perlandra
79p268 comments posted · 0 followers · following 0
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: My F... · 1 reply · +3 points
Personally, I don't offer to split the bill, but will without making a fuss about it if the guy asks. It isn't a dealbreaker or automatic I won't accept another date with him, but it makes me feel it's unromantic of him to ask. I'd pay attention to body language, other aspects of the date, if he held the door for me, etc., but most guys who've asked me to pay half either haven't asked me out again, or I wasn't interested.
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: My F... · 0 replies · +1 points
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: My F... · 0 replies · +2 points
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: My F... · 0 replies · +1 points
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - How To Approach Women ... · 0 replies · +1 points
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - How To Approach Women ... · 0 replies · +3 points
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - How To Approach Women ... · 0 replies · +5 points
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - How To Approach Women ... · 0 replies · +6 points
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Overcoming Your Dating... · 0 replies · 0 points
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Overcoming Your Dating... · 0 replies · +8 points
My last two serious relationships were both with guys who were inexperienced, and both wound up telling me that they didn't know if they loved me, because they hadn't experienced romantic love before. I didn't expect it instantly or anything, we'd been dating for months. It really hurt, and messed with my self-esteem, and I wound up breaking up with them because I was worried I'd get pushy, and it was making me feel badly about myself.
I'm still feeling a bit gunshy about getting involved again. That's in general, though if the guy's more inexperienced, it seems even more likely to happen, but it's so hard to trust and be vulnerable and love someone, and discover that they just don't feel that way about me, even though they like me, care about me, and think I'm hot.
For that matter, there's different axes of inexperience - someone could be experienced with sex but not at all with relationships, or have had a relationship with someone that was very emotionally close and romantic but didn't involve sex for some reason, or they might have experience with BDSM but not vanilla sex, or vice-versa.