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8 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - On blue hair and sayin... · 0 replies · +1 points

Learning to choose your battles (or your "hill to die on" as we say around here) is one of the hardest things about parenting. I am all for letting my kids express themselves with their hair style, although I did draw say no when my blond teenager wanted to dye hers jet black. I have my limits. But kids have to learn to navigate in the world out there and if we don't let them try things and make certain decisions on their own, they might find themselves paralyzed by all the options the grown-up world offers. So I let my Karis cut her hair pixie short, and I let my Quinn bleach out the ends of her dark brown (Chinese) hair. I let them choose their own clothing, within the limits of modesty, price, and appropriateness. Likewise we have some things we're stricter about, like the age they can date. We do sleepovers, mostly at our house, and playdates, but only with parents we know well. We do watch Disney shows occasionally but as with most things on TV or in the movies, we discuss the behavior and what's right or wrong about it. I love that we live in a country where all parents can make the best choices for their own children, and I wish that we were less judgy when someone doesn't make the same choices we do. (Not that I've seen that in the comments so far, and I hope it doesn't go there)

8 years ago @ #SheReadsTruth - Martha · 0 replies · +4 points

I have such a soft spot for Martha, probably because I see in her the same kind of practicality that drives me most of the time. It's hard to rest when there is so much to DO but sometimes He just wants us to BE with Him.

8 years ago @ #SheReadsTruth - Bathsheba · 0 replies · +4 points

How often do we look at ourselves or someone else and all we can see if their/our sin or mistakes? Yet God doesn't see us that way at all. If we are obedient to confess and turn away from our sin He is faithful to forgive it. It's that "turning away" part I sometimes have trouble with.

Our past does not define us. His mercies are new every morning, and every day is a new day. What a relief that I do not have to suffocate under the weight of all my prior mistakes!

I loved this closer look at Bathsheba and her story!

8 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - QOES: Swimming in any... · 0 replies · +1 points

I swim in the ocean but that is the only exception to my "only swim where you can see where your feet are" rule. I need to know what my feet on standing on and what's around my legs. I don't want fish bumping up against me or sharp rocks poking me or finding myself standing in weird sludge. Lakes and ponds are especially suspect, with their stagnant waters hiding who knows what. Swimming pools may be gross but they don't look gross so I can convince myself it's clean enough. But we just bought a house with a pool in the backyard so now at least we're swimming in our own grossness and not that of the general public.

9 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - What adoptive parents ... · 0 replies · +8 points

Thanks for the heads up! I am planning to take my 13 year old (bio) and 10 year old (adopted) daughters to see it this weekend. My younger girl knows about her history but this is a good way to make me aware that there may be discussions necessary afterward.

9 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - What I want you to kno... · 1 reply · +1 points

I completely concur! We adopted our daughter from China when she was 9 months old and for a while we called her what she was called in the orphanage - YaYa. We did give her an American first name but we kept her Chinese name as a middle name because we it was HERS. She came to us with so little that it seemed cruel to take away her name too. We did eventually move to calling her by both names, then by her American name. Because she was so little it was easier for her to adjust to the change, but if she had been even 2 years old I think we would have called her by the name she already had.

10 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - Are you a “staye... · 0 replies · +1 points

I'm a leaver. It wasn't my idea, but it has been a very good thing for me in many ways. I've had to learn how to find friends without the six degrees of separation I was used to in my hometown, where everybody knew everybody, or at least know somebody who knew that person. It's both hard and freeing to NOT have that connection thing going on. My husband was definitely a leaver and couldn't wait to graduate and move out of his town!

10 years ago @ http://www.heartsongua... - The Perfect Helper and... · 1 reply · +1 points

I had never thought about that before - that God gave us marriage before Adam and Eve sinned. Excellent point, and one I'm going to have to ponder for a while. Loved this post!
My recent post Chasing History: Martha, Part 2

10 years ago @ http://www.heartsongua... - Lonely - Five Minute F... · 1 reply · +1 points

I love this little peek into your daily life! Thank you for sharing your husband with our country. His service should never be taken for granted by the rest of us, and neither should yours and your children's sacrifice. It's hard when the men are gone and we have to do the job of both parents!
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10 years ago @ http://www.heartsongua... - True Story behind Our ... · 1 reply · +1 points

I don't necessarily love my proposal story although most people who hear it think it's just too, too sweet. I don't really have any regrets about it though. But other regrets? You bet! Tons of them! And whenever they creep in and I feel my face getting red (because I'm embarrassed at my actions), I have to put on the brakes and remind myself that Christ covered all my sins/mistakes/regrets on the cross and I'm not supposed to pitch a tent and live among them.

As for having regrets about your proposal story not being what you imagined, you don't need me to preach to you, but I'd just like to remind us all that placing such lofty expectations on fallible human beings is just begging for disappointment. :-) I'm glad you've moved on to appreciate your husband for who he is. And I think your proposal story is cute. :-)
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