en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/1000855 Comments by anniegirl1138 http://www.pajamasandcoffee.com/?p=5243#IDComment228981518 My sympathies. The only problem we ever had was when dd was smaller and didn't like going through the metal detector alone. Thank goodness it only happened here in Canada where the TSA are more friendly. The ones in the US look like they live for the opportunity to humiliate people. Mon, 28 Nov 2011 23:54:42 +0000 http://www.pajamasandcoffee.com/?p=5243#IDComment228981518 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/08/ashtanga-vs-bikram-which-is-elitest/#IDComment183728678 Ashtanga is perfectly fine for anyone as long as the teacher understands how to modify and stresses that students listen to their bodies. I've taught the standing and seated series to kids as young as 9 and women as old as 75. We modified and they were fine. The real issue is the whole "purity" thing. If something has to be modified people are horrified. But is it yoga to force the body or to listen and work with it? I prefer Ashtanga and variations on it to anything hot. I get warm enough on my own. But if you prefer hot, so what. You are listening to what your body needs. This territorial sniping is not necessary, imo. As a teacher, you should guide ppl to where they need to be. Tue, 16 Aug 2011 22:56:40 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/08/ashtanga-vs-bikram-which-is-elitest/#IDComment183728678 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/08/nepal-3-year-old-child-determined-to-be-real-life-goddess/#IDComment180945454 The whole goddess thing is offensive but not that much different from the way our culture sets up young girls as beauty icons for grown women to aspire to. It seems the patriarchy is cool with female as long as it's not doing anything female - like maturing any way. Sun, 7 Aug 2011 16:40:52 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/08/nepal-3-year-old-child-determined-to-be-real-life-goddess/#IDComment180945454 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/07/child-abuse/#IDComment177071402 I wish I could be surprised, but I was a public school teacher for 20 years. If I learned anything, it was that not everyone was meant to be a parent. In fact, a lot of people would be doing the world a favor by never having kids. Unfortunately, most people don't stop and really consider their fitness and personal affinity for the job - because it is a job. Mon, 25 Jul 2011 05:50:58 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/07/child-abuse/#IDComment177071402 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/book-review-go-the-f-k-to-sleep-adam-mansbach-illustrated-by-ricardo-cortes/#IDComment164058814 It's funny but I wonder if a woman could have written it and garnered the same reaction? Sat, 18 Jun 2011 23:27:10 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/book-review-go-the-f-k-to-sleep-adam-mansbach-illustrated-by-ricardo-cortes/#IDComment164058814 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/miscarriage-sucks-what-to-say-do/#IDComment163756792 Listen. Just listen. Most grieving people just want to be heard and their loss acknowledged, and realize that often they will recount the same event with the same details over and over. It's called "processing" and it makes everything real because loss sometimes feels like a really bad dream. Most crucial thing in listening is to not give the impression that you would run off if you had the chance and don't turn the conversation back to you - even if you had a miscarriage yourself. The moment is about her (or him - fathers grieve too). Sat, 18 Jun 2011 03:10:48 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/miscarriage-sucks-what-to-say-do/#IDComment163756792 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/the-gayatri-mantra-only-for-men/#IDComment162045813 Another interesting example of how women are excluded from their own beliefs based on traditions that grew out of male dominance as opposed to any real "scripture". Sun, 12 Jun 2011 18:51:06 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/the-gayatri-mantra-only-for-men/#IDComment162045813 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/american-mom/#IDComment161871199 That's one of the many reasons we dumped our tv. Three years and it's bliss not hearing "I saw that on tv". Sun, 12 Jun 2011 01:52:28 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/american-mom/#IDComment161871199 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/why-women-pick-bad-men/#IDComment158867769 I think also that men, though not to the extent of women, do this as well. Wonderfully said. Fri, 3 Jun 2011 14:25:40 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/why-women-pick-bad-men/#IDComment158867769 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/the-yoga-body-is-disgusting/#IDComment158247287 Be aware if you go down that road. My yoginess has rubbed off on my husband and things I never thought we'd discuss in terms of bodily function have become standard fare. You can't unsee or unknow, just saying. Wed, 1 Jun 2011 16:45:13 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/06/the-yoga-body-is-disgusting/#IDComment158247287 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/05/become-an-elephant-yoga-blogger-right-here-right-now/#IDComment156511243 If You Ever Had Enough What I have now, probably for the first time ever in my life, is enough. I am not complacent about it. I recognize that relationships are active and therefore require tending. I know that nothing about the strata of society I occupy is immune to disaster. But in societal terms I have come to recognize as my norm, what I have is plenty. There isn’t a single thing or experience