I love how people on the Intrawebs come to someone's personal blog just to post comments that the blogger doesn't have a right to their thoughts or feelings. RUDE!

I think you are spot on. I think we need to prepare adoptive parents better... get them to explore their motivations more... and educate EVERYONE that adoption should ALWAYS have the best interests of the child first (which let's face it, right now adoption is all about fulfilling the a-parents needs, doing nothing to prepare the a-parents that their new little kid won't come perfect and undamaged, no matter how young, and above all, adoption is about making lawyers and agencies super rich).

Yeowch! I'm an RN and I can tell you - burns are the worst! I hope you're getting lots of help and sympathy from those around you and that you get well soon!