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Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Sat, 14 Jan 2012 01:32:29 +0000

Okay I guess i needed to clarify what i meant by womanizers. I'm using the term in the general sense that men like, look, flirt and are tempted by women whether they are in a committed relationship or not and the guys that don't are gay because they do the same but its in reference to other men. Don't deduce the fact that a man who's with one woman is gay ... That makes absolutely no sense. But don't think that just because he's in a relationship/marriage that he doesn't have a wandering eye. That's simply what i'm saying. I'm not using Webster's ... Sorry

Single Black Male : The Truth About New York: How Big City Dating "Corrupts" Single Men

Fri, 13 Jan 2012 22:08:12 +0000

I was waiting for the brothas to drop knowledge

Single Black Male : The Truth About New York: How Big City Dating "Corrupts" Single Men

Fri, 13 Jan 2012 22:00:37 +0000

Mmmmmmhhhh. +10

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 20:50:44 +0000

2.) I'm not thinking about that study. I haven't mentioned it once. 3.) That isn't surprising. Monogamy itself is a struggle for men. Some hide/supress it better than others. Don't think u've found a unicorn.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 20:45:46 +0000

LOL at your name tho. I digs it.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 20:20:06 +0000

If you've followed my comments, you might be a bit o_O at how they vary. First, as a man ... I defend men instinctively (not justify). So, my immediate reaction isn't to side with the women of today and judge/condemn/demean men's frame of thought, despite it's susceptibility to be flawed, but I am here to explain why we are where we are today and maybe hope to give some understanding. The more you understand, the better you may be able to correct our actions or mindset. Equip yourself. Secondly, as a man that loves women. I love women. Period. Whatever that means to you, it is what it is. Sue me. Third of all, my Idea of what I want my marriage to look like is FARRR different from the reality of it that I see everyday. My views on marriage in general are pretty cynical/realistic, but I plan to have an optimistic marriage despite all of the factors that may impede that process. Fourth, fellas though that like may have boosted your self-esteem today ... It won't get you any extra p*ssy tonight. I'm just sayin. I see you tho. Lol.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 20:00:30 +0000

@Kat That was a joke ... Sorry u didn't find it funny -___- @Mina Yes men are womanizers... Men like woman and the ones that don't are obviously gay. What men do with their womanizing ways is where in lies the rub. And i didn't say all women become complacent. And no one hurt me :-) But honestly how can one thing so positive about marriage when the positivity in marriage is marred with divorce. My Idea of what I want my marriage to look like is FARRR different from the reality of it that I see everyday. My views on marriage in general are pretty cynical/realistic, but I plan to have an optimistic marriage despite all of the factors that impede that process.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 19:44:48 +0000

Kat, Hush!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Re-read the last 2 paragraphs in case u missed it. I don't necessarily agree with the idea of a non-monogamous marriage, but i do understand the study and the struggle behind it.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 19:37:47 +0000

LOL

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 17:53:31 +0000

I resent that word "coddling".

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 17:18:47 +0000

Happens Everyday B.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 16:22:47 +0000

You aren't.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 16:15:39 +0000

"If you have four wives, explain how you will stop each of them them from wanting children. You may have 12 children or more." Pull out. "What about having to deal with 4 women everyday all day....I think you didn't comment on that part of my comment, perhaps on purpose." First, it wouldn't be all day. I don't have time. Secondly, I rule over my house, so those women problems would be circumvented. But all in all, i'm being a bit facetious because no way in hell can a woman revert back to the days of dependency. With that being said, of course I know why women are they way they are and why monogamy is the only way for a marriage to remain unhinged, personal and sacred. But i also understand the premise of this article and so do ya and if you don't accept it. I understand and don't blame you. Because through all the BS, i want to be with a woman and not want to be with any other woman. Hopefully, i one day come across said woman.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 15:41:36 +0000

I agree with guys being complacent as well, but we ain't talkin bout us in this scenario. Lol. "if you no longer want to do that then cool bounce and be single and sleeping with whoevere,whenever, where ever." If only it were that easy.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 15:38:49 +0000

Dayum ... I feel like i just tuned into a Lifetime episode. Despite you being over 30 and what-not, the well hasn't run dry just yet. Sh*t, i'm 26 and have definitely found women 30+ not only attractive, but also mate-worthy. It's pretty easy to get down on yourself and give up hope, but self-confidence/esteem is derived from within. Do whatever you gotta do to get back on your own squadron. Get a make-over, work-out for real for real, volunteer in the community, do some artsy/hobby-ish type stuff, whatever. Not only will you gain a more sense of self, but you're also opening yourself up to a more favorable overall situation.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 15:29:17 +0000

Not entirely sure on that, but don't get it twisted ... Cats didn't only have wives now, they had additional moves too. Your claim is inaccurate.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 15:19:28 +0000

I think the cats with lesser bread had lesser wives. But trust there was some satisfaction derived out of said situation. I think the men enjoyed the situation. I think the women wanted more tho, thus bringing us up to today. And yeah, i'd give my money to my family if i didn't have to worry about my wife spending it on a new expensive azz bag/purse. Once the family starts, my investments go into the family. I have no problem with that. I'd rather keep the money in house than anything. But at the same time I wouldn't be having kids on kids on kids either.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 14:53:07 +0000

I'll start off by saying, I want a house with a white picket fence, children, a beautiful, complementary wife ~~and a mistress ... My bad~~. The religious argument doesn't work here. The evolution of human beings mindset in terms of monogamy doesn't work here, because men are continuing to fail and low key women are quietly failing also. The # of cheating partners or partners who have cheated (at least once) is definitely evening out. I think the Doctor is effectively explaining why women shouldn't get all bent out of shape with the natural inclination of a man's psyche in relation to physical displacement. It's clear marriage these days isn't working. Why? Guys are womanizers, every single last one of them (unless they're gay). Women become complacent inside marriage and kinda be on some fcuk sh*t just because (decreased intimacy, mental compartmentalizing, etc.). So since all this is on the decline, it's pretty obvious something needs to change? Ladies, what say you? How bout ya just revert back to the olden days why dont you? :-) Please!

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 14:33:01 +0000

Solomon had helly wives doe and he was the wisest of them all. How can one not look up to him.

Single Black Male : The Key to a Happy and Successful Relationship: Let Your Man Cheat

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 14:30:23 +0000

"Why does the woman have to change her beliefs, wants and desires but the men can't?" I think u have that wrong. Men haven't changed; Ya want us to change ~~but we can't~~. The women have changed, but we don't want ya to change. Go back to the days where women were okay with the husband having many.