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7 years ago @ The Toast - A note on The Toast · 0 replies · +30 points
7 years ago @ The Toast - A note on The Toast · 1 reply · +13 points
7 years ago @ The Toast - A note on The Toast · 0 replies · +22 points
7 years ago @ The Toast - A note on The Toast · 10 replies · +297 points
7 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +3 points
BUT STOP THE PRESSES. Another Toastie in Greene County?! Which district are you in?
7 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 1 reply · +2 points
I am not on the Toastie slack!! remind me of who I email to get in and I will finally do it? I have been putting it off as a method of denial of The End of The Toast.
7 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +14 points
Exactly what I would have done were it not behavior unbecoming of a candidate
7 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +77 points
7 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 13 replies · +51 points
I was at this event - you see me and my baby at one point - and the candidate has always been nice and supportive to me. But I know how he really feels - Crystal is the same age as me, we have a baby the same age. I'm just a nice young girl with a baby, and he didn't have the balls to stand up and say otherwise. I spent the rest of the night telling people who asked me about my campaign not to take me seriously because I'm just a nice young girl with a baby.
FUCK THIS WORLD
7 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 2 replies · +10 points
And I have a question for you about miscarriage tact... So stop reading if you don't want to deal with it today!
Okay. So. I have a good friend from high school that I keep in touch with through Facebook. We were very close, but through physical distance and the intervening years we have drifted apart. Some time ago, she posted RE National Miscarriage Day that she had lost a child. I was shocked - I didn't know that she was pregnant, and I had just had a baby and was very sad for her. I didn't know what to say, though, as I'm an atheist and she's not religious and I think all the "it's X's plan" and those types of platitudes are ABSOLUTE BULLSHIT so I didn't say anything for a couple of weeks. But she was continuously in my thoughts until one day in class we were talking about the laws of thermodynamics. That made me think of her and her baby, so I sent her a message apologizing for not saying something sooner and that the only thing I could think of was that matter and energy cannot be created or destroyed, so her baby has always been with her and always will be, that I love her, I'm here for her, etc. She wrote back a very kind letter saying she really appreciated the sentiment and that it had been a comfort to her; especially because I had written to her on what was her daughter's due date. She further told me that she had planned to name the baby my high school nickname (I'm assuming because she liked the name, not after me, we're not that close!) and that she really enjoyed seeing all the pictures of my daughter.
So here's my question - that date is coming around again. I want to reach out again and say that I still think of her and her daughter and that I hope she's finding comfort and peace on what has to be a really difficult day. Is this butting in where I don't belong? I have read about others who have dealt with miscarriage and stillbirth, and they feel like their children have been forgotten by everyone else. I don't want my friend to feel like that, but I also don't want to intrude on a private grief since we are not that close.
I'm sorry if this is terribly rude. No one else I know has spoken publicly about personal miscarriage or stillbirth, so I don't know where else to turn for guidance.