Wow this is quite an excellent article. Its amazing I was just thinking about this subject and have done some writing on it the past few days (http://tinyurl.com/7d3t4kg) on my personal blog (http://christiandatingames.wordpress.com/).

I think this is a growing problem with the few girls who actually do remain pure until marriage. Because its such a hard fought battle, pride gets in the way and sex becomes dirty and evil. I heard the story of one guy who said he could count on one hand the number of times he and his wife (a virgin at marriage) had undressed together because she was so insecure about her sexuality. However, another story was more encouraging. The wife realizing the importance for sexual intimacy in marriage determined to get herself in the mood every single day for her husband rather than waiting for the romance and perfection that waiting often misleads girls into expecting. To her surprise he started getting her flowers, taking her out more, praising her beauty, all the romantic things she had dreamed of. I've seen so many young couples go into marriage in their late teens or early twenties expecting a fairy tale. Its not. Its messy. Its sexual. Its real life.

Great blog overall by the way. I've just started reading but looks good so far!

I have to admit I've been in the perfect relationship once. We had chemistry and communication. Everything. And for the first time I actually thought I would give up my single ways and settle down - in fact I didn't even consider it settling - I was happy to stop dating around because I didn't want another woman. Oddly though she didn't want this. She tried to but couldn't. She was in love with me but feared commitment. Its odd but this seems to be a growing trend in relationships. Men are ready for something more long term but the women can't grasp commitment - its too scary. Perhaps past hurts or parent's failed marriages. The one good thing that comes from those experiences that I've seen is that you now have a standard on which to base the future. Not that you should constantly compare but you can at least say "I know what perfection in relationships is like and I will not settle for something just because I want to feel wanted".
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This sounds a lot like the female version of some of the stories in books like The Game or They Don't Serve Beer in Hell. Great story. How has that impacted your life today since I'm guessing this happened in your 20's which are now passed.

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