gdp's Comments

Hooking Up Smart : The Complex Psychology of STD Transmission

Wed, 28 Apr 2010 19:58:31 +0000

Robin, It's not really your intelligence that I question, but your credulity. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you would pass my radar. I have met one girl who got herpes much like you did, and I had no clue until she told me. Girls definitely pick up the narcissistic vibe, that's one of the reasons I do so well. The joys of female psychology. They don't however have the resources to know how promiscuous I am. With so many hook ups outside of their social network, and rationalization being what it is, most girls probably assume a few girls per year at most. Though I do meet your definition of promiscuous. As far as my LTR potential, girls know that I'm highly educated, come from a good family, and I love kids. I'm responsible with money and based on my previous achievements, I probably have a good future ahead of me. On paper, I look like a great husband. I don't know what jaded opinion you think I have of women. Women are products of their evolutionary history, just like men. It's just that my understanding of women prevents me from wanting to marry them. The perfect wife post was more of a joke. A woman would have to be impossibly perfect to get me to marry her in this environment. I may someday settle into a lifelong relationship or marry if laws change enough to make it a favorable proposition for a high-earning man. Did a woman with herpes malign MY LTR potential? My recent post The Perfect Mistress

Hooking Up Smart : It's About Time: The New Reverse Double Standard

Wed, 28 Apr 2010 19:40:44 +0000

I'm hesitant to buy into it until girls actually start changing their behavior. It's game 101 to ignore what women say, and pay attention to what they actually do. Girls may claim they don't want players, but I'll bet money that if you observe them in the field, most of those women will go after players over nice guys. Players still won't be the choice for LTRs, except for the top girls who think they can actually keep him around. My recent post The Perfect Mistress

Hooking Up Smart : The Complex Psychology of STD Transmission

Wed, 28 Apr 2010 12:15:34 +0000

Women aren't nearly as smart (or beautiful) as they think they are. I never claimed women didn't know that I was promiscuous, only that they don't know the extent of my promiscuity. It's hard to gauge what my assessment of your cleanliness would be, but based on what you've written, I would assume you were filthy and work from there. If you were promiscuous when you were younger, it would either leave an indelible scar on your psyche or you have a masculine personality that would automatically put you in the dirty category. If you work in law or business, I would assume you were slutty. To me, middle middle class in a professional environment = normal. None of this would make me think you were a bad person, just not attractive for a long-term relationship. My recent post The Perfect Mistress

Hooking Up Smart : The Complex Psychology of STD Transmission

Mon, 26 Apr 2010 21:02:16 +0000

I'm being very honest. Hiding behind my online pseudonym, I can unload a ton of baggage. If you read my blog, I'm not just blogging about womanizing, but also revealing how I lost my first love. I may be over the top at times, but that really is my life. The boring parts are missing because, well, they're boring. My recent post The Perfect Wife

Hooking Up Smart : The Complex Psychology of STD Transmission

Mon, 26 Apr 2010 20:59:20 +0000

I'm actually not trying to shock. The young women who read your blog would probably benefit from knowing that there are men like me around. Define the perfect husband. It's different for every woman. My recent post The Perfect Wife

Hooking Up Smart : The Complex Psychology of STD Transmission

Mon, 26 Apr 2010 20:55:44 +0000

I second that suggestion. I've tried the female condom and it was actually much better. It is very awkward, but the sensation is noticeably better than with any condom. My recent post The Perfect Wife

Hooking Up Smart : The Complex Psychology of STD Transmission

Mon, 26 Apr 2010 17:47:38 +0000

The women I sleep with don't know how promiscuous I am. The social circles I work my way through are fragmented enough that women rarely know of more than one or two other girls I've been with, and those girls usually seem clean enough that the new one doesn't think there's much of a risk. The fact that there are two other large universities nearby aids me in hiding girls from each other. Most of the women I have sex with are graduate students, a relatively low risk population. Whenever I sleep with regular girls, I use a condom. My recent post The Perfect Wife

Hooking Up Smart : The Complex Psychology of STD Transmission

Mon, 26 Apr 2010 13:22:20 +0000

Herpes is probably my biggest fear and I'm not the type to be neurotic at all. I'm not afraid of dying. I love public speaking. But I hook-up with so many random girls that I'm surprised I haven't contracted anything yet. I'm usually safe, but I go without a condom when I feel a girl is "clean". Bad idea? Maybe, but sometimes I'd rather masturbate than have sex with a condom. I'll use a condom with all the girls I hook up with this summer and get tested when I get back in the country and before I start having sex with any of my regulars again. My recent post The Perfect Wife

Hooking Up Smart : The Backlash Against Hooking Up - Is it Real?

