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WordPress blog at up4discussion.org : Can I Pop Your Pimple? + Other Weird Intimacies

Mon, 11 Jun 2012 00:20:24 +0000

I can dig it, kinda like popping his pimples was a way to take out your aggression on him? That sounds kinda devious and #50Shades of you... I like it! Thanks for checking out the post! My recent post You Can’t Win

WordPress blog at up4discussion.org : Can I Pop Your Pimple? + Other Weird Intimacies

Mon, 11 Jun 2012 00:19:21 +0000

Oh how I desire a long-distance relationship! You can fall in "like" through the mere exchange of words rather than mouth to mouth food particles. *sigh*. I often have to think to myself, did I really date him? Thanks for checking out the post! My recent post You Can’t Win

WordPress blog at up4discussion.org : Can I Pop Your Pimple? + Other Weird Intimacies

Mon, 11 Jun 2012 00:17:55 +0000

Yea the ingrown hair was my version of the pimple... it's kinda the same, no? LOL. I think someone on twitter said his mother does his father's feet every Sunday night or something like that, it's now their ritual. But when you look back, you have to wonder, did I really do that for him? Thanks for checking out the post!

WordPress blog at up4discussion.org : Question of the Week: Would You Date Someone Covered in Tats?

Mon, 28 May 2012 23:09:46 +0000

I like tattoos, I have a few myself. I'm instantly more attracted to men with tattoos. As long as they're significant and not on the face, I pretty much think tattoos make you hotter!

Single Black Male : Single Sam's Episodes in Love Part 1: An Officer and a Gentleman

Fri, 2 Mar 2012 17:17:21 +0000

I'm definitely looking forward to the series! the writing is so beautiful. After reading this story I personally know of three girls in this situation. 1) got out like Samantha, 2) has three kids by the dude and he's still not divorced from his wife 3) still in and wading. I dont know if it's the idea of possibilities or not, but I think at some point we all reach a point where we want to believe beyond the facts. You get out, you get in, you live, you learn... it's all a process. I think Sam now has an opportunity to reflect and forgive herself; absolve the blame from the relationship and leave it at that... a relationship that ended. I saw to myself all the time, can't no person be that mean, deceitful, or oblivious to the hurt from their actions. But it happens all the time and you reach a point where you just move on and move forward. I can't wait to hear the other parts of the story :-) My recent post How can you mend a broken heart?

Single Black Male : Chris Brown Can Beat Me

Tue, 14 Feb 2012 14:55:45 +0000

I think it's deplorable to make light of domestic violence. At the heart of these girls tweets is the same problem that young girls (who become women) have: they think that they can change a man. They think that whatever they have to offer is so much better than the other chick that a man like Chris Brown would never beat them or hurt them or abuse them. They think (jokingly or not) that Rihanna deserved it because she incited his anger and they would never get themselves in that position. As a mentor to young girls, its sad to see what they will accept because of their own low esteem and this idea that being with a handsome and famous man will somehow elevate them. Even worse, is that they wont ever be chastised or public censured for their disrespectful comments. Why? Because no one really cares about the few careless tweets of teenybopper fans. But when these easily influenced women often fall for men who will eventually prey on their insecurities and become the broken women they once defamed. Cycles are sad in their viciousness. My recent post Welcome to the Jungle

Single Black Male : Right vs Wrong: Black, White, and How We Poorly Assess Our Failed Relationships

Tue, 14 Feb 2012 14:40:16 +0000

My mom sat me down one say and said: your dad is a good guy but he's not perfect. He has things that I've had to fix but I love him. That's what you need in a man: a good heart that needs growth. Not sure if every mom has this talk with her daughters but it has impact. If women chose men like their fathers (knowingly, unknowingly) then they will try to find that good hearted man who is still in the process of growing up. Even more, I think its easier to accept and be with someone who's flawed because then you dont feel so encumbered by your own flaws. My recent post Welcome to the Jungle

Single Black Male : Bittersweet Memories: Reflecting On the Incomparable Whitney Houston

Mon, 13 Feb 2012 19:09:28 +0000

when I was a kid, I dressed up every Halloween as Rachel (circa Bodyguard) in a gray dress with a microphone. I would knock on doors and sing I Will Always Love You instead of saying Trick or Treat. I devoted a Whitney song to every junior high and high school crush I had. I would take her 45s, hold up a tape recorder to record the song, and then listen to it on my Walkman on my way to school. From "How Will I Know" to "So Emotional" to "Just the Lonely" to "Until you Come Back" I have a puppy love story that corresponds to the melody of her voice. She understood me in a way that made her more than my icon, she was my replacement mother, my absent sister, my best friend, the crooner who sung me to sleep. She knew how to capture what my heart longed to hear and how to vocalize the words that never came. I remember being in foster homes, reading her unofficial biography (paperback with a pink cover) and thinking that one day I was going to make it. I was going to be an all star singer. I would plan my acceptance speech in a juvenile hand, always remembering to thank her thinking I would look down to her shining face. Her death is like losing a part of my childhood, I just can't believe she's gone. My recent post Welcome to the Jungle

Single Black Male : Stories That Make You Think: Never Judge Anyone

Thu, 9 Feb 2012 14:25:53 +0000

Posts like this remind me how inherently selfish we are, most times we don't see past our own grief. There's some quote out there that says: you could save a thousand people if you stop focusing on yourself (or something to that effect). I think it also translates into walls and barriers... how we're not open to sharing ourselves with others because of what they may think about us. It's easier to accept their judgement when we know it's unfounded. IDK, this made me cry on the metro. Nice post. My recent post Welcome to the Jungle

