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Single Black Male : Pedicures, Happy Endings, and Why I Can Understand Men Paying for Sex

Fri, 14 Mar 2014 20:19:49 +0000

Tis true right here. The reason why this is seldom discussed is that there are many folks who refuse to take an honest look at this dynamic, being quite happy with the existence of the benefits afforded to one party by these standards. Equality is a myth and is not what is being sought. To acknowledge would reveal the hypocrisy. Mr. SoBo OpinionatedmMale.com My recent post If You Wanna Cuddle, Go Find A Teddy Bear: Why Jump Offs Forget Their Role

Single Black Male : Pedicures, Happy Endings, and Why I Can Understand Men Paying for Sex

Fri, 14 Mar 2014 15:14:52 +0000

John's also pay to 'enjoy the company of a woman'. No shade, just saying. So long as you're coming out of pocket for a woman you barely know to escort you to dinner/movies/play/park, etc., you are engaged in a transaction. Now unless she is piss poor and you're reaching out a charitable helping hand out of the pure humanitarian goodness of your heart, your intentions behind paying are irrelevant; considering she is there to enjoy your company as much as you are hers. Again, no shade. It just is what it is. My recent post Yay or Nay: Should A Man’s Salty Past Drive A Woman Away?

Single Black Male : Pedicures, Happy Endings, and Why I Can Understand Men Paying for Sex

Fri, 14 Mar 2014 06:56:18 +0000

"The only people I ever really hear deny paying for sex are men that usually can’t afford top notch women or claim that they like the chase" If a man is paying for sex in 2014, he one of two things: 1) Hopeless 2) Or lazy as hell. Chase? Its 2014. Women have long traded in their flats for 4 inch heels. They ain't running. So if a man is still out here chasin', he's clearly determined to catch his own shadow. "Obtaining sex is already easy, but making sex even easier, convenient, and getting it from a experienced source- you won’t hear me object to that". 1) Experience does not equate to good. 2) Exactly how much more easier does it have to be than it is right now? These are the vagina times. Our women have proudly taken charge of their sexuality (many measuring their independence by what they do with the honey pot), and thus have changed the dating landscape. More than enough of them (not all) are out here literally making it rain. Yes, even the highly attractive ones as well. Why? Confidence is a currency all women accept. Not only is sex easier to obtain, it is practically same day/overnight/two day delivery. In other words, you'll likely spend more time waiting in line at the DMV than you would waiting to sleep with someone you just met. **Meaning when you consider the time you actively interact with this person(via phone & in person) prior to sleeping with him/her and not the amount of days that pass in between that time, you will realize how little of your own time you have invested in such an endeavor. Reaching into your pockets for dates or illegal solicitation? Such an unnecessary expenditure that is. Yoda. There is absolutely NO need, unless one's sense of manhood stubbornly rests on adhering to dating rituals of yesteryear, or he has a fetish for the dangers and/or monetary transaction of soliciting sex from strangers. Whatever the case is, to each his own. No condemnation here. Some men enjoy the dating experience, and enjoy paying for those experiences (People still date though??). However, unless there is some fetish involved, it is quite perplexing why a man in THESE TIMES would feel the need to tap his wallets in order to tap that a$$. Mr. SoBo OpinionatedMale.com My recent post If You Wanna Cuddle, Go Find A Teddy Bear: Why Jump Offs Forget Their Role

Single Black Male : Is Cheating a Sign of Weakness?

Sat, 8 Mar 2014 16:00:41 +0000

Totally agreed. It isn't a 'weakness'. One may become 'weak' with temptation, but it isn't a weakness per say. It is a conscious deliberate set of choices followed by conscious deliberate actions. I wouldn't even call cheating a mistake. A mistake implies there are unintended and unforeseen results/consequences to a course of action. We all know what the outcome is to cheating, we just hope to avoid the unfavorable outcome. Cheating is a purely selfish act. More accurately, cheating is a series of purely selfish choices and actions with the ultimate destination being the bedroom. There is no mistaking that. Mr. SoBo OpinionatedMale.com Recent Post: Should A Woman's Salty Past Be A Deal Breaker? My recent post Yay or Nay: Should A Man’s Salty Past Drive A Woman Away?

