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7 years ago @ The Toast - The Martyrdom Of Saint... · 0 replies · +6 points
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Wednesday Open Thread:... · 0 replies · +1 points
Serious answer: Overthinking It, Amicus, Realitycast, No Such Thing s a Fish, Savage Love.
And 99PI, of course.
8 years ago @ The Toast - Raising the Tone: Etiq... · 0 replies · +5 points
(I know that's not actually the case. I don't want to be buried anyway.)
Though given the location, if you can see it, you probably have a bit of leeway for asking questions.
8 years ago @ The Toast - Sticker Chart: A Short... · 0 replies · +4 points
(I read it as satisfying his partner sexually, but in a broader sense than "an act directly resulting in one or more orgasms" since otherwise 44 in two weeks requires more energy than I personally possess.)
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: My B... · 1 reply · +3 points
I wonder if that's where Henry and I aren't seeing eye to eye. Because I don't merely disagree with him, I find his reaction disproportionate to the alleged offence*. But if he's seeing "please don't look at porn during our relationship" as "porn is horrible and you're horrible for consuming it" his response seems more level.
*I'm picturing someone smiling sweetly and saying "Henry, dear, I don't think I've mentioned this, but I'd appreciate it if you stopped looking at pornography while we're together" and him saying YOU NAZI, THE GOVERNMENT SHOULD TAKE AWAY YOUR NOT LOOKING AT PORN!!!" and storming out.
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: My B... · 0 replies · +2 points
8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: My B... · 2 replies · +8 points
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8 years ago @ Paging Dr. NerdLove - Ask Dr. NerdLove: My B... · 17 replies · +8 points
The limitations I would put on that statement are:
* It's not reasonable to demand that a partner abjure porn. You can dictate behaviors, but not attitudes.
* The request needs to be made explicitly. They can't learn of the rule only when they get in trouble for breaking it.
* Expect slip-ups at first, especially if it's an ingrained habit predating the relationship, and there needs to be a blanket amnesty for before the request was made.
* Spot checks and laying traps are not acceptable. Nor, I would think, would they ordinarily be needed.
*I'm assuming the person making the request/demand has an actual reason, even if it's an idiosyncratic one, not just a desire to hear "how high?" when they say "jump!"