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9 years ago @ The Toast - Happy Beverly Crusher ... · 6 replies · +18 points

Dog-loving Toasties: I am just devastated. My wonderful and perfect lab had a huge and terrifying mast cell tumor come out of nowhere this week. So of course we did the surgery to remove it, plus all the diagnostic stuff (ultrasounds, x-rays, liver and spleen aspirates), and now I'm waiting on the pathology results and I'm so scared I'm going to lose her. I've had her nine years, since she was a puppy; she got me through a PhD and the end of an engagement, we go for long walks every day, she is objectively the sweetest and kindest dog who ever lived. Everything is the worst.

9 years ago @ The Toast - A Slightly Subdued Ope... · 1 reply · +4 points

And now I sound way too invested in you stopping therapy. Sorry, Internet Stranger! I'm just remembering all those feelings of "wouldn't she tell me if I were done?" and "what if I hurt her feelings, is it like breaking up with someone?" But you should do the right thing for you. Good luck :)

9 years ago @ The Toast - A Slightly Subdued Ope... · 0 replies · +3 points

I totally agree that therapy is great for all/most people any/most times. But I do think there's something to be said for doing a piece of work and having that be enough, or enough for now.

9 years ago @ The Toast - A Slightly Subdued Ope... · 1 reply · +7 points

I had a wonderful therapist who really helped me get through the misery of ending an engagement and finishing graduate school. I kept seeing her for a month or so after graduating, but it felt like the work we were doing had sort of come to- not a close, exactly, but a pause. And then I got a job halfway round the world! I still check in with her from time to time over email, but at the time (a year ago almost exactly) I had very definitely "yup, done." feelings.

I also think you should talk to your therapist about it! That's what I did. I tried to quit about 2 months before my dissertation was due; she was like, maybe let's revisit this when things are more stable? And then she brought it up after graduation. I think a good therapist will support you in terminating therapy, if you're ready.

9 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 0 replies · +63 points

These cookies are amazing. The best. Do not forget to mix deosil rather than widdershins, or the chocolate chips turn into raisins.

9 years ago @ The Toast - Let's Talk About The B... · 3 replies · +37 points

Books my parents didn't balk at: everything Stephen King ever wrote, Jaws, Dracula, all of my granny's paper-bag books (the Harlequins she kept in paper grocery bags next to her bed), The Sex Adventures of Ayla and Jondalar.

Books my parents made me wait a couple of years to read: A Time To Kill.

9 years ago @ The Toast - How Do You Handle Jet ... · 0 replies · +3 points

Weeeeelllll I'm not an avid runner, so for me it's more of a "stagger and wheeze resentfully." But it works! Or at least makes me miserable about something other than jet lag.

9 years ago @ The Toast - How Do You Handle Jet ... · 3 replies · +29 points

My formula for US-Europe trips is (1) arrive mid-afternoon, (2) haul several huge suitcases up steep hills and also several flights of stairs (or some other form of vigorous exercise), (3) go for a long walk to find food, (4) eat something magnificent at an hour that a reasonable person would call dinner time, (5) let oblivion take you, (6) get up early and go for a run.

Bonus points: do this in Norway in the dead of winter or the middle of summer, when daylight provides no sensible cues for your body to follow ("What? It's 2PM? But it's... dark?").

10 years ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +4 points

Somerville is the best. You might try getting tickets to The Slutcracker (if that's your jam), or checking out The Donkey Show in Harvard Square. Plus, here, have a list of all my favorite Camberville Things:

Brunch: Brookline Lunch or Veggie Galaxy in Central Square, Johnny D's in Davis Square (ugh, they're closing soon, I'm so sad).

Cocktails: Saloon in Davis Square, Trina's in Inman Square, Green Street in Central Square, Russell House in Harvard Square.

Not-so-fancy dinner: Trina's in Inman Square, Punjabi Dhaba (also in Inman Square), Ebi Sushi in Union Square, All Star Sandwich Bar in Inman Square

Fancy Dinner: Puritan or Bergamot, both in Inman Square (Puritan has a hardly-publicized dollar oyster night on Tuesdays)

Have fun!

10 years ago @ The Toast - Movie Yelling With Shr... · 0 replies · +5 points

So, this movie was almost exactly the same flavor of stupid-and-entertaining as The Chronicles of Riddick, right? Because I kept waiting for the Necromongers to show up.

NB, I love Riddick and am incapable of flipping past it when it airs at 2AM on TNT. So obviously I thoroughly enjoyed Jupiter as well.

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