Single Black Male : Is Cheating a Sign of Weakness?

Sat, 8 Mar 2014 15:45:33 +0000

Well put. Very well said. However, cheating goes beyond just the physical contact. It begins the very moment the individual makes his/herself available to another albeit, mentally, emotionally, conversationally, etc. The actual sex is the very last phase of that cheating process. The infidelity began the instant the person was receptive to the amorous advancements of the other. Mr. SoBo OpinionatedMale.com Should A Woman's Salty Past Be A Deal Breaker? My recent post Yay or Nay: Should A Man’s Salty Past Drive A Woman Away?

Single Black Male : Can You Be Satisfied From No Strings Attached Sex?

Sat, 8 Mar 2014 15:36:06 +0000

Well said sir. Men are not having consistent, ongoing, casual sex with themselves. Clearly there are many, MANY women who have no qualms about engaging in such relations and repeatedly. Considering that the following phrases, "I'm just doin' me right now", "I'm just enjoying life", or "I'm just having fun right now", are phrases common among those women goes to show their conscious acceptance of such relations. Perhaps there is a sense of independence from 'taking control of their sexuality'. I do not know. At the end of the day, there is no mistaken these types of women enjoy it just as much as men...that is until they(women) begin to ~~feel~~ realize they are being used. At which point they will either demand a committed relationship or curtail the arrangement altogether. And in many cases will usually rinse, wash and repeat the entire process with the next guy. Mr. SoBo OpinionatedMale.com Post: Should A Woman's Salty Past Be A Deal Breaker My recent post Yay or Nay: Should A Man’s Salty Past Drive A Woman Away?

Single Black Male : What's Up With Guys Women "Don't Count?"

Sat, 8 Mar 2014 15:18:25 +0000

It would appear that men tend to be able to accept their own flaws and shortcomings much easier than women. The same with infidelity. Typically a cheating man - when caught - will acknowledge he was driven by his own temptation more or less. Women on the other hand who step out on their man by and large will place the blame on their man for why they did it... to the tune of,"You don't pay me enough attention. You're never home. You're mean to me." etc, etc. Generally speaking of course. Its easier to avoid taking personal responsibility it seems. A strange approach to life to say the least. Mr. SoBo OpinionatedMale.com My Post: Should A Woman's Salty Past Be A Deal Breaker? My recent post Yay or Nay: Should A Man’s Salty Past Drive A Woman Away?

Single Black Male : What's Up With Guys Women "Don't Count?"

Sat, 8 Mar 2014 15:04:40 +0000

Unfortunately, one cannot erase life experiences. To do so is a feeble attempt at avoiding responsibility for one's actions/choices. Part of life is making poor decisions. That is how we evolve individually. Without those poor choices, how would we learn? Even if its an obvious stupid choice. Thats life. Accept it for what it is, the good, the ugly and the stupid. Bottom line: If the head goes in, you must count him. End of discussion. Mr. SoBo OpinionatedMale.com My recent post Should A Woman’s Salty Past Be A Deal Breaker?

Single Black Male : What's Up With Guys Women "Don't Count?"

Sat, 8 Mar 2014 14:57:03 +0000

I dig this. Its an honest look at oneself and an acceptance of oneself without excuses. Very refreshing to say the least. Mr. SoBo OpinionatedMale.com Post: Should A Woman's Past Be A Deal Breaker? My recent post Yay or Nay: Should A Man’s Salty Past Drive A Woman Away?

