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(But seriously, you're the best, Mallory; I'm going to miss you and everything Toast terribly! Thanks so much for everything, Misandrist-in-Chief)
*responds with gif because verklempt*
ETA: wow, embedding that gif was a STRUGGLE in a long line of 2016 struggles!
At least, that's what I'm telling myself. My situation has some parallels to yours: next week I'm leaving the country that's been my home for 3 years (for the greater Seattle area - small world!), leaving behind one of the most important people in my life - my own roommate/heterosexual life partner - perhaps forever. Add to that all the recent horrible events in the world, the shuttering of The Toast, and a complete re-think of my entire life, I'm coping but *just* coping.
I think people generally undervalue the tremendous importance of close, supportive domestic relationships that aren't built on romantic love or kinship ties. You built a life with your dear friend, so what's coming is like a divorce or breakup without the bad feelings. On the other hand, your heterosexual life partner will still be your friend even when she's in NYC. She's not out of your life, just far away. It still sucks - believe me! - but change, even in foundational relationships, is inevitable. It's not the end for the two of you.
Internet hugs if you want them!