cat AWAY from it's owner, but after a year, if the cat is happier, it stays with LW1.

My sister owned a cat in a situation where she couldn't keep it, so it went to live with my mom. A few years later, she tried to move it to her new apt and the cat was super traumatized. Eventually, he had to go back to my mom's house bc he was too unhappy. Kitty may be more adaptable than my sister's cat was, maybe she would be fine, but it's not unreasonable to take their feelings into consideration.

But really, you are choosing between hurting yourself/hurting Kitty and hurting FMR . Yeah, maybe holding her too long or tossing her isn't abuse, but Kitty's quality of life is better when she lives with LW1, and that should be considered also. LW1, keep Kitty!!