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Single Black Male : Men Are Not Perfect Vol 5: The Faux Relationship Expert

Mon, 13 Aug 2012 16:54:11 +0000

I really enjoyed this series! [though I haven't been able to comment much as of late] I love the changes being made on the site, btw. I look forward to seeing what you guys have planned for the future.

Single Black Male : Ten Acts of Desperation Women Perform to Keep Mr. Right

Fri, 15 Jun 2012 15:38:03 +0000

Girl, we've all been there. I'm the same; if I see something I know you'd like, I'll get it just because. While I love to give gifts simply because I genuinely enjoy making my guy happy, I do notice if I never receive anything in return. We both should be making an effort to do things for each other - not just gifts, but gestures as well.

Single Black Male : Twenty Cheap or Free Summer Dates

Fri, 15 Jun 2012 04:54:22 +0000

I thought all these ideas were yours at first! I was like, "Gon' head, boy! Dr. Jay might could get a date!" Lol. I definitely like this list, especially the Day Date. That brunch/matinee combo is a win! And no, I don't buy it when a guy says he's too broke to date, because I'm a cheap date. *shrug* I'm just glad that you took the time and effort to have a plan at all. As long as we're not hanging out at your house, I'm pretty much happy. As far as ideas, I went on a date at a park and we ended up playing kickball and volleyball with the kids there. I had sooo much fun. I've also had dates at billiard halls, skating rinks... I'm not opposed to meeting friends/family early on because I get along with most people, so I don't mind group outings either. My recent post Awesome First Dates [That I've Never Been On]

Single Black Male : Ten Acts of Desperation Women Perform to Keep Mr. Right

Fri, 15 Jun 2012 04:33:15 +0000

Ehhh, I have to say, you lost me with 'buying a dog.' A woman can't just like dogs? I thought cats were supposed to be the sign that a woman has given up, lol... But otherwise, I agree for the most part. As soon as a woman starts changing herself to accommodate what she thinks a man wants her to be, she loses. Even if they stay together, she'll eventually start to hate herself for it and resent him. It's rough out here for the single women, I know, but I'd rather wait for someone who I feel is worth my time, and wants me around. I never want to have to beg for anyone's attention. My recent post Can One’s Self-Esteem Be Tied to Another Person?

Single Black Male : Generation Y: Why We Rent When We Could Buy

Thu, 14 Jun 2012 18:56:26 +0000

Single Black Male : Generation Y: Why We Rent When We Could Buy

Thu, 14 Jun 2012 17:37:33 +0000

I wholeheartedly agree. I could literally go on and on about the amount of people I've encountered who care nothing about their finances, and it's due largely in part to their ignorance. I wish it were taught in more schools.

Single Black Male : Generation Y: Why We Rent When We Could Buy

Thu, 14 Jun 2012 17:18:49 +0000

Typically, lenders will say you can afford a home approximately 2.5 - 3x your annual gross salary. But that's really only feasible if you actually plan to take 30yrs to pay back your loan, and don't have an income-to-debt ratio above 30%. The majority of people trying to apply for a home loan nowadays don't have anything close to that. I had to get out of banking, simply because I was tired of having to lie to people, telling them that they needed a product that they really didn't. Smh. Until people are willing to be educated about managing their money, they do not need to be buying a house.

Single Black Male : Generation Y: Why We Rent When We Could Buy

Thu, 14 Jun 2012 16:25:07 +0000

I realize though that many people buy a house because they think it's "the right thing to do" and they don't really have an idea of what to expect. I was a bank manager for 3 years, am a licensed insurance agent, and my father has a real estate/property management company. I was fortunate enough to know all sides of the problems one may face with home ownership. So I'll always be the first one to advise others about how they should go about purchasing their first home/their financial situations, should they ask for my advice. And also, great post Tunde!

Single Black Male : Generation Y: Why We Rent When We Could Buy

Thu, 14 Jun 2012 16:16:01 +0000

I think most people try to buy a home based on what the bank says they can afford, rather than what they can actually afford. The bank has no problem letting you live above your means, and people who aren't fiscally responsible will be up to their eyeballs in debt before they know it. Buying a house isn't for everyone, and that's fine.