Single Black Male : A Man and His Many Vices: How Men Cope with Stress and Unwanted Pressure

Thu, 9 Feb 2012 14:08:25 +0000

I know too many men with these vices, but they are good men in general so they are easy to overlook. I liked the thorough breakdown, helps me to understand them better because of course they aren't prone to deep reflective moments (with me at least). My vices... 1) procrastination. I only procrastinate when I'm under a lot of stress. Otherwise I'm head down, eyes focused. But when there are too many priorities to manage I ignore them all. 2) Online shopping. This usually happens when I have a bad day, when I feel unappreciated. Then I buy something nice to smooth my ruffled feathers. 3) Sleeping. This may be a weird vice, but when things are overwhelming I run straight to bed and fall asleep. It would be different if I took a nap (usually 1-3hours) but I'll sleep like 10-15 hours in hopes of escaping my problems. They are always there when I wake up, but for a while I'm not thinking about them. My recent post Welcome to the Jungle

Single Black Male : Five Unimportant But Important Things Men and Women Look For In Each Other

Mon, 23 Jan 2012 16:53:48 +0000

I think you're right it does depend on your industry. My dad is a truck driver, he doesn't own a suit. But he has nice slacks and shirts (mainly from what I give him) and he looks nice. If you wear it confidently it doesn't matter all that much. My recent post My Brother Died…

Single Black Male : Five Unimportant But Important Things Men and Women Look For In Each Other

Mon, 23 Jan 2012 16:51:42 +0000

I walked into work and saw a man with black shoes and navy pants, I had a nice little chuckle as I passed him. things that I notice: 1) Men that smile. If you're permanently mean-mugged I keep a wide berth. 2) His jeans. Men with weird washes, uber skinny jeans, loud decals... I don't even know how to handle that. 3) if he gives up his seat on the metro. 4) If he tithes at church. I don't base my entire assessment on these 4 things, but I do notice them. My recent post Tonight is the Night

Single Black Male : Five Movies That Changed Our Lives Forever

Tue, 3 Jan 2012 17:01:46 +0000

Shirley MacLaine is one of my favorites! Movies like The Apartment and Irma la Douce... i think maybe I'm just a huge Vincent Minnelli fan. My recent post New Year’s Anthem

Single Black Male : Five Movies That Changed Our Lives Forever

Tue, 3 Jan 2012 16:58:41 +0000

You didn't like Mona Lisa Smile? Notting Hill? Duplicity? --- Granted Duplicity is not the best. But still all good movies. My recent post New Year’s Anthem

Single Black Male : Five Movies That Changed Our Lives Forever

Tue, 3 Jan 2012 16:55:24 +0000

I'm a classic junkie too... I've seen anything with Leslie Caron, Cary Grant, Kelly Grant, Elizabeth Taylor, Deborah Kerr, Montgomery Cliff... oh I could keep going! there's nothing like the movies of the 30's-60's My recent post New Year’s Anthem

Single Black Male : Five Movies That Changed Our Lives Forever

Tue, 3 Jan 2012 16:01:11 +0000

Daddy's Little Girls was one of TP's best, along with Family That Preys. The emotions captured in the movie were so good, and it started the careers of the McClain sisters. Our Family Wedding was a good concept, with a great cast, but it just fell flat... it wasn't extremely memorable. But in terms of a holiday movie I like it. Have you ever seen Nothing Like the Holidays? That one was really good too. My recent post New Year’s Anthem

Single Black Male : Five Movies That Changed Our Lives Forever

Tue, 3 Jan 2012 15:54:15 +0000

I forgot to add Jesus Christ Superstar (1973)... I know all the words, the music, I cry, I dance. I love this movie!-- mainly because my great-grandmother would sit with me on her bed in Detroit and talk to me about God. oh man, good times! My recent post New Year’s Anthem

Single Black Male : Five Movies That Changed Our Lives Forever

Tue, 3 Jan 2012 15:49:47 +0000

I agree with Scarface and Matrix, definitely movies I can quote and watch over and over again. The lesson I took from Scarface is to live by your word, because when you start to think you're infallible you let your principles slack and it leads to ruin. Other game changers: The Incredibles/Finding Nemo/Shrek (for the Pixar fans), Toy Story, Titanic (I cry every time when the band still plays as the ship sinks, its the most beautiful part of the movie), The Lord of the Rings (though the books are still better). My top 10 favorite movies (mainly because I watch them over and over and over again): Cat on a Hot Tin Roof (1958) Two Mules for Sister Sara Pretty Woman the Little Princess (1939) Nothing to Lose HavPlenty Now, Voyager (1942) Pan's Labyrinth An American in Paris A Cabin in the Sky (1943)-- a classic since it's the first film with an all African American cast. My recent post New Year’s Anthem

Single Black Male : Five Movies That Changed Our Lives Forever

Tue, 3 Jan 2012 15:36:16 +0000

I love An Affair to Remember. I always cry at the end when Cary Grant realizes that she's crippled and she still loves him... I cry EVERY TIME! My recent post New Year’s Anthem

Single Black Male : Wrapping It Up: 9 Lessons Learned From the Black Blogosphere in 2011

Fri, 30 Dec 2011 03:27:02 +0000

I find it absolutely fascinating how a hobby can turn into such a passion. I think that's the coolest thing in the world. I mean honestly, how often can we say that we live out our passion everyday? That's pretty awesome! I was looking back over the posts that you all wrote this year, and they were amazingly memorable. And right on time, for the most part. As good as 2011 was, I can't wait to see what 2012 brings. Bonne Annee tout le monde! My recent post Good Mourning