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9 years ago @ http://www.adopteerest... - Uncovering Adoption Hi... · 0 replies · +1 points

Thanks for posting this though I do not share your faith I was adopted by "Christians" in fact that was one of the major reasons apparently I as adopted because god told my adoptive mother to do it - as I got older and having left the Christian faith being somewhat disillusioned by the example had been set to me, I often used to wonder as if my adoptive parents would have also told me that god had instructed them to lie to me regarding where I had come from and what information was actually available to me. What I was told was completely untrue - and for the majority of my formative years I believed that my birth mother had abandoned me because she didn't care and because I was unwanted. That there was nothing beyond that for me to know which was totally untrue. so for over thirty years I had been kept in the dark about the information that was available and probably missed out any possibility of finding and reaching out to my blood relatives back in Hong Kong as I would imagine by now many of the older generation will have died. I now have no real hope of finding any of my blood relatives.

10 years ago @ Lost Daughters - Gone Too Soon: The Hea... · 0 replies · +1 points

Thanks for posting this article as modern day society shares up to the complexities of life in general it is (albeit tragic) heartening to see exposure, exploration into the myriad of intricacies and challenges that adoption can impose upon the adoptee
It is great to see people beginning slowly to see those within society as people first and foremost and like any group within society adoptees experience the full range of emotions and experiences and we cannot continue to ignore and pretend that negative experiences do not happen to those who have been adopted.

11 years ago @ http://www.adopteerest... - An Interview With Acto... · 0 replies · +1 points

Abject apologies for forgetting to mention that I also contributed to the book ADOPTIONLAND: From Orphan to Activist
Thanks for posting the interview

Kind regards
Lucy Sheen

11 years ago @ http://www.classicalso... - Stephen Sondheim&rsquo... · 0 replies · +2 points

Thanks for the clarification Charles and Oh dear god Charles. Yes indeed it says it all

11 years ago @ http://www.classicalso... - Stephen Sondheim&rsquo... · 2 replies · +2 points

First of all to clarify KABUKI is NOT WHITEFACE. Kabuki is a practice that has developed of over centuries and has nothing to do with the actor wanting to appear "white." How utterly arrogant to assume that because one sees white make up on an East Asian actors they must be seeking to portray westerners. If you'd like to read more from a lay person about Kabuki then you can do so by reading this blog article http://lucylaituenchausheen.wordpress.com/2014/07...
In the 21st century it is just not good enough and especially in inner London which is such a diverse and multicultural city. Why is it that society can say NO to blacking up and see it for the despicable, ugly and racist practice that it was and yet YELLOWFACE is somehow acceptable? As a British East Asian I find Yellowface every bit as insulting, demeaning and racist as my fellow Black, African and Caribbean colleagues found/find Blacking-up. Yellowface is not just merely the act of applying yellow make up and physically or make up wise adjusting the appearance and shape of the eyes to give the impression of someone from East Asia. It is the portrayal of East Asians in a stereotypical and caricature manner. The elephant in the room for me is why does structural and institutional racism still persists when it comes to this society and how British East Asians are culturally represented?

11 years ago @ Laura Dennis Blog - Announcing a New Writi... · 1 reply · +1 points

I'm based in the UK and very interested in submitting - is that ok?

11 years ago @ Lost Daughters - Guest Post: Meet Lucy ... · 0 replies · +2 points

Hello Liberty so sorry that it has taken me so long to reply but I have been a tad busy performing my solo theatre piece which - yes you guessed it is about growing up as a transracial adoptee in 60s pre-multicultural UK.
Totally agree balance is the key - difficult for TRAs sometimes to achieve, but not impossible
Thanks for taking the time to read and respond to my piece
Lucy

11 years ago @ Lost Daughters - Guest Post: Meet Lucy ... · 0 replies · +1 points

Hello parkjaesun thanks for taking the time to read my story. It's a double edged sword isn't it when you identify with someone else's story. It's comforting to know what you're not the only one that had feelings, or where faced with similar challenges and got through them. But then there is the part of me that thinks this should never have happened in the first place.
Sorry it's taken me so long to reply
Lucy

11 years ago @ Lost Daughters - Guest Post: Meet Lucy ... · 1 reply · +1 points

Hello Liberty. Indeed balance is what it is all about which I think we TRAs find difficult even those that have had a positive early life experience. In order to move forward we have to understand where we have come from.

11 years ago @ Lost Daughters - Guest Post: Meet Lucy ... · 3 replies · +1 points

So true Kym. I suppose the common denominator is whether the TRA accepts or comes to terms with their "past" is not open for question. We all have our own back stories, we all have learnt to deal with or have come up with our own coping mechanisms and there is no right or wrong, it's a personal choice. What works for one will not necessarily work for the another. Some adoptees only want to journey so far, some put themselves into a state of denial because that is the only way they can cope with the loss, the trauma. What for me is most important is that those who are responsible for adoption, those who drive the policies and the procedures understand that no matter what happens; transracial adoption, the very nature of this act is an intervention. It is profound and long lasting and these children will face specific challenges and issues. Now as an adult TRA you may choose to handle your life in the way that you see fit. But as a child, perhaps we can help that child to grow and develop by equipping them with all the tools in the box to enable them to cope and deal with all that life has to throw at them

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