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The Toast : If Jason Bateman Were Your Boyfriend

Wed, 8 Jun 2016 18:07:17 +0000

well, i'm a capricorn, but i'd be REALLY good at planning the detail work and checking the details after someone else did the heavy lifting.

http://www.whattamisaid.com/ : My Planned Parenthood blog carnival

Thu, 7 Jul 2011 18:48:55 +0000

just emailed you, but i'll put a link here, too. thanks for hosting! http://infamousqbert.wordpress.com/2011/07/07/my-...

Womanist Musings : It's Canada Day Don't Hate us Cause you Want to be Us

Fri, 1 Jul 2011 15:34:38 +0000

well duh. everyone knows your national anthem is sung to the tune of "Oh Tannenbaum". >:) oh canada, oh canada! your mounties are so sexy oh canada, oh canada! your lemmings are nice too! My recent post Working himself into a lather

Womanist Musings : What's In A Name?

Wed, 1 Jun 2011 18:51:14 +0000

that doesn't discount the fact that most people changed their names because they were pressured to do so, either by the officials at immigration, or by social needs. and there were goof ups. the reason so many familes of Indian descent have biblical surnames (Abraham, Isaac, etc) is because of the cultural tradition of putting the family name first. the immigration officials didn't know enough about eastern cultures to catch this and put the father's first name as the whole family's surname. the article you linked to discusses the possibility that it was the officials on the emigration end of the equation who may have screwed up, as well. either way, it wasn't a clear cut "no one to blame but the person themselves" kind of situation. My recent post Working himself into a lather

Womanist Musings : What's In A Name?

Wed, 1 Jun 2011 18:39:07 +0000

and, from what i've seen, white adults/teenagers with odd names (like the zappa children) are given the benefit of "gosh, your parents were crazy!", rather than being assumed to "deserve" the odd name and then being constantly denigrated for it. My recent post Working himself into a lather

Womanist Musings : Don't People Realize Gwyneth Paltrow Works Her Ass Off?

Wed, 20 Apr 2011 20:31:03 +0000

even those who grew up very privileged and basically had everything handed to them are indoctrinated with "BOOTSTRAPS!" from a very early age. we're told that making it for yourself and not depending on anyone's handouts is the only way to be a "real american". so, the idea that maybe she didn't do it all alone, that maybe she was handed some things along the way, is just anathema.

The Bitch Blog : What a Feminist Isn't

Wed, 9 Mar 2011 04:24:08 +0000

thanks for this. reposted on facebook. vive la feminism!!

Jewish Daily Forward : On Women, Bylines and Bestsellers – The Sisterhood – Forward.com

Wed, 2 Mar 2011 19:23:59 +0000

thanks for writing this. i couldn't agree more. i've tried to make a point of seeking out women writers, simply to counteract (with my one lonely self) a little of this issue. it's one of the reasons i've gotten into reading more YA lit, as that world has a much higher percentage of women authors than the lit world in general.

Womanist Musings : Ted Williams Isn't The Only Homeless Man

Wed, 12 Jan 2011 17:59:25 +0000

to add to that, if you do believe it, whether you have good reason or not, and still want to help, you can always take that change you would have given and donate it directly to your local homeless shelter or addiction program. i just often wonder how many people who claim this out bother with that alternative.

Womanist Musings : The Crime of Growing Too Much Broccoli

Wed, 6 Oct 2010 19:42:11 +0000

i do wonder if he would be in trouble for growing that many flowers. i'm sure not, but what is the difference, from the municipal viewpoint, between a thousand rose bushes and a thousand tomato bushes?

Womanist Musings : It’s Canada Day, So I Am Going To Tell You How It Is

Thu, 1 Jul 2010 15:05:34 +0000

renee, if you haven't heard this, you should. it's the best song aboooooooot canada EVER. ETA: ummm...maybe i should consider leaving the link. >_< http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9QgSuVJ7Jpg

Womanist Musings : Questions Not to Ask People with Chronic Conditions

Wed, 30 Jun 2010 19:28:02 +0000

fucking fuckity fuck! i want to say that i can't believe the gall and ignorance of some people, but that would be delusional. i'm just sorry that anyone else ever has to encounter them. i've probably said/asked some asinine things in my life, but i promise to try my best to never pull this kind of shit on anyone.