Single Black Male : Why Men Hate Dates: The Dishonest Woman

Fri, 21 Feb 2014 17:18:55 +0000

I find it rather interesting that in this day and age there are still many men who still suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune of what I consider to be common sense approaches to dating. If one is still concerned about being 'taken advantage of' in 2014 while dating, then clearly he is one who has not planted a firm foot down in reality and more importantly taken a firm stance in it so that he will not have such non-concerns concerns. At the same time, I understand everyone has their time to learn. Still though, for the fathers out there, hopefully you abandon the fairy tale ritual teachings and provide your son's some real life common sense dating advice. No brainer tip #1 Have confidence and be unapologetic about your line of questioning. No brainer tip #2 For the first date, do NOT seek out entertainment (i.e movies, play, lounge, etc). Instead do something free or inexpensive that allows you to converse and get to know one another. A cup of coffee, bowl of ice cream or a walk through the park with a fairly inexpensive meal along the way. Your objective is to identify if there is a mutual interest, declare your intentions as well identify what her intentions are (assuming you didn't spend any time at all before hand on the telephone sorting this out). Its not rocket science. Its 2014 gents. Stop tip toeing around women. Mr. SoBo OpinionatedMale.com Post Worth Reading: Love Conundrum: Is It REALLY Unconditional? My recent post Should A Woman’s Salty Past Be A Deal Breaker?

Single Black Male : Why Men Hate Dates: The Dishonest Woman

Fri, 21 Feb 2014 16:57:17 +0000

I don't know about this. I agree with the premise, however to a point. Its not so much about complaining(dismissive) as it is coming to a realization that certain practices may not necessarily be the best practices. I don't believe any man or woman should have to take an "L" for anything, date or otherwise. Thats nonsense. Date 1 is an opportunity for both individuals to mutually discover if there is a interest, chemistry and connection there. If one person is already cognizant of their own disinterest, then clearly their intent for agreeing to a date is to primarily be entertained...on someone else's dime. Date 1 should be dutch all day. That is the sensible approach. Taking an "L" shouldn't be an option, but unfortunately, it is the reality for many men - primarily those stuck in super save 'em/chivalry/or as you stated, "scared to let a female know they're trying to more than a friend..." mode. Mr. SoBo OpinionatedMale.com Post Worth Reading: Love Conundrum: Is It Really Unconditional? My recent post Should A Woman’s Salty Past Be A Deal Breaker?

Single Black Male : Stop Google'ing The People You Date

Sat, 1 Feb 2014 02:43:16 +0000

lolol. Naw, I get you. I'm just giving you a hard time...virtually that is. ;-) Night night.

Single Black Male : Stop Google'ing The People You Date

Sat, 1 Feb 2014 02:14:27 +0000

Lawd mi granny backfoot. I'm merely trying to understand the psuedo-stalking rationale my fair lady. lol. I guess all the men now know who to never leave alone in their room while they go shower. ;-) My recent post Indecent Exposure, Weapons & Richard Sherman’s Mouth: When Living In The Moment Goes Wrong

Single Black Male : Stop Google'ing The People You Date

Sat, 1 Feb 2014 01:32:27 +0000

Thing is, I don't think there is anything wrong with performing a search out of curiosity. Its the reliance on it as a method of weeding out the 'bad apples' to me that is a little strange. I mean, if you met someone at a social gathering with limited light, then I can understand the interest in seeing their social media pics to get a better idea of what they REALLY look like....but to cyber stalk them to find out if they are 'who they say they are'?....aint that a tad on the creepy side? Whats to stop one from hiding in someone's bushes or staking out their home to make sure they are where they say they are? Is that the next phase after googling their name? I don't know. I guess I don't get the fascination with social media being dubbed the better outlet for information than one's own sensibilities. My recent post Indecent Exposure, Weapons & Richard Sherman’s Mouth: When Living In The Moment Goes Wrong

Single Black Male : Stop Google'ing The People You Date

Sat, 1 Feb 2014 01:18:29 +0000

"If he has a problem with being googled, he should ask me up front if that's what I do...i" True. On the same token, if you have a problem with someone who has engaged in criminal activity, why not ask them upfront if they're into that? Why not simply ask those questions along with any other questions concerning things that don't jive well with you? If there is concern or doubt that the person will be honest with you about these things, then why even bother at all? My recent post Indecent Exposure, Weapons & Richard Sherman’s Mouth: When Living In The Moment Goes Wrong