Thu, 22 Apr 2010 17:01:34 +0000

No you didn't. A man who can't have emotionless sex is not a man. Men aren't jaded by dozens of random hookups. We are however jaded if we go through too many break ups with girls we were emotionally invested in. My recent post Girls need to stop doing these things

Hooking Up Smart : The Backlash Against Hooking Up - Is it Real?

Thu, 22 Apr 2010 15:05:19 +0000

I'll post about this soon. Let women know how men know these things.

Hooking Up Smart : The Backlash Against Hooking Up - Is it Real?

Thu, 22 Apr 2010 10:11:37 +0000

A girl with a high number is usually jaded. Constant pump and dumps leave their toll on a woman. If a woman seems jaded to me, I assume her number is either too high or she has other incidents in her history that have damaged her beyond LTR potential. I'm not at Vanderbilt but I am at an equally douchy school. My IP would give me away easily... My recent post Girls need to stop doing these things

Hooking Up Smart : The Backlash Against Hooking Up - Is it Real?

Wed, 21 Apr 2010 23:10:18 +0000

She has stood up and sworn off random hooking up. She used to do it... That's it she's done. Once a girl has had a dozen random guys, she's no longer LTR material. No amount of playing sweet girl is going to change that. Maybe it's culture, maybe it's evolutionary psychology, but either way, men do not want to commit to girls who have been around the block, no matter how chaste they play now. This may help teenage girls who have yet to experience hookup culture from making the same mistakes, but the girls who have already been through it are spent. BTW, that picture reminds me why I hate the undergrads at this school. My recent post Girls need to stop doing these things

Hooking Up Smart : About

Tue, 20 Apr 2010 19:50:38 +0000

What firm(s) did you work for in strategy consulting? Would you still advise someone to pursue this career path? My recent post Puja – Dana Pt. 2

Hooking Up Smart : Duke Gets It Wrong Again, Invites Injustice

Tue, 20 Apr 2010 12:23:52 +0000

Thank you. Maybe the fact that I reveal my soft underbelly keeps you from hating my blog. Most game bloggers like Roissy never show any signs of weakness, but in between posts on my conquests, I'm discussing my first love. All men have these experiences, but game bloggers usually don't reveal it. Even Roissy has cried over a woman. My recent post Puja – Dana Pt. 2

Hooking Up Smart : 10 Ways to Get Inside His Head

Tue, 20 Apr 2010 12:11:50 +0000

A girl definitely shouldn't be tough during our first meeting. That's a huge red flag that she's either too manly, or has been hurt too many times. She should be confident without being tough. Julia Roberts is a good example. As for her vulnerability, you're right, it should come a bit later. But if it hasn't been revealed either before or immediately after I have sex with a girl, I assume she's not LTR material. I actually like that girl a lot and would consider making her #1, but the fact that she plays games is a huge strike against her. In her case, she should have shown me her vulnerability earlier and let me know that she was enthusiastic about us. My recent post Puja – Dana Pt. 2

Hooking Up Smart : What Women Really Love About Bad Boys

Tue, 20 Apr 2010 11:55:06 +0000

I'm not really sure. My emotions are normally very weak, but psycho chicks manage to make me feel strongly. Being with a psycho chick gives me the opportunity to experience emotions that I otherwise would not have.

Hooking Up Smart : 10 Ways to Get Inside His Head

Mon, 19 Apr 2010 22:55:25 +0000

2 & 5 are the only ones I don't agree with. 2 - Men are attracted to a certain level of vulnerability in a girl. It shouldn't be immediately obvious, but she needs to show me her weak side for me to even consider her for a LTR. 5 - Girls who date around are a huge turn off. Girls can date around as much as guys can, but it hits a primitive trigger in a man's mind that tells him that girl isn't LTR material. We can argue all day about double standards, but at the end of the day, men will still judge women by this. My recent post Puja – Dana Pt. 2

Hooking Up Smart : Duke Gets It Wrong Again, Invites Injustice

Mon, 19 Apr 2010 22:47:47 +0000

Duke has done a superb job making men feel like 2nd class citizens. I wonder how they would apply this to incidents that occur off of campus. The power differential part is the most worrying to me. My recent post Puja – Dana Pt. 2

Hooking Up Smart : What Women Really Love About Bad Boys

Mon, 19 Apr 2010 22:40:23 +0000

That would explain the corollary of Bad Boy susceptibility: Why do men always seem to go for psycho b*tches? Guys say they hate drama, but they always go back for more. Dopamine! Wow. I was hoping you would get to this as I was reading the first part. I'm constantly cycling through different girls, but I absolutely love the psycho chicks. That emotional roller coaster is more satisfying than random sex. My recent post Puja – Dana Pt. 2