Well, then you have the other side of the coin which is APs saying, "No no we're the lucky ones." "Luck" has nothing to do with adoption. Adoption occurs because tragedy came first. Period.
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Exactly. "yeah yeah so great to hear your story" is NOT the solution. Real people, real feelings, and real lives get hurt in the process.

If people want to "learn" from our experiences, show the money. Hire us as experts. Give us book deals, professional opportunities, and credibility as experts.

But nope. When an adoptive parent claims adoptive parenting, the mainstream says, "Oh, that's why! He/She knows from experience."

When an adoptee claims adoptee experience, the mainstream says, "Shut up and be glad you weren't aborted or left to die. Lots of kids have far worse parents and would be thrilled to be as lucky as you. You're so spoiled you have no idea what real hardship would be. If you hadn't been adopted, you wouldn't have education. Maybe someday you'll grow up and learn to be an adult."

There IS something unique about adoptees and adoptees' stories that triggers, as you say, responding to emotion and not the words on the page. I can't think of a single other experience that is dismissed in the same way. Yes, of course, marginalization and discrimination happen across the board. Yes, certain populations (like the disabled or those with dementia) are infantilized...but not in the same way.

For some adoptees, they are still able to share and receive benefits from doing so. I think most of us did, initially. But after a while (remember, adoption/abandonment is lifelong and does not end at age 18), first responses are not enough.
My recent post Dear Adoptive Parents who leave comments

But it IS specifically limited to adoptees to not have the right to identity. When we have objective medical evident showing the amount of pain infants feel during circumcision, etc., why would we think that infant and childhood trauma should be anything but, frankly, traumatic? Adoptees are forever the object, forever the passive recipient, and forever the children who must be grateful not to have been aborted, thrown onto the street, or raised to become a slave or prostitute.

It is very easy to say that people should continue to tell the story...when there is no acknowledgment of the heavy burden and cost of doing so. I can't remember who it was, but someone recently (1-2 months ago) posted an article about her child experiencing loss as the daughter of an adoptee. She was almost universally told to grow up, get over herself, and thank God and her adoptive parents for rescuing her. That kind of cost is something we should not wish on anyone.
My recent post The greatest violence

So...first of all. It is refreshing for commenters to be told that they may not tell the author to be grateful (I am assuming). There needs to be some gatekeeping when someone makes herself vulnerable like this.

That said.

*sigh*

I want to like this article. I do.

I want to say yes it speaks truth, it is important, it needs to be heard.

BUT.

As the comments showed, the disenfranchised do not gain a voice by putting their experience into words. We can say the same words until we gasp for oxygen, but people will hear what they want to hear. Is there a point to putting this heartbreak to words when the words become distorted according to readers' personal agenda?

Is there benefit to exposing, opening up, and making this experience visible on an intensely personal level that sets up the probability (almost certainly) of ad hominem attacks and unwanted psychobabble? We all have seen the patronizing comments on similar articles. Grow up, be glad you weren't aborted, be glad, blah blah, Jesus was adopted, too.

I used to think that if we spoke the truth clearly and with enough logic, we could change people's prejudices. Now, I'm not so sure. It seems that opening ourselves up only leads to more objectification, more willful misunderstanding, and more posturing by those who have the least invested into our experiences.

I said in a group (in response to someone saying blood doesn't matter and the only family that matters is chosen family) that it is a human right to know our genetic and medical history. This wasn't even about adoption, and I never brought it up. This was purely hypothetical. I was attacked, belittled, demeaned, and given all kinds of responses that implied I had no idea what I was talking about, and Father Group Leader knew best.

It is never, ever the people without genetic and medical histories who dismiss their importance.

It is never the people with loss who say it doesn't matter.

Do pieces like this help? Does speaking up help? Or does it just perpetuate the cycle?

I want to like this, but right now I can't. I, too, am feeling too vulnerable, too misheard, and too judged. I hope some day that people will be able to shut off their know it all attitudes and have the humility to realize they do not know what they are talking about.

Experience is the best educator, but the casualties are the hundreds of thousands of adoptees who suffer through the ignorance, blindness (willfully chosen blindness), and entitlement. That child will be the loser, just as all of us were losers.

Very well said.
My recent post A moment to grieve

When open adoption (in whatever form) is causing the child (NOT the adoptive parents) more distress, in the long term, than healing--such as biological family members saying hurtful things to the child (kept siblings can say nasty things out of their hurt) or when emotional demands are placed on the child that are not age appropriate.

However, adoptive parents' self-interest in declaring the "distress" should be taken into consideration.
My recent post Dear adoptive parent, I am saddened for your child

At a certain point, hearing these stories over and over again numbs us…but it never should. Where is the pat cliche that adopters are better parents because they are screened while biological parents are not? Where is the reassurance that adoption is a forever family, a beautiful happily ever after? Where is the promise of a better life, an American life?

If a toy caused the death of one child, could that toy company stay in business? Yet adoption continues, despite these tragedies. Where is the justice for the children?
My recent post Dear adoptive parent, I am saddened for your child

You're right, Deanna, that people will only listen to what they want to hear. I experience that so many times when adoptive parents ask me questions they *really* don't want to hear answers for. We have to let people learn for themselves, but what maddens me is the generation after generation of kids who are hurt by ignorant parents' mistakes…the same mistakes made back in 1950 that should not be happening now.
My recent post Adoptee in Exile

Yes.

When I do adoptive parent education, I always, always stress this line.

You may not tell anyone's story but your own.

You may tell how you wanted to have a child, how you went through fertility treatments, and how you wanted to be a parent.

But you may not use adoptive parenthood as a way to write someone else's story.
My recent post Love and loss, adoptee style