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10 years ago @ - Why I Find #ShoutYourA... · 0 replies · +4 points

Thank you.

11 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - What I want you to kno... · 1 reply · +66 points

My dad started practicing medicine in 1948, and before he passed away, I asked him what was the greatest advance in medicine since he started practicing. His usual method of thinking deeply before answering was not to be - he answered right away, an answer I wasn't expecting - he said the polio vaccine, because he'd treated people struck by polio. Something people today have no idea of the death and devastation polio causes.

It's because of vaccines for diseases have worked so well that people today have no idea what it is like to live when they didn't have vaccines to protect them, instead they could only sit by the bedside of their child and hope they didn't die. Perhaps people should research infant and child mortality rates prior to the advent of vaccines, before they make up their mind - because diseases don't just happen to other people and you can see that in most family trees where at least one of more children never made it out of childhood.

11 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - On celebrating adoptio... · 1 reply · +4 points

Which is a good message - but - people aren't going to hear that - just that you celebrate world adoption day and that means you celebrate all of it not matter how misguided. Stick with National Adoption Awareness Month that actually is about Foster Care and adopting from there...which is free and doesn't need people crowd funding.
http://www.forbes.com/sites/evankirkpatrick/2014/...

11 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - On celebrating adoptio... · 3 replies · +6 points

You know they are also crowd funding for babies not even born yet - and who will be born in the USA. Who is crowd funding for them to stay with their family of birth? Oh wait, adoption agencies won't make money then so they can't do that. They are NOT crowd funding for adoption from foster care where actual living children sit and wait.

They are also selling tee-shirts and onesies - "Love Child" and "Crowd Funded" and apparently think both are fine. They provided a new definition of Love Child on the site - and I'm sure the general public will get that memo and not automatically assume it means something else that isn't quite so nice (but you know they will be thinking it every time you are out in public). No worries about AP's getting questions about how much the adoption cost because one look at a Crowd Funded tee-shirt or onesie and they will know the child/baby must have cost tens of thousands of dollars... http://world-adoption-day.myshopify.com/

This is your worldadoptionday - still feeling like it's okay?

11 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - World Vision, the reve... · 0 replies · +1 points

Samantha - have you ever explored the world of domestic infant adoption? A lot of "celebrating" happens there, a lot of "coveting" going on too. I'm not saying adoption is a sin, but according to the bible sex without marriage is - which is how most of those babies happened to be conceived, and put up for adoption. Babies that are coveted by others that want to be parents but can't. Those "sins" are indeed celebrated...religious organizations "profit" from them...advertise for them...celebrate them...

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World Vision who is caring for orphans, and vulnerable children, who do not have access to clean water, food, medical care, schooling...and had the audacity to say we will hire people in the Christian LGBT community - the nerve of them. And some of the vocal opponents of that decision were those in the orphan adoption ministry field...who should have known from first hand experience what calling for a boycott would mean to each of the children served. They should have remembered that each child was a little human being that would go to sleep with an empty belly, a disease uncared for. Instead they chose to ignore the little children, and I'm pretty sure Jesus had plenty to say about how that made him feel...

11 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - On World Vision, gay m... · 0 replies · +1 points

But Maricruz, in all of your preaching above, and this comment specifically, your throw away comment that there are other organizations to sponsor "a" child through - you have forgotten that "that child" that is no longer "sponsored" through World Vision because "Christians" got their knickers in a knot and cancelled their sponsorship of "that child". "That child", an individual human being, no longer has food in his/her belly, medical care, schooling. You forgot to see each of the children that are no longer sponsored because of the "Christian Outrage", as individual human beings, none of them replaceable, each unique, each special and irreplaceable in God's eye. Perhaps you need to reflect on that, and remove that branch in your own eye.

11 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - What I want you to kno... · 0 replies · +1 points

Thanks for posting about rare diseases...it's so annoying when even your doctor has never heard of the disease, and you need to bring him up to speed and tell him about the latest research...

12 years ago @ All In The Family Adop... - Ain't I an Adoptee? · 0 replies · +2 points

Enjoyed this post very much.

12 years ago @ Lost Daughters - Round Table: Safe Have... · 0 replies · +5 points

I'm going to assume that Baby Safe Haven doesn't actually have a rebuttal argument for many of the points raised. Perhaps those points reiterated below will provide him/her some food for thought.

Simple things like the fact that family health history is not fixed at a set point in time - that even with the genetic testing that is available today - they a) have yet to determine all the causative gene or genes for common diseases, let alone the rare diseases that affect 25 Million Americans, and b) that your best defense is an updated family health history to ensure your care is proactive vs reactive. (the info I desperately needed happened after my surrender).

The fact that many if not all states ALREADY had laws in place to surrender your infant to social services and they just needed to do PSA's to educate the public.

Finally, I would love to see the research done on whether or not women in crisis who use Safe Haven actually required anonymity. I'm guessing no one did any research on that...

12 years ago @ http://www.rageagainst... - What we can learn from... · 1 reply · +1 points

Watching the reactions around the web, I think one of the reasons it may have made some adoptive parents upset, is because it made "them" uncomfortable because of their family, and status. Adoption is different than biological - but it seems some, perhaps many, want the world to pretend they don't see the difference - different version of the colorblind theory. For all the desire to make adoption a normal, valid way to form a family, some, at the same time don't want to be seen as adoptive parents to adopted children - you can't have one without the other. You can't have openness, without giving up the secrecy that some adoptive parents of old sought (thankfully not mine). Growing up as an adoptee, adopted into a family of the same race - there were times I wasn't outed as an adoptee to strangers, but seldom when the entire family was together - it was very obvious we didn't match. Being a transracial family where the parents are a different race than the children would reduce that probability to zero when all are together. It's interesting to sit back and watch how uncomfortable people who haven't lived their entire life being adopted - react to being different. They haven't figured out that different doesn't equal bad - just different - and they need to work on getting there, sooner, rather than, later.

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