en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/3899319 Comments by TheTravelingType http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/02/28/dope-memories-5-things-i-miss-about-the-good-old-days/#IDComment305013527 Great post! What I miss are Fat Albert Cartoons, my family all getting along and spending time together, penny candy, and riding my bike up and down the block cause that's as far as my mom would let me and my little brother ride. Thu, 1 Mar 2012 00:31:53 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/02/28/dope-memories-5-things-i-miss-about-the-good-old-days/#IDComment305013527 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/02/28/welcome-to-post-racial-america-is-black-history-month-obsolete/#IDComment305007259 Great article! Thu, 1 Mar 2012 00:23:41 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/02/28/welcome-to-post-racial-america-is-black-history-month-obsolete/#IDComment305007259 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269898381 Love a good independent film. Added to Netflix. Cant wait to see it! Fri, 20 Jan 2012 21:17:45 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269898381 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269844374 Wow, that is amazing. What an honor. Fri, 20 Jan 2012 19:50:38 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269844374 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269800881 Lastly, I wanted to reference this whole they won't make anymore films for or about us sounds like bull and part of me feels its mostly propaganda <--i think thats the word I should use but correct me if I am wrong. Historically films based on any historical matters don't do as well in the box office. I mean lets just face the facts I just hopped off of IMDB and the highest grossing US film was Avatar (760 mil) and you did'nt see anything with any sort of historical reference on the list until Passion of The Christ which was number 16 (370 mil). Amistad only did 44 mil and Remember The Titans 115 mil. In the scheme of things we are minorities and so the numbers will reflect that and thats fine. We won't become irrelevant b/c we would never allow it. But I am not expecting any whopping numbers in the box office b/c this is geared toward us an history buffs and truth be told when most ppl go to the theater they just want an enjoyable time and to leave their realities behind them. Fri, 20 Jan 2012 18:40:59 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269800881 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269794983 Furthermore, yes I plan on seeing it for a number of reasons one I am descendant of a Tuskegee Airman so it holds a special meaning for me. Two I was raised that you support your own kind cause if you don't who will. And yes this sometimes means supporting a product that might not be up to par yet. But before anyone huffs and puffs. Most start up companies have limited funds and that beginning support is crucial to help them reach the next level. I have had a start up its rough. Everyone wants on board when you are on top but those beginning stages (long sigh) are tough with a capital T. Will I keep supporting someone that places out an inferioir product cause their black?? Heck no, but I will count myself as one of their beginning supporters it will be up to them after that to maintain my business. C, I usually enjoy historical movies and these dumb on top of dumb movies are starting to take over and while I enjoy a good laugh something thought provoking would be a breathe of fresh air. Fri, 20 Jan 2012 18:32:17 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269794983 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269788129 Well I am just gone go ahead and say it. I am disappointed to see this article. I felt the tone was sort of negative overall and even tho I do think there was attempts to make it slightly hopeful it just rubs me wrong when we as black ppl always find the negative in anything black. Personally I would of rather seen something positive and then after you see it giving your opinion. Yes I do think its almost a cancer in our culture to expect the worse from ourselves. What I hate most is if someone goes into a small business owned by any other race and its bad service or product they blame those business owners and say they really need to get their sh*t together. But don't let it be black owned cause it spurs a whole other type conversation on the state of our race why we cant do nothing right and on and on and on. That frustrates me to no end. Fri, 20 Jan 2012 18:21:27 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269788129 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269729368 "If Smart people don't support smart things, the stupid shall inherit the earth. " Thank you for saying this. I completely agree. Fri, 20 Jan 2012 16:50:51 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269729368 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269717592 I am going to actually agree with you on the george lucas comments (who are we really making this money for??) and the pressure black ppl put on you to go see it and the numbers thing. Sometimes I think we forget we are a minority which means even if we all see a movie its only a small percentage of the total number of movie goers. While I will be making a full comment further down and yes I will be going to see it b/c as a descendent I do feel a certain obligation I wanted to do a short co-sign to some of what you said. Fri, 20 Jan 2012 16:32:13 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/20/red-tails-expecting-the-worst-or-supporting-the-best/#IDComment269717592 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/19/stress-him-out/#IDComment268913300 I agree. But it took me a long long time to get to that point. And even now when I go home I tone myself down cause I get tired of the same old questions about how much I have changed when in all reality they just never really knew me they knew the me I showed them. Nor am I condoning my behavior but I wasn't very strong in my character as you seem to be. A flaw I admit to having. Thu, 19 Jan 2012 19:13:01 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/19/stress-him-out/#IDComment268913300 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/19/stress-him-out/#IDComment268860021 Excellent, excellent post!!! " Otherwise, we’ll both be unhappy when you “change.” But technically, you never changed. All you really did was become your self after the guarantee of commitment…well damn…it’s nice to finally meet you." That right there spoke volumes to me. I