I wonder how many women put on make-up when their husbands would prefer they didn't. I always wear make-up, but in the past few months or so, my husband has specifically asked me on the weekends when we're out together to not wear make-up. I feel so vain being uncomfortable without make-up on! I'd much rather wear it. But, if my husband asks me not to, then I'm not going to.
I truly hope this show continues. There was a series about weight loss that followed the person through a year's journey to losing weight, and I wonder if this show could be done similarly. Tara and her husband could mentor couples and each episode could focus on a different couple and their journey to living a biblical marriage. I think it would be amazing to watch different types of couples learn and grow.
I shared TLC's post about the show on my personal page asking if any of my friends watched or what they thought about it, and not one person commented. I can get 50-100 likes on a silly photo, but nothing on that. I would love to reach out more and minister to friends and family via Facebook with posts about submission and being a godly wife, but after this one, my husband said it makes him uncomfortable when I post anything about that, so I will not be able to do that anymore.
I am very glad this show was aired and I pray people will watch and learn, be blessed and change their marriages for the better!
I think the concept of "flirting" can be different for people. My husband has made several comments about how he is certain that I must get hit on, or how someone was flirting with me, and he will be upset with me, but I truly, honestly, didn't think anyone was flirting with me. He has said that I can be flirty, but when I ask for specific things I need to work on or stop doing, he says he doesn't have anything specific. I asked an older, godly woman if she thought I was flirty and she said she sees me as friendly, but around men it comes across more as guarded, as though I'm trying to not allow any man to get too close to me. It's gotten to the point where I feel like I shouldn't speak to another man because if I smile or am friendly at all, I don't want my husband to view that as flirting. On the other hand, he has a very disarming charm about him and he has been propositioned several times, and has told me about it, but I don't get upset with him, I know that he is just being his charming self and not trying to flirt.
Without my husband giving me specifics, I am at a complete loss as to how to behave around men.
What do you do if you have a teachable spirit, and you do ask your husband for guidance, but he gets upset because "if you've been reading all those things about respect, you should know how to do it already"?
I'm struggling to figure out how to be a godly wife and mother when my husband would prefer I work, because of the income, because my job has the very good health insurance, and because he doesn't understand what I'd be "doing all day" if I were home. He believes that I keep the house well enough now, and I would be bored at home. I've tried to explain to him that I could cook more from scratch, keep the house cleaner, but he feels all of that is unnecessary. He is considering me dropping to part-time, but only because I've asked for it. He doesn't really prefer that at all, and I think he gets annoyed if I mention wanting to be home now. He is a very good man, a godly man, but this is something we disagree on. I so desperately want to fulfill my calling as a godly wife and mother, but I'm so exhausted trying to keep up with everything and I don't know how to do it while working.
My husband is a professing believer, and is a wonderful leader to our family. However, he views most everything through a worldly lens and tells me that I am naïve, or assumes I am not understanding the graveness of a situation, when I assume the best of someone, or believe their word rather than assuming they are lying. This is where I get tripped up with winning him without a word. When I try to display the peace of Christ, when I try to extend loving-kindness towards others, when I give people the benefit of the doubt, he can sometimes get very angry with me. I believe he feels like I am not supporting him, or I'm disrespecting him if I don't share the same opinion, or like I mentioned earlier, I'm naïve for believing God's way is the best way. He is a professing believer, makes sure we go to church every weekend, is involved in many things, wants to cultivate more friendships with godly men - but my attempt to win him without a word seems to make him think I am weak and naïve and uncaring about his thoughts. I am not sure how to best support him and still display the qualities of a godly woman.
I have found some ComfortPlus shoes at Payless (they are the "scrunchy" style) that are the most comfortable flats I've ever worn, and I wear them with dresses and skirts all the time.
I will check those out, thank you for pointing them out to me! And yes - I will PRAY!!! :)
I'm one of those who would definitely benefit from some kind of community cooking classes! I never learned to cook, and now as I've been studying what it means to be a godly woman and wife, I've felt such a desire to learn to cook. I'm a vegetarian, so I don't even know where to find some of the meat ingredients half the time, never mind how to cook them, but my husband is a true carnivore. He's taught me a few things, and says because I work full-time and he gets home earlier than I do, that he should help with the cooking more - but I feel like it's my responsibility, and I have a true desire to learn and to begin living my calling as a wife and mom who serves her family. (And hopefully this will one day include being able to quit my job and stay home! Right now my husband seems to prefer the income from my job, but he knows my desire to be home and says we will work on that!)
I would love to not have to work full-time. My husband knows this, but feels we need my income and the health insurance from my job. He is the breadwinner by a landslide, but benefits at his job cost much more.
He has said in the past that he thinks I would be bored at home. He isn't sure what I would do all day (my daughter attends a private Christian school). Perhaps that's because I seem to do a good enough job now of keeping the home clean, laundry done, I'm always available to him, etc.?
He did say as recently as this morning that he knows I'd prefer to be home, and it's something we will work towards. He would like me to be able to work 3-4 hours each day on his business, helping him to stay more organized with tasks and meetings. I am struggling to find contentment in going to work every day, knowing it could be years before we're in a place where I can stop working. I'm struggling to not feel guilty when I read posts about how women should be keepers at home.
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