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13 years ago @ Shayon's Labyrinth! - Taking a break from th... · 0 replies · +1 points

Interesting... 'heart warming', eh? Lolz. Good to know, though :-p

14 years ago @ Shayon's Labyrinth! - Storms Never Last · 0 replies · +1 points

Erm...didn't really get you.

14 years ago @ Shayon's Labyrinth! - Are you Friends with y... · 0 replies · +1 points

Umm... I am not sure whether "he remains the one she loves/connects to most," but I do realize that more than anything, it is the care she has for Rajiv, that makes it very difficult for her to cut away from his life.

14 years ago @ Shayon's Labyrinth! - Are you Friends with y... · 1 reply · +1 points

While I maintain that sexual monogamy is the ultimate test for one's love, but in the process of expressing the same, it is also important that we do not end up subscribing to the idea of polygamy, in the process. At least, that is how I feel.

As for relationships breaking apart over one single instance of "physical contact" with the other, it is simply the prerogative of the stakeholders concerned, to decide whether to choose to live with it, or move on.

Deception...how would you define deception? To some, the very act of getting physically intimate with the other is deception. To some, not confessing the same, immediately, is deception. To some, not admitting the same after asked for, is deception. Whereas, to some, the feeling of romantic love for someone else, is deception. It is highly subjective and too strong a word, don't you think?

14 years ago @ Shayon's Labyrinth! - Storms Never Last · 0 replies · +1 points

Good to know that you liked it, Cathy... Thanks.

14 years ago @ Shayon's Labyrinth! - Are you Friends with y... · 0 replies · +1 points

My thoughts and beliefs say, it is the emotions that matter the most, somehow. Even if someone's got physical relations with the other, it is the emotions behind that relationship that I care for, more than just the physical relation itself.

14 years ago @ Shayon's Labyrinth! - Taking a break from th... · 0 replies · +1 points

Hahaha! But then, how do you decide how much of a wait is 'rightful'? ;-)

14 years ago @ Shayon's Labyrinth! - My Head Bows Low · 0 replies · +1 points

Ahem...you think so? Thank you!

14 years ago @ Shayon's Labyrinth! - Are you Friends with y... · 0 replies · +1 points

I will add something to that, I guess.

I do not now if you had read this quote that I had shared on this blog, a while ago, but I shall put it up again...
"Such is the inconsistency of real love, that it is always awake to suspicion, however unreasonable; always requiring new assurances from the object of its interest."

I think, if you love someone, and be with that person for a while, you start knowing that person, you start gauging that person's feelings and emotions. You know how that person reacts to situations. In this case, when you are friends with your ex, your partner also understand the kind of emotions that you are going through. It becomes your own job to make your partner feel secured, feel safe. The onus starts putting up right onto you. And in case you do feel 'guilty' even a single one percent, for being friends with your ex, I think it's better you make a choice. And once you make a choice, leave everything else behind and guard your choice with all your heart, mind and soul.

That's what I think.

14 years ago @ Shayon's Labyrinth! - Are you Friends with y... · 0 replies · +1 points

Ahem... 3 things I think I did not manage to convey properly, out of this post.

1. "if she has actually decided that she does not want a life with him"
It was not that she did not want a life with him, it is rather that she was not able to have a life with him. And that too only because Rajiv said marriage was never a part of his plans. When would that be, he had no clue. Will it surely be, he had no clue about that either. And Tamanna did not have the time to spare.

2. "she should just shut up n not crib about not having a loving man in her life"
She had never cribbed about not having a man in her life to love her. Rather she knows that Navneet loves her too, and so does she. It is just that, despite everything, she still finds it difficult not to stay in touch with Rajiv.

3. "it is possible to be friends with the ex"
The question that I asked, with this post, was whether it is possible to be friends with your partner's ex, and not your ex :-)

I am hoping that the idea is clearer, now :-p

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