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11 years ago @ Lost Daughters - The “What if&rsq... · 0 replies · +6 points

"It was also difficult to hear the dismissive comment, 'Child abuse happens in biological families too,' as if the loss of this little boy is like that of any other child."

I always find that response infuriating. How dare anyone equate bio and adoption, given how adoption is sold as "better than."

I mean, how many women have been convinced to relinquish a child with that promise? That they're being noble and selfless by giving their child to those who can offer it more. And better. A better life--with parents who've been thoroughly vetted. If you want to equate the two, to me, you’re going to have to admit that adoption, like bio, is a gamble.

And I do believe that it is.

But I wonder how many women will relinquish after being told they're giving up their flesh and blood to a crap shoot?

11 years ago @ http://www.adopteerest... - Sometimes, It\'s Not A... · 1 reply · +2 points

I know I deal with issues that are related to adoption. I also deal with issues related to physical, emotional, and sexual abuse.

After finding my mother, though, I was able to finally come to terms with the fact that I'm heavily impacted by an illness that runs in my family: Severe and chronic depression. It wasn't until after I learned that many of the women in my family suffer from it (and that too many have died at their own hand) that I was actually willing to seek treatment for it.

As Ann says, when you're a person who's been subjected to adoption and abuse, etc., where do you even start?

In my opinion, it's like that old proverb. How does a man eat an elephant? One bite at a time. My first bite was finding a good therapist who treats adoptees and their common issues and go forward from there. I think that's all any of us can do.

11 years ago @ http://www.adopteerest... - Do Adoptees Who Fight ... · 0 replies · +3 points

Accusing activists of "playing victim" is just a low-rent silencing technique.

Many adoptees have come to recognize that the system/industry/process of adoption is deeply flawed, and that those flaws affect people's lives negatively. We have chosen to speak out and say, "Hey, this system has been corrupted and it's doing damage--please open your eyes and become part of a solution instead of continuing to be part of the problem!"

Our experiences have informed us to injustice, and because of that, its our RESPONSIBILITY to try to improve things for those who come after us. That's the very definition of activism--and it's what I try to do. I want to help to change the industry so that others don't have to suffer the same kind of trauma/grief I suffered.

Victim mentality, my *ss.

11 years ago @ Lost Daughters - I Am Adopted and Embra... · 0 replies · +1 points

Also, it's very similar to Diana, the Roman goddess of of fertility/childbirth--hunting--the moon.

Interesting!

11 years ago @ Lost Daughters - I Am Adopted and Embra... · 0 replies · +1 points

This is SO interesting.

I never thought about the meaning of Melanie before, but it makes sense, since the root of the name is "melas," which means black or dark. (Think of the word melanin--the pigment that makes our skin and hair darker.)

Just about every word in the English language can be traced back to Latin or Greek. The Latin translation of Deanna is "divine," but I wonder from what root that stems?

It's been a very long time since I took a Latin class.

11 years ago @ http://www.adopteerest... - Why I Am Going to Keep... · 0 replies · +3 points

I can't even imagine. It must be amazing to be raised by unselfish people.

11 years ago @ http://www.adopteerest... - What I Could Have Said... · 0 replies · +2 points

Me, too.

11 years ago @ http://www.adopteerest... - What I Could Have Said... · 2 replies · +12 points

Unfortunately, people who buy children tend to think of them--and treat them--as property.

12 years ago @ http://www.adopteerest... - Deanna\'s Story Part I · 1 reply · +2 points

Open the curtains, open the blinds, open the windows, kick open the doors.

Secrets and lies fester in the dark. They're a filthy infection. Let the light shine in--let it do its healing work!

XOXOX

12 years ago @ http://www.adopteerest... - Deanna\'s Story Part 2 · 1 reply · +1 points

I am on my feet applauding, Susan. Beautifully stated.

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