en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/1062515 Comments by lizcharm http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2014/10/ask-liz-self-catering-rules/#IDComment899809141 Actually, I just coordinated a wedding last year that had two different caterers and homemade dishes that her grandmother brought it. Liability is a squishy thing. For instance, if you're working with an event staffing company who's serving, they won't be held responsible if someone gets sick. Check with your venue and your vendors and see what's possible. Cooking your entire meal isn't optimal, I agree, but there are a ton of low-cost catering options. DIY isn't the only alternative, you just have to look around until you find something you're comfortable with. Wed, 29 Oct 2014 07:14:09 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2014/10/ask-liz-self-catering-rules/#IDComment899809141 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2014/10/ask-liz-self-catering-rules/#IDComment899802758 See if there is a way to bring the rice cooker(s) to your venue and make the rice on site. Also, be careful that you have enough food for your guests to get more than one serving. Wed, 29 Oct 2014 07:03:27 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2014/10/ask-liz-self-catering-rules/#IDComment899802758 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/04/ask-liz-your-mom-vs-your-dress-your-family-vs-your-friends/#IDComment612314353 Ooh, and I just "spoke" to Invite this morning and thought of a new idea - B-list your cousins. Send them invitations as No's start coming in from your original list. Fri, 5 Apr 2013 16:19:53 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/04/ask-liz-your-mom-vs-your-dress-your-family-vs-your-friends/#IDComment612314353 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/03/ask-liz-potlucks-and-pretty-dresses/#IDComment596222082 People have potluck parties all the time, and I'd like to think that one of the benefits of this is that it IS a little more casual, and something everyone can participate in. Even better if you can keep track of who donated what bottle of wine, and make sure that is served at their table during the wedding. There is always a way to do what you want and make it work. Whatever you do, someone isn't going to like it, so you may as well do what you want. Fri, 15 Mar 2013 16:48:17 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/03/ask-liz-potlucks-and-pretty-dresses/#IDComment596222082 http://wonkette.com/506387/dianne-feinstein-goes-to-ted-cruzs-work-slaps-tea-party-dick-from-his-mouth-hole#IDComment595666933 Just watching Rachel Maddow, and Rachel pointed out that Feinstein became Mayor of San Francisco in 1978, after Mayor Moscone and Harvey Milk were shot and killed. As the President of the Board of Supervisors, she was next in succession. She was down the hall when Milk was shot, and was one of the people who attempted to revive him and find a pulse. A couple of years earlier, a group called the New World Liberation Front shot out all the windows in her house, shortly after they left a bomb on her windowsill. So, you know, she's not really a stranger to gun violence. Fri, 15 Mar 2013 01:38:34 +0000 http://wonkette.com/506387/dianne-feinstein-goes-to-ted-cruzs-work-slaps-tea-party-dick-from-his-mouth-hole#IDComment595666933 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/03/ask-liz-wedding-postponements-pizza/#IDComment586609330 "Immediately" doesn't really work in Wedding World, in this case. I think the quickest you could do it in a month, taking your (potential) honeymoon, getting back to your life, nailing down who sent what, and getting the actual thank you's together in one place, and then out the door. Add a couple of more weeks to get over planning your wedding enough to tackle this project. Granted, the year rule started in pre-internet, pre-technology times, when there was less expectation of a speedier turn-around. These days, when folks freak out if you don't respond to their text in five minutes, expectations have definitely changed, I'll give you that. Wed, 6 Mar 2013 02:20:01 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/03/ask-liz-wedding-postponements-pizza/#IDComment586609330 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/02/ask-liz-bridesmaids-wedding-vendors-you-definitely-dont-want/#IDComment566432889 Yeah, on the morning of my weddings, I've been getting them to put "wedding planner" on mine. :-) Fri, 8 Feb 2013 17:49:18 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/02/ask-liz-bridesmaids-wedding-vendors-you-definitely-dont-want/#IDComment566432889 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/02/ask-liz-why-arent-vendors-calling-me-back/#IDComment560322993 Agreed. Like I said, I have run into vendors that won't return my phone calls about clients, and I move on to the next one. Fri, 1 Feb 2013 22:29:40 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/02/ask-liz-why-arent-vendors-calling-me-back/#IDComment560322993 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/02/ask-liz-why-arent-vendors-calling-me-back/#IDComment560321869 it's also a matter of when you're making those 2-3 calls. If it's Friday-Sunday, you're not going to hear back until Monday or Tuesday. If it's during the week, and you've called multiple times and haven't heard back, then move on. Just like with your schedule, there are better times to reach you and worse times. Fri, 1 Feb 2013 22:27:42 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/02/ask-liz-why-arent-vendors-calling-me-back/#IDComment560321869 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/01/nixing-new-in-laws-from-the-guest-list-calculating-the-cost-of-a-park-wedding/#IDComment551327209 I rented my wedding dress, for that exact same