gdp's Comments

Womanist Musings : Woman Who Beats Up Son's Bully

Sat, 22 Sep 2012 05:03:07 +0000

I don't support and never defend an abuser, that's what a bully is. I would give this woman an award and I feel so sorry that she will suffer because of this. If you see someone being assaulted on the street and saves that person by attacking the criminal that's not wrong, attacking an abuser because there is no possible way to save your son from the abuse is not wrong, an innocent child was suffering, she helped him, many don't get help, many are traumatized, many don't survive, all bullying survivors suffer the consequences for the rest of their lives.

Womanist Musings : Woman Who Beats Up Son's Bully

Sat, 22 Sep 2012 04:56:22 +0000

You don't understand the problem with bullying do you? It's abuse, abuse victims can't defend themselves, many times bullying is abuse done by a group, the abuser is normaly supported and popular, the victim is punished. You actually saying that an abuse victim needs to fight for themselves? Self-defense? Really? You think that would help in anything? Living in fear and waiting for being attacked, knowing no one will defend you and that no adult will help you, excluded in school while the abuser has no problems, having your sense of self attacked everyday in a place you need to go and need to stay with no escape, do you have any idea of how that's like, there are many people that are traumatized and many kill themselves. Bullying kills, you can't even mention that the victims need to fight for themselves, it's enough of our society telling victims what impossible acts they need to do to be safe.

http://minoriaeamae.blogspot.com/ : O mito e a má representação

Wed, 25 Jul 2012 03:14:24 +0000

Eu nunca vejo alguem como eu ou como as pessoas que conheço na midia, nem daqui nem de outros países, se alguém parecido aparece é sempre uma não-pessoa que serve só como parte do enredo, também pode ser o inimigo louco e perigoso ou o serial killer ou como elemento do enredo inspirador. Genderqueer na midia? Não há. Doentes mentais? Somos sempre os malucos assassinos e abusivos, mesmo se na realidade somos mais frequentemente vitimas. Deficientes? Só serve pra tornar a história inspiradora, se for doente mental somos trancados em algum lugar, na verdade se você tem problemas mentais você nem é apresentado nos filmes, serve só para o drama do sofrimento do protagonista ou amigo dele de trancar você pelo resto da sua vida em algum hospicio. Deficiente também serve para ser "corajoso" e se matar no enredo de como nossas vidas são terriveis. Autistas? Você quis dizer Rain Man, psicopata ou nerd? Lesbicas? Só pra sorte do espectador homem. Vitimas de abuso que não superam o trauma? Para criar histórias inspiradoras para as pessoas normais sobre superação e esperança, similar a história de deficientes. Pessoas feias? Gordas? Mulheres não estereotipicas de nenhum modo? Nunca vi. Quantos outras pessoas e grupos não existem na midia? Quantas histórias são contadas na TV de jeito falso e as pessoas acreditam? Tanto poder de informar desperdiçado e servindo até o preconceito. O meio mais aberto para a diversidade humana realmente é a internet hoje em dia, não é perfeito mas há um refugio para a midia regular desse jeito.

Womanist Musings : the Unwritten Rules: Ep. 4 "Let's Talk About Hair"

Sat, 21 Jul 2012 11:27:53 +0000

Not the topic of this post but I read an older post called "Dear Demi Sexual, Trans Ethnic,Trans Abled, Trans Fat and Other Fakers" and I was surprised to find misinformation on this blog, I love reading every post here, I wanted to suggest this post for clarification about the subject that was talked about since it's more accurate: http://amorpha.dreamwidth.org/37490.html If the author of that old post could read this it would be good since it lacked accurate information about some groups talked about and this is never good.

Womanist Musings : ‘Third genders’ and western constructions/appropriations

Fri, 20 Jul 2012 08:19:44 +0000

I read this again and just wanted to ask something that confused me, are you also saying that genderqueer are not real or are appropriating identities to look special? I am genderqueer and I saw accusations like this so I needed to ask because I didn't understood that part. Sorry but I can't edit the other comment.

Womanist Musings : ‘Third genders’ and western constructions/appropriations

Fri, 20 Jul 2012 08:07:49 +0000

I didn't know that, I thought third gender was called like this bcause there is the binary with one and second gender and people outside of it are third gendered, I used this term once for myself but I will not use it anymore, thank you. I wonder what could be a good term to use that doesn't have a story racism, English is not my language so maybe that's why I didn't knew that.

Womanist Musings : Dear Demi Sexual, Trans Ethnic,Trans Abled, Trans Fat and Other Fakers

Fri, 20 Jul 2012 08:01:28 +0000

The idea that otherkin are oppressed is ridiculous and offensive, saying you are an otherkin is not, people can say they are something like that and there is nothing wrong with it, I know many otherkin that are disabled, trans*, POC, gay, in general there are many that are not privileged so this special snowflake point of yours makes no sense. Many non-privileged people on that community are also fighting the ridiculous idea that otherkin are oppressed and they still call themselves otherkin.

Womanist Musings : Dear Demi Sexual, Trans Ethnic,Trans Abled, Trans Fat and Other Fakers

Fri, 20 Jul 2012 07:48:09 +0000

Wrong, DID is one thing, multiplicity is another, one is a mental illness the other is not and the person isn't harmed by having more personalities. The term Singlet is used wrongly on this post, it's a term used for people with only one personality, just that. <div style="display:block;margin:6px 0 0"><a class="a2a_dd" href="http://www.addtoany.com/share_save"><img src="http://static.addtoany.com/buttons/share_save_171_16.png" alt="Share/Save/Bookmark" border="0" height="16" width="171"> People with DID and multiplicity are neurologically atypical and that's the oppression involved, DID is also a disability.