I lack. My emotional well brims and is replenished continually. Perhaps this is what has been nagging at me of late. My conscious mind – conditioned as it has been by years of North America consumer driven life-style and middle-class faux career ambition – feels I am not working hard enough to be … what? I don’t know. My inner-self has been quite weepy about it in a pushed around little girl sort of way. She knows we have enough. Time to acknowledge it and let a few things go. I have dreams. Modest and unassuming. But they are not deal-breakers for me and really never were. I have enough. It’s almost verboten to say that out loud as many people fear it invites the active mocking of the fates. That’s flatly ridiculous. Nothing is permanent and fate has nothing to do with that anyway. If you ever had enough, could you recognize it? A fair question. Thu, 26 May 2011 22:56:58 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/05/become-an-elephant-yoga-blogger-right-here-right-now/#IDComment156511243 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/05/an-affair-id-like-to-forget/#IDComment150716306 I think we take trust so much for granted that time and effort required to rebuild it can cause as many doubts as the broken trust. How much time you need is how much time you need and if he loves you, he will suck it up and do what is necessary. Don't be so hard on yourself. Tue, 10 May 2011 17:12:49 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/05/an-affair-id-like-to-forget/#IDComment150716306 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/05/to-the-stranger-who-left-the-you-asshole-note-on-my-windshield/#IDComment148165691 It would have been okay but for the snarky paragraph about him being a man in a bad relationship. That was gratuitous. I actually look for another parking spot rather than do the shoe-horn and inconvenience others. It's not okay to block people in. Shows a lack of respect for their space and their time, as you noted. Mon, 2 May 2011 16:38:49 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/05/to-the-stranger-who-left-the-you-asshole-note-on-my-windshield/#IDComment148165691 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/04/what-does-a-yoga-body-look-like/#IDComment142899755 I always thought the point was not confusing your "self" with your "body". The body is temporary while the self is eternal and the actual point of anything we do on this path they call enlightenment. The body is important b/c it houses us and maintaining our dwellings is a good idea. But it's not permanent which gets us back to non-attachment, which in my mind means being prepared for letting go of it (or other people's physical forms) when the time comes - as it will for everyone. Thu, 14 Apr 2011 20:02:43 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/04/what-does-a-yoga-body-look-like/#IDComment142899755 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/03/why-i-will-never-own-a-home-again-and-you-shouldnt-either/#IDComment138005782 There are many things to consider when deciding where and what will be home. Nice post. Mon, 28 Mar 2011 02:49:45 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/03/why-i-will-never-own-a-home-again-and-you-shouldnt-either/#IDComment138005782 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/03/monogamys-bad-rap/#IDComment137622851 "...both people in the relationship are actively engaged in becoming their best selves and committed to bringing that to their relationship." Agree totally. I get tired of hearing ppl slag monogamy and marriage b/c they can't find it, don't want to work at, messed up when they tired it or simply have no affinity for it. Sat, 26 Mar 2011 03:01:32 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/03/monogamys-bad-rap/#IDComment137622851 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/03/are-you-a-naked-person/#IDComment133885896 I am a naked person, I guess. Nudity within my home and with my husband has never been an issue, and I am puzzled by women who freak out about nudity in a locker/change room. But I am still reserved around people I don't know and being touched at all by someone I don't know or know just a little is not okay with me. Even people who stand too close in a check out line feels a bit invasive. Perhaps I am not naked enough, but there are some situations that call for clothing and space bubbles, imo. Thu, 10 Mar 2011 17:05:49 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/03/are-you-a-naked-person/#IDComment133885896 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/03/the-language-of-teaching-yoga-michelle-myhre/#IDComment132797483 I still struggle with "don't". Probably goes back to my being a middle school teacher forever. Nice post. Sun, 6 Mar 2011 04:57:48 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/03/the-language-of-teaching-yoga-michelle-myhre/#IDComment132797483 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/02/poetry-yoga-and-inner-city-youth-an-interview-with-hawah/#IDComment132775395 words breathe Inhaling expanding souls redirecting consciousness Intricately entwining the light and dark that burrows in even as it flows out exhaling self Best I could do for a spur of the moment comment. I'll think on it some more. Wonderful project though. Sun, 6 Mar 2011 03:33:43 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/02/poetry-yoga-and-inner-city-youth-an-interview-with-hawah/#IDComment132775395 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/03/dont-take-anything-personally/#IDComment132657471 My husband seems to have been born able to do this but I work continually. Sat, 5 Mar 2011 18:18:06 +0000 http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/03/dont-take-anything-personally/#IDComment132657471