reason. But there really aren't any parks in Los Angeles where you can get married for free, without security or cops bugging you. And if I am wrong about that, please let me know, I am dead serious! Wed, 23 Jan 2013 01:48:54 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/01/nixing-new-in-laws-from-the-guest-list-calculating-the-cost-of-a-park-wedding/#IDComment551327209 http://wonkette.com/497300/valerie-jarrett-just-making-up-badass-obama-quotes#IDComment546009857 I could totally see him saying that. Am I really the only person who couldn't see him sahing that? Thu, 17 Jan 2013 00:45:12 +0000 http://wonkette.com/497300/valerie-jarrett-just-making-up-badass-obama-quotes#IDComment546009857 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/01/real-bride-carrie-addressing-the-dreaded-d-word/#IDComment538943976 Carrie, your relationship is not your friends' relationship. It's important to realize that when she tells you not to get married, she's thinking of her own reasons, and they don't have anything to do with you. She's projecting - "I shouldn't have gotten married, so no one should get married." Yeah, no. But, she's in a lot of pain right now, so it's understandable. I've been married for 10 years, and this is what I can tell you: remembering why you want to be married to him is good, but after you walk down the aisle, you also need to remind yourself why you want to STAY married to him. You may need to remind yourself of this more often than you'd think, but those reasons are there. Of course, some days, and, obviously, in some circumstances, the minuses far outweigh the pluses, but appreciation of what you have can take you a long way. What I can tell you as wedding planner who is constantly in front of couples, and as someone a tad older than you who's watched my own friends' marriages come and go is this: Relationships don't just end, they deteriorate, and there's a difference. Tue, 8 Jan 2013 19:39:10 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/01/real-bride-carrie-addressing-the-dreaded-d-word/#IDComment538943976 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/01/ask-liz-jumpstarting-your-wedding-a-few-words-about-bridal-shower-etiquette/#IDComment536700824 By inviting people who were not invited to the wedding, you are putting the Bride in an extremely uncomfortable position. Full stop. Sun, 6 Jan 2013 01:12:00 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2013/01/ask-liz-jumpstarting-your-wedding-a-few-words-about-bridal-shower-etiquette/#IDComment536700824 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/12/ask-liz-rainy-days-inexpensive-glitz/#IDComment521665941 Love this. Thanks, Jenni! Mon, 17 Dec 2012 20:25:55 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/12/ask-liz-rainy-days-inexpensive-glitz/#IDComment521665941 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/12/ask-liz-musical-rental-chairs-childish-future-sister-in-laws/#IDComment514953272 A reading is definitely something she could do, and really feel included. Mon, 10 Dec 2012 04:46:47 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/12/ask-liz-musical-rental-chairs-childish-future-sister-in-laws/#IDComment514953272 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/11/ask-liz-wedding-resetting-and-those-guests/#IDComment496142156 I told her in the beginning of my response, my first instinct is to not invite them. They know the deal, don't invite them, and keep moving. But everything has real world consequences. If you don't invite them, you will have to deal with any black lash from that. If you invite them, you have to deal with the black lash from that. And, she's worried about that. It's unrealistic to think that there won't be any consequences from either decision, especially when it involves folks you're going to be seeing every day up to your wedding, and every day afterward. You just have to choose your pain point. My "job" is help make either decision work. Tue, 20 Nov 2012 16:23:15 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/11/ask-liz-wedding-resetting-and-those-guests/#IDComment496142156 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/10/ask-liz-hot-summer-days-high-city-prices/#IDComment495403597 I cannot believe I didn't see this before. The Boy Scout/Running troop idea is fantastic. I LOVE the stuff you guys come up with! Mon, 19 Nov 2012 22:36:18 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/10/ask-liz-hot-summer-days-high-city-prices/#IDComment495403597 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/11/weekend-wrap-up-an-amazing-deal-on-dresses-from-elizabeth-st-james-plus-coupon-codes-stand-up-comedy-more/#IDComment478937135 Looking forward to Wednesday's live tweet! Send in your questions early @brokeassbride or straight to me @silvercharmevnt... Fri, 2 Nov 2012 20:35:50 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/11/weekend-wrap-up-an-amazing-deal-on-dresses-from-elizabeth-st-james-plus-coupon-codes-stand-up-comedy-more/#IDComment478937135 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/11/ask-liz-wedding-tradition-breaks-and-how-to-swing-them/#IDComment478922938 Margaritas! Gotta serve the margaritas. Fri, 2 Nov 2012 20:11:12 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/11/ask-liz-wedding-tradition-breaks-and-how-to-swing-them/#IDComment478922938 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/10/ask-liz-no-go-for-photo-posts/#IDComment467790883 Again, in the spirit of having the wedding you want, you should do what you can to get that, but like I said, just keep in mind that it might not happen. It's also a good thing to remember with all wedding details. Fri, 19 Oct 2012 17:23:39 +0000 http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/2012/10/ask-liz-no-go-for-photo-posts/#IDComment467790883