en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/1085511 Comments by c http://www.womanist-musings.com/2011/03/precious-knowlege-affirms-necessity-of.html#IDComment133964185 I am currently writing a research paper on this very topic. Thu, 10 Mar 2011 23:25:07 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2011/03/precious-knowlege-affirms-necessity-of.html#IDComment133964185 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/11/dan-savage-attacks-rape-survivor-while.html#IDComment109260444 Perhaps the husband could show some love for his wife by being understanding and supportive, by listening to the fact that something about him acts as a trigger for her. I don't know how open marriages work exactly as I am not in that type of relationship, but it seems that if one has an open marriage, one runs the risk of his spouse getting her needs better met by someone else. And. Dan Savage ought to be ashamed of himself. What a thoughtless ass. Thu, 11 Nov 2010 21:03:29 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/11/dan-savage-attacks-rape-survivor-while.html#IDComment109260444 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/10/if-youre-on-foodstamps-no-soda-for-you.html#IDComment103032383 Receiving food stamps does not always mean one is not gainfully employed. There are many people who work and get food stamps because their wages are not enough to cover the ever-rising cost of living. That "Can't feed 'em, don't breed 'em" attitude from which your privileged comment may spring just doesn't gel. Ever consider that one may have worked her/his entire life until the company she/he worked for sent jobs overseas? Or that one may become ill, or any number of reasons a person could find her/him- self in transition be in need of assistance? The goverment does not earn the money they spend on weapons development, medical research or public assistance- but that's okay somehow? Americans are always talking about "less government"- unless it has to do with the poor. The way poor people are treated in the states is truly disgusting. Fri, 8 Oct 2010 18:34:12 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/10/if-youre-on-foodstamps-no-soda-for-you.html#IDComment103032383 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/10/if-youre-on-foodstamps-no-soda-for-you.html#IDComment103031180 "While he is eliminating the purchase of soda, will Bloomberg also reduce the cost of things like orange juice to make it more affordable?" Yes! Yes! And amen! Fri, 8 Oct 2010 18:23:21 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/10/if-youre-on-foodstamps-no-soda-for-you.html#IDComment103031180 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/09/forbes-400-richest-americans.html#IDComment100574897 The fact that that commentor was able, and felt able, to just ignore the facts (he probably wouldn't even have thought to break it down in such a way, and I feel that I can safely presume that he would only be compelled to do so if there were hardly any white people on the list) shows his privilege. Given his comment, he seems a bit out of sorts. Pointing out privilege and inequity is not the same as hating or being anti- anything. The truth hurts sometimes. If only he could open his heart and mind to what actually IS, rather than the fairytale we've all been taught. It's scary, I know. Because then he would realize the lies, would realize that he is not at all special, but just happened to be born white, male and privileged. Thu, 23 Sep 2010 19:49:32 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/09/forbes-400-richest-americans.html#IDComment100574897 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/08/news-from-editor.html#IDComment94392127 I hope all goes well at the doctor. Fri, 20 Aug 2010 18:21:50 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/08/news-from-editor.html#IDComment94392127 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/08/kiddie-perm-gone-wrong.html#IDComment94227950 Sorry. I'm long winded and needed to break this comment in half. We talk about eating healthy, taking care of our skin, exercising, etc, but put chemicals on our hair that can cause blindness if it gets in our eyes! No matter how we keep our hair, we are Black women. I don't think women who wear their hair straight are any less Black, but it is a fine line we walk. Relaxing is not healthy for our hair or skin. And it always conjures up the deep-seated idea that straight is closer to white therefore closer to 'good' and goodness. It's tricky business. And deep as the ocean. Great post. Heartbreaking video. Thu, 19 Aug 2010 20:09:53 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/08/kiddie-perm-gone-wrong.html#IDComment94227950 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/08/kiddie-perm-gone-wrong.html#IDComment94227865 I had my first perm at 13, and have regretted it ever since. I liked how my hair looked coming out of the shop but my scalp was often burned and sore. My scalp was once burned so badly that the chain of a necklace scabbed to my scalp while I slept. I hated when it rained because my hair would smell burnt. I found it difficult to maintain the look so after a while, I'd just relax the roots and scrunch my hair up with gel or wear it in a bun. For the past fifteen years, I've limited relaxing to once a year. This year, I haven't relaxed it at all as I am preparing for the big chop. I am finally going back to MY hair. I am very excited and can't wait to be beautiful with my afro. I agree with you that the most important thing about women's hair is that it be healthy, well groomed and easy to maintain. Thu, 19 Aug 2010 20:09:17 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/08/kiddie-perm-gone-wrong.html#IDComment94227865 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/07/shedding-some-light-on-back-of-house_22.html#IDComment88321009 They're all awful. I couldn't do it, Renee. You must have a great deal of fortitude to read these over and not explode with rage. Fri, 23 Jul 2010 20:32:06 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/07/shedding-some-light-on-back-of-house_22.html#IDComment88321009 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/07/flower-girl-2-are-you-moved.html#IDComment85534095 When I saw this painting, I thought of a couple of things.____As a child, I used to put a towel on my head and pretend I had long 'beautiful' hair.____The minor who was struck by a cop in Seattle recently. No one seems to really care that she is a minor. Being a young Black woman, underage, doesn't matter, We are not women or girls worthy of praise and encouragement, we are not seen as soft or precious. We're Black and deemed animal-like in this country and are treated brutally.____And this is what happens. And it is sad and wrong on so many levels and I found all of them in this piece- physically, spiritually, emotionally. I also loved Niles interpretation of the piece. Definitely a haunting image. Thu, 8 Jul 2010 15:59:23 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/07/flower-girl-2-are-you-moved.html#IDComment85534095 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/06/questions-not-to-ask-people-with.html#IDComment83932841 Thanks to your blog, I have realized my able-bodied privilege and am working very hard to acknowledge this and combat it. Though I've never outwardly behaved as poorly as James, or thought the same ignorant things, I have taken for granted my health and being abled, rarely considering how our society is built around the able bodied. Thank you, Renee. Thu, 1 Jul 2010 20:45:41 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/06/questions-not-to-ask-people-with.html#IDComment83932841 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/06/dear-white-feminists-stop-erasing-my.html#IDComment79400449 This is why I could never fully embrace 'feminism'. My mother taught me that women could do and be whatever they chose, that being a woman, and being a woman of color, should never be a barrier, but instead add richness to what I have to offer as a person. I thought that was feminism for a long time. As I grew older, I became 'aware'. I don't want to be like a man. I want to be a woman and love all the things that make me a woman. I want to be myself. In Sisterhood Is Power, there was an essay on Black Feminism and as I read, I realized the problem with Feminism for me. Middle class, White women were on the forefront of this movement and the historical relationship between White and Black Women is totally dysfunctional. In fact, our whole society pushes to hold White women up as the pinnacle of wealth, status, beauty and grace. Black women not only sought freedom from the male dominated world but also the White dominated world. I have been lurking for a few weeks now. You put it down so well I had to comment, especially since this is a topic the women in my family discuss regularly. Thu, 10 Jun 2010 02:53:48 +0000 http://www.womanist-musings.com/2010/06/dear-white-feminists-stop-erasing-my.html#IDComment79400449