Womanist Musings : Why I Won't Be Your Resource

Wed, 16 Jun 2010 20:46:53 +0000

is anyone else having trouble with the new layout? i can't see the first part of the post at all. the blue background is showing through/over as a big stripe, like there's a header that should be there, and the post seems to be behind it, so that i can see a half line that starts with "google", but nothing above that.

Womanist Musings : Claudia Schiffer Makes Blackface Fashionable

Thu, 10 Jun 2010 20:21:10 +0000

tangential to this, but have you watched the documentary "America the Beautiful"? it's primarily about the fashion industry, but it's done by a black man and focuses for a large portion, on a VERY young black model (12 yo at the beginning of the film), so he brings in a lot of what you've talked about with this post and others.

Womanist Musings : My Disabled Body

Thu, 10 Jun 2010 20:09:47 +0000

i'm also trying my best to be the person who listens more than she talks. but, as you've pointed out, whatever i meant by doing this, it reads as not caring to the outside world. i want to be an ally to this cross-section of the world, but i don't think i'm quite ready yet, if that makes sense. i will certainly call people out on blatant ableism (using "lame" as derogatory, or bitching about someone's right to take up space, etc), but i don't feel like i have enough tools in my progressive belt to tackle the more subtle issues yet, especially as i'm still fighting them within myself. none of that is meant as an excuse for future behavior or lack of engagement. just an explanation for why i'm certainly guilty of what you laid out. as an aside, does anyone else have issues with it not letting you post comments that are more than a few lines long?

Womanist Musings : My Disabled Body

Thu, 10 Jun 2010 20:09:16 +0000

i often feel like i have nothing worthwhile to add in this particular conversation. i admit it's one that i'm less educated on, for many reasons. i know i'm at an early stage, developmentally, in ridding myself of this prejudice. i still have the thoughts "at least i'm not like that" or similar, but i've learned to keep them to myself and check out what's really happening when i think those things.

Womanist Musings : Spark of Wisdom: Gay Love for Straight Titillation

Thu, 10 Jun 2010 19:51:56 +0000

ugh, yes to the nth degree. i'm a femme bi-woman who is homo-partnered. i've been with my fiancee for 3.5 years and we're planning a wedding and i still get accused of faking it. everyone just assumes i'm waiting for a guy to come around and "save" me. what the fuck?____on that topic, though, here is a FABULOUS tribute to femme women. be prepared to tear up a little._ _http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Q7IzwUa_kI

Womanist Musings : Dear White Feminists Stop Erasing my Womanism

Thu, 10 Jun 2010 14:27:23 +0000

i read things like this and remember why i don't visit most of those sites anymore (and when i do, i avoid the comments at all costs). and i think about how grateful i am that i was raised by a mother whose every action was inherently "feminist", but who never talked about any particular political ethos, or what should or shouldn't be done by any woman, regardless of politics. i honestly don't know if my mother identified as a feminist, but she lived a life full of feminist strength and encouraged me to be strong for myself and not care too much what other people thought about me, but also to not worry too much about what others did, as long as it wasn't interfering with me. it's served me well and i think it would serve a lot of others well, too.

Womanist Musings : Dear White Feminists Stop Erasing my Womanism

Thu, 10 Jun 2010 14:20:25 +0000

thanks for writing this, renee. i will say that i THINK there is a strong segment of younger feminists who are learning from the mistakes of the earlier "waves", and do think more broadly about reproduction/motherhood/children/everything. i say "think" because i've experienced it (and am trying to live it), but it may be that this segment isn't as widespread as i would hope. i would love for feminism to be a movement ALL women (WOC, trans women, queer women of all ilks, anyone who claims the title of "Woman") could feel totally comfortable in, and it's something i'm trying to make a reality. but i understand that it's not, and that, even if it becomes such, there's still room for womanism and for the two groups to be allies and help each other, rather than viewing the other as a competitor for power.

Womanist Musings : Awareness or Voyeurism: Hoarders

Fri, 28 May 2010 17:54:33 +0000

oh, and yes, i'm with tiffanized above on the annoyance of people calling me a hoarder when i'm not, not even a little bit. it's much like the appropriation of OCD to mean "slightly picky/nervous today" when that's a disorder that CRIPPLES some people. i have a lot of shit, and not enough room in my apt, but my shit is organized and non-trash. i cannot ABIDE filth, and a lot of that is borne of my pack-rat tendencies. i know that if i don't keep up with it, it COULD get nasty, so i don't let it. okay, this is turning into a personal rant, but you get the picture.