Single Black Male : Generation Y: Why We Rent When We Could Buy

Thu, 14 Jun 2012 16:15:47 +0000

I'm single [never married] with no kids. I bought my first house when I was 22 [I'm 26 now] simply because my mortgage is ridiculously low compared to what I'd pay for the same amount of space while renting. My house will be paid off in the next 5 years. I've accelerated my payments since day 1, and more than likely will purchase my next house before I'm 30 and keep my first home as a rental property. Home maintenance isn't a big deal when you plan for it. The money I save on inflated rent payments and my homeowner's insurance cover anything I need to have done. It's a hassle sometimes, but you take the good with the bad. My recent post Can One’s Self-Esteem Be Tied to Another Person?

Single Black Male : How to Dress Fresh For the Workplace

Wed, 13 Jun 2012 17:17:59 +0000

Instagram it!

Single Black Male : How to Dress Fresh For the Workplace

Wed, 13 Jun 2012 05:25:21 +0000

That double-breasted cardigan is giving me life! My recent post Can One’s Self-Esteem Be Tied to Another Person?

Single Black Male : Fifty Shades of Grey from a Man’s Point of View

Fri, 8 Jun 2012 19:40:02 +0000

Ahh, I see. I misread then, I apologize. Either way, I've still heard enough negative reviews and don't think I'll be picking up a copy.

Single Black Male : Fifty Shades of Grey from a Man’s Point of View

Fri, 8 Jun 2012 14:44:43 +0000

while I think cuffs and blindfolds and light asphyxiation can be fun, I don't think I'd like the rest of that stuff. I feel exactly the same. I think I'd be turned all the way off by anything more, and if the actual content of the book isn't all that great I know I'd be disappointed. My recent post Remember Me???

Single Black Male : Fifty Shades of Grey from a Man’s Point of View

Fri, 8 Jun 2012 14:41:15 +0000

I was never really interested in reading it, and now that you've said it's poorly written, I definitely won't be picking up a copy. My aunt, who is 63, read it in her Old Lady Book Club [my name for it] and raved about it. She wanted to lend me her copy, but then I know she'd want to discuss it when I returned it, so I'm good on that. This review was good enough for me... My recent post Remember Me???

Real Men Dont Gossip : 5 Reasons Blogging Isn't Worth It

Thu, 7 Jun 2012 19:01:24 +0000

lol. I'll read it Krys!

Single Black Male : Nicki Minaj vs. FunkMaster Flex: The Different Methods Men And Women Use To Win Arguments

Wed, 6 Jun 2012 16:29:20 +0000

I don't argue. Arguments make me extremely uncomfortable, whether I'm involved or not. I don't know why or when it started, but I get borderline anxiety attacks from arguments, so I'll just remove myself from the situation if people can't talk calmly about a disagreement. If I can't avoid the argument, I'm pretty quick to get up in my emotions, so sometimes it's easier for me to just write everything down [if it's that serious]. I try not to let it get to the point where I'm pissed, because I can't help but cry and it's hard to talk without using an annoying high pitched voice while crying, lol. -But another way men/women win arguments is to get someone else on their side and gang up on whoever they're arguing with. My sister is notorious for this.

Single Black Male : Fail Blog: When Sexting Goes Wrong

Tue, 5 Jun 2012 17:07:40 +0000

That's exactly the point. This post is about sexting. And you don't sext. Yet, you have umpteen comments about random sexual things that are not sexting. We're not talking about everything under the sun related to sex today - just sexting. You can't always relate to a topic, and that's fine. Sit this one out. And you actually can email the writers on this site with a specific question. They're very good about answering your question in its own post for another day and we can all give you advice then.

Single Black Male : Fail Blog: When Sexting Goes Wrong

Tue, 5 Jun 2012 16:22:30 +0000

I'm not in my 30s - but I think the negatives might be because your comments are off-topic and all over the place. Just my thoughts, though...

Single Black Male : Fail Blog: When Sexting Goes Wrong

Tue, 5 Jun 2012 15:07:59 +0000

So true. I'm very visual - from a nice mouth to big, strong hands to defined quads, etc. - trust me, if a man has a nice body, he can certainly send me pics and I'll appreciate them. The focus does not need to be on his peen, though.