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13 years ago @ The Declassified Adoptee - Being Adopted on Thank... · 0 replies · +2 points

Ouch....Im sorry, hun.

13 years ago @ The Declassified Adoptee - Giving Adoption the Ad... · 1 reply · +2 points

Oh, I think society gives the act of adoption itself and their adoptive parents the credit when adoptees are uber successful. I myself believe the uber successful adoptees would have been uber successful had they remained in their natural families. Most of their talents are genetic. I believe they are uber successful DESPITE adoption.

13 years ago @ The Declassified Adoptee - What Does \"Acceptance... · 0 replies · +1 points

Yes!! I accept that adoption robbed me of my original identity, my original families and my original birth certificate.

13 years ago @ The Declassified Adoptee - A Quote from What I\'m... · 3 replies · +1 points

I see what you are saying Amanda, I really do. I enjoy fiction, and the writers of those books were not vampires, farmers, sailors or whatever, lol.

I can't put Verrier into the same category, though. While she may tell PARTS of her daughter's story, she is not pretending to BE her daughter. I have no issues with her relaying what psychological difficulties/experiences/feelings/findings adoptees may go through, either, even though I may not agree with some of those experiences/feelings/findings. The main difference for me is that Verrier's book is not a work of fiction. Fessler, Barran & Sollinger's books were also not works of fiction.

I'm sure some people will love the book, but I won't read it BECAUSE she is an ap. I wouldn't read it if she were a first parent, or someone totally unconnected to adoption, either. I feel very strongly about an adoptee controlling the adoptee narrative, no matter how brilliant the writer may be.

Fiction should not be discussed when it comes to changing legislation, (if that is what you meant by activism) just as books about the emotional damage caused by adoption have no place in that discussion. Of course, there are many different types of activism, Im talking about unconditional access to our original birth certificates.

13 years ago @ The Declassified Adoptee - A Quote from What I\'m... · 9 replies · +2 points

I agree. Amanda handles topics in an amazing way.

I could not read a book like this, because it's not authentic. Like "thenatureofkinship" said, I did not read it, so I won't critique it or give my opinion on the book.

There is no way I could read fiction written from the perspective of an adoptee by an adopter. Plenty of REAL stories out there by REAL adoptees, lol. I don't need any more fiction in my life, I'm adopted.

I can't help but think how weird this would be for Christian's kids. It's bad enough when ap's or first parents write about actual things that have happened to an adoptee in real life, such a betrayal, but to have an a p or an f p write about an adoptee from the adoptee's perspective is just creepy to me- even worse than writing about REAL things- like invading their soul. I hope that made sense...

13 years ago @ Lost Daughters - Nature/Nurture/Somethi... · 0 replies · +1 points

Way more nature than nurture for me. You can't fool Mother Nature.

13 years ago @ The Declassified Adoptee - Fifty Shades of What t... · 5 replies · +2 points

I read the first few pages and thought, "Is the author in junior high?" Worst. Crap. Ever. Besides, my idea of "Mom Porn" is having Johnny Depp come to my house, clean my house, make me a drink, rub my back and then get the hell out.

Meh...I'm so used to the "adoptee as entertainment" crap. It's hilarious, really. Even the Facebook "funny" picture being posted lately, of the 2 babies on the couch- one is crying, and the other one has a caption saying, "Dude, Im just kidding, you are not adopted!" - Everyone else in society knows how messed up adoption is, but adoptees are not allowed to acknowledge that fact. We're supposed to be grateful to have had our original identities sealed away by the government. Double standard as usual when it comes to adoptees. It's ok for "authors", soap operas, sitcoms, feature movies or Lifetime TV to show how messed up it is, but we are not supposed to talk about it.

13 years ago @ The Declassified Adoptee - Some Truth to This? · 0 replies · +1 points

nah...We were born because our Mothers got pregnant. When I found out how and why she got pregnant, I threw up in my mouth a little bit.

13 years ago @ The Declassified Adoptee - The Family China Freak... · 0 replies · +1 points

What an amazing post, Amanda. Gave me chills. xoxo

13 years ago @ The Declassified Adoptee - The Landslide That Bro... · 1 reply · +2 points

That song just kills me. So true. Great post!!

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