have always felt that "well I can't be myself" sort of mentality. Which as an adult really doesn't make sense but it has been a consequence of being dfft or not fitting the typical "black" mold. Whatever that may be. Anywho I grew up repressing so many unique things about myself to prevent being judged by my ppl and it wasn't until I got out of my home town went to college that I was able to start expressing myself freely. I know for me I rarely feel that I can be "myself" when I date black men I usually test a few things like playing some avril lavigne to see what sort of reaction I get but its usually negative. I am dating a french guy now and this honestly is the most comfortable I have ever been. I feel like he just accepts me for me. I can listen to avril lavigne then gucci without scorn. Its so freeing. Thu, 19 Jan 2012 17:58:07 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/19/stress-him-out/#IDComment268860021 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/13/the-truth-about-new-york-how-big-city-dating-corrupts-single-black-men/#IDComment263572156 Teflon what you just said is real. Folks want what they cant have. Fri, 13 Jan 2012 22:39:50 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/13/the-truth-about-new-york-how-big-city-dating-corrupts-single-black-men/#IDComment263572156 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/13/the-truth-about-new-york-how-big-city-dating-corrupts-single-black-men/#IDComment263339481 Good article. While I agree dating in larger cities is probably easier for guys I personally am not phased. I have met plenty of guys here that are very frustrated because even though they been winning when it comes to a quick lay now that they are ready to settle down its a whole other ball game. Numbers aren't as fun if you are not meeting quality compatible people. You can scream 15 to 1 ratios but how many of those 15 do you think you will really want to settle down with?? When you get to the point where you are ready to settle down these sort of things hold no weight. Finding a compatible mate takes on a whole other perspective. Fri, 13 Jan 2012 17:20:57 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/13/the-truth-about-new-york-how-big-city-dating-corrupts-single-black-men/#IDComment263339481 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/13/the-truth-about-new-york-how-big-city-dating-corrupts-single-black-men/#IDComment263305936 What are you doing to spark my interest and keep me wanting to learn more about you. I work the same if not more hours than you, have the same # of degrees and have a stable set of friends. I agree with this right here. You have to know you set yourself apart. Fri, 13 Jan 2012 16:35:13 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/13/the-truth-about-new-york-how-big-city-dating-corrupts-single-black-men/#IDComment263305936 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/13/the-truth-about-new-york-how-big-city-dating-corrupts-single-black-men/#IDComment263284055 I actually have to agree with you. Flirting is an art that is very under used by women. Fri, 13 Jan 2012 16:03:03 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/13/the-truth-about-new-york-how-big-city-dating-corrupts-single-black-men/#IDComment263284055 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/12/let-your-man-cheat/#IDComment262418015 Absolutely. Thu, 12 Jan 2012 17:27:18 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/12/let-your-man-cheat/#IDComment262418015 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/12/let-your-man-cheat/#IDComment262416972 I don't think their false I think they are real. But what me and many woman have said on here is if you know you can't keep your dang a lang at home then let a woman know that. Be upfront. Personally I don't think its the physical act of cheating but the sneaking and lying that hurt the other party most. That and the double standard. If you wanna open things up that may be up for discussion. But you will never know till you approach the subject. Thu, 12 Jan 2012 17:25:54 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/12/let-your-man-cheat/#IDComment262416972 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/12/let-your-man-cheat/#IDComment262409073 Chunk I am pretty much agreeing with you so instead of reiterating it later on Imma just co-sign. I am on team if you can I can. I can live with you needing or wanting to sleep with this or that cutie just as long as thats a two way street. One offs keep to your self. Regulars I need to meet. Your last paragraph is the real struggle. Thu, 12 Jan 2012 17:13:08 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/12/let-your-man-cheat/#IDComment262409073 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/12/let-your-man-cheat/#IDComment262392592 Gia there is more out there. I promise you that. Figure out what you want first and then go from there. It doesn't matter that you may only get hit on every now and then that does not mean that those guys are your only options. I am saying this from experience. I used to feel similar to you and I kept unreliable men in my life and then one day things got so bad I looked in the mirror and said I would rather be alone than keep a man that makes me feel bad about myself. And I decided that if a guy couldn't hit the bare minimum such as doing what he saying he gone do, treating me with respect, taking me out then he wasn't worth my time. And my dating life has been been like nite and day ever since. You have to be able to say no. I promise guys respect you more for it. The ones that don't can go kick rocks anyway. Also make sure you expanding your horizons. There are Meetup groups where I have met wonderful people, internet dating is viable and real option. Its too early in the game to throw down your card. It's time to strap up your boots and make real changes. I wish you the best of luck girl. Thu, 12 Jan 2012 16:45:47 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/12/let-your-man-cheat/#IDComment262392592 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/06/when-keeping-it-real-goes-wrong-relationship-edition/#IDComment256947772 So if he ask me have I ever had one I considered too big. I'm suppose to be like. No but maybe you will be the one to knock my socks off. <<---is that right? just trying to make sure I understand. Cause I was thinking he really wanted to know but now I'm thinking d*mn I completely missed on that one. Fri, 6 Jan 2012 17:31:25 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/01/06/when-keeping-it-real-goes-wrong-relationship-edition/#IDComment256947772