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : The Most Spectacular Thing of All

Tue, 27 Mar 2012 23:11:47 +0000

I really like this post. Society wouldn't exist if everyone only learned and worked at academic professions, it's sad that this is the only thing people consider success, I am glad to read your post about it. I am not American but the belief is the same here. I am terrible with ADLs, nobody taught me those, I learned academics well and learned that academics don't matter if you can't take care of yourself, school traumatized me so when I read that school helped someone it makes me happy to know this exists. A parent that is proud of their children when they don't follow the expect path and proud when they have a different aim from what is considered success is really rare and great, it should be a normal thing.

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : Sarcasm 101

Tue, 27 Mar 2012 22:52:51 +0000

I learned it when I was a child because I love learning language and how people use them so sarcasm and figures of speech are interesting for me. I didn't learned like others do or at the same age. Sorry if my replies are not well written, my English is confusing today.

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : Sarcasm 101

Tue, 27 Mar 2012 07:49:01 +0000

I am autistic and very sarcastic, I am more literal when I am tired or my cognitive skills are changing, my language changes a lot, from sarcastic and understanding figures of speech to literal and slower, from verbal to non-speaking, to not understanding language and etc. So most days I use sarcasm and understand it, other days I need to ask. If my mother told me that I am the most beautiful person in the world I will not believe her, not because I know it's not true or not, my mother doesn't even know everyone in the world and that's subjective, I can't believe it because of low self-esteem, I was told I looked really bad by others in my life, so nothing to do with being literal here. I think that if you use a lot of sarcasm with a person that doesn't understand it you need to be careful, some can confused that with lying and loose the ability to trust, not what I see on this post because your daughter knows what sarcasm is, but some autistic people may be confused because of being literal and because of past stories and think you are lying or making fun of them. Non-autistic people that are treated badly can make the same mistake.

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : On \"Quiet Hands\"

Thu, 24 Nov 2011 00:58:45 +0000

I love this post, it's so powerful, even today as adult I have people trying to tell me how should I act and how my body should move using the name of therapy and helping. Stop your hands, look me in the eyes, move your arms when walking, etc. There are many moments in which I focus so much in how I'm moving that I forget what I was doing, were I was going or how to do things. There are many moments I stop and just don't really know what to do with my body.

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : The Self-Advocate/Parent Dialogues, Day Nine: Kristina Chew

Fri, 30 Sep 2011 00:06:39 +0000

Thank you, that is really good to know and remember.

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : The Self-Advocate/Parent Dialogues, Day Nine: Kristina Chew

Fri, 30 Sep 2011 00:04:42 +0000

Sadly were I live college is the main purpose of going to school, I would like to go to college, I like learning, but I can't, don't know if I ever will, right now there is a discussion on an Asperger list about college and it makes me feel really bad because everyone is on college and they don't even think someone with what everyone calls "high functioning" autism or asperger can't face college. I think that's why I like neurodiversity, it says that I have value even if I'm not the same as everyone else, I could be wrong about this, I don't know, sorry I don't really have a constructive comment here..

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : The Self-Advocate/Parent Dialogues, Day Eight: Amanda Forest Vivian

Wed, 28 Sep 2011 20:25:19 +0000

Your comment is really important, helping people with behaviours that hurt them is one thing, I don't know anyone against that, healing something that is a pervasive part of who we are is completely different. Helping is not the same of doing everything to 'help', even hurtful things. Not wanting a cure is not the same as not wanting to help and teach children to have better lives.

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : The Self-Advocate/Parent Dialogues, Day Eight: Amanda Forest Vivian

Wed, 28 Sep 2011 19:53:18 +0000

Don't worry, it was a good and useful example.

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : The Self-Advocate/Parent Dialogues, Day Eight: Amanda Forest Vivian

Wed, 28 Sep 2011 19:44:32 +0000

I understand you, but you are making some people feeling erased with this generalization, Rachel for example said she would love hearing that, I doubt anyone would love being called a "retard", so it's not exactly the same. I don't see the original comment as -I'm a parent, my feelings are more important. It could be more of - I think that I am like your parents, I was trying to say something nice, but I know now it could hurt. Parents need to have their experiences validated, even demonstrate what they did in the past so they can think about changes too, we maybe can't understand why she said it, but she could need to say it.

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : The Self-Advocate/Parent Dialogues, Day Eight: Amanda Forest Vivian

Wed, 28 Sep 2011 19:17:54 +0000

"You're placing the burden on the world, where it belongs, and not on your son. " That is really important. Excellent way of seeing things.

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : The Self-Advocate/Parent Dialogues, Day Eight: Amanda Forest Vivian

Wed, 28 Sep 2011 19:14:35 +0000

I was exorcised once, not my parents choice, but still family helping, nothing serious, but made me feel bad =/ ( Edit = This is not important, the comment just reminded me of that. Sorry.) I think the important part is, what the other person feels, like some could love hearing something and some could hate the same thing, I think this post shows that really well without generalize.

http://thinkingautismguide.blogspot.com/ : The Self-Advocate/Parent Dialogues, Day Eight: Amanda Forest Vivian

Wed, 28 Sep 2011 18:51:32 +0000

Thank you for this post, I love it, it truly put things I feel into words and made me think. Thank you again.