Single Black Male : Stop Google'ing The People You Date

Sat, 1 Feb 2014 01:07:28 +0000

Not everyone has an internet presence is my point. And who is to say that this person you met has provided you with legitimate information about his or herself? I would presume if he was up to no good, there is a likelihood he wouldn't provide you with his real government. My point is that what internet searches reveal is nothing that you wouldn't have found out yourself with a little bit of basic interaction and attention to cues. It doesn't take 5, 4, or even 2 months of dating interaction to identify undesirable tendencies in someone. People tell on themselves everyday all the time. The real question is are you paying attention when they tell you? That is what I'm trying to get you to look at. Google may only save you from dating that bad apple 1 out of 50 times. So what do you do for the other 49 times you can't pull dirt on someone online? I'm not saying don't google, etc. I'm saying people are putting so much faith and confidence in something that is extremely unreliable. The ratios don't point to it being a worthwhile medium of reliance to determine who you should or should not date. Now unless the person is sloppy as hell with their ongoings, you aint gonna find any real pertinent information on the majority of people you date utilizing social media. You're better off honing your bulsh*t smelling abilities than worrying about the one off's that may or may not show up in your searches. Mr SoBo OpinionatedMale.com Things Women Do That Catch A Major Side Eye From Men

Single Black Male : Stop Google'ing The People You Date

Sat, 1 Feb 2014 00:38:17 +0000

Hmmnnn...Question: Why not tell them you are going to google them? its not like they have access to google and can remove the information that you will find before you search it. What repercussions are you afraid of from simply informing them you will google their name? Just curious.

Single Black Male : Stop Google'ing The People You Date

Sat, 1 Feb 2014 00:28:43 +0000

You are absolutely correct. Many men do it to and it shouldn't be framed as if this is something that only women do. My only counterargument is that not everyone is plugged into the matrix. Meaning, not everyone has a social media or online presence. Not everyone is in 'the criminal system' and would pop up on a search engine inquiry. Not everyone has a blemished record of sorts that would show up on a background check, google search, facebook search, etc. In fact, I would probably be more worried about someone who doesn't show up on google than someone who does. Why? It means said person is more cunning with their illegalities and sociopathic ways to have successfully evaded law enforcement while not drawing negative attention to themselves socially. Like real G's, serial killers move in silence too. Google only gives you information you would have otherwise found out anyway with a little more social savvy and people skills. its the sh*t that doesn't come up you should be concerned with.

Single Black Male : Stop Google'ing The People You Date

Sat, 1 Feb 2014 00:09:31 +0000

Semantics really. Yes, folks lie. However, google doesn't have everything. The cheat code that is google doesn't really help you in the long haul because it promotes social laziness. How are you developing your skills to smell bullshiggity a mile away when the go to is google? At the end of the day, it's pretty simple: Trust but verify. And if google yields no result, then you have verified that you can trust this individual? Seeing that the majority of google searches will yield no result on any given person, you must be one trusting individual. Besides, if it takes 5 months to determine if someone is married or in another relationship without the aid of technology or some social media outlet, then clearly you have a much bigger problem than 'dating the right person'. Either you aren't paying any attention, aren't doing enough talking and/or listening in your interactions or you are plagued with naivete. Placing your confidence in your Google findings (or non results) isn't going to help you reverse such social ineptitude. One thing is for sure: You can't google that your man is presently doing wrong by you, or will do wrong by you. Aint enough google algorithms in the world to help you there sistah. So who will you turn to then? Last I heard, Ms. Cleo is out of business. Sharpen your wits. ...or be the inspiration for this next cinematic debut... Tyler Perry presents, "For Heartbroken Women Who Considered Facebook, When Google Aint Enuf." Mr. SoBo OpinionatedMale.com All Gold Everything: Ladies, What Type Of Man Are You Dating?

Single Black Male : Stop Google'ing The People You Date

Fri, 31 Jan 2014 22:19:02 +0000

Precisely.