gdp's Comments

Jujumama : Men = Stabilizers | Women = Harmonizers

Wed, 12 Jan 2011 22:31:22 +0000

I don't know why I never saw this post before. Yes, absolutely, it works. The more patient and watery I am, the less fire I use, the better my relationships are. I have really owned the watery aspect of myself since having babies. Thank you for explaining the earth element so clearly. I never enjoyed getting stuck in the immovable "I am right!" earth. But I love her positive: the stop, drop and roll. That's exactly what my partner and I decided on when we first met. It's worked well for me to do it, not so effective when he does. I see why now: I am still recovering and learning to trust men (and him) so I discourage a strong fire. But I am tired, I do need a break and I crave the warmth. I'll meditate on it and keep practicing. Thank you for being so enlightening and practical again Kenya!

Jujumama : Sugah Daddy…

Sat, 1 Jan 2011 17:30:44 +0000

We all do. Us 'strong' able surviving women. We need to repair the broken trust and learn to receive.

Jujumama : Sugah Daddy…

Sat, 1 Jan 2011 17:29:28 +0000

My first thought was (right or wrong, you decide) that of course he would not want to pay for your kids' Xmas. He has kids. He looks after them so he knows that responsibility as well as the sweetness of making them happy. He does not need to be a good guy with yet more kids. What he wants is to make YOU happy by giving you things that will make you grateful, relaxed, sweet and even more receptive. You are not creating a blended family: he's in it for the fun and wants a woman who will have fun with him, me thinks.

Jujumama : Busting Windows is the Norm?

Sat, 1 Jan 2011 17:16:21 +0000

Not a Tantra Master either but it does help with relationships!

Jujumama : Busting Windows is the Norm?

Fri, 31 Dec 2010 16:47:32 +0000

I keep thinking about this and my last point is that open relationships are so controversial that most ppl are probably hearing is the voice in their own head screaming: "She wants me to share my partner with someone else!" They are not thinking: "Hum, if this tantric stuff works on an issue as deep and controversial as loving more than one person, it probably also works for deciding what car to buy, where to go on vacation or what house to live in together." If you want to teach the conflict resolution techniques, you might want to go in baby steps and teach them on more publicly accepted subjects of marital arguments! lol! Ok, I'm outta here. Going ice skating. Enjoy the rest of the day! Love you both and your teachings that make my every day life BE-TTER!!

Jujumama : Busting Windows is the Norm?

Fri, 31 Dec 2010 16:41:58 +0000

It also occurs to me that as healers we often teach what we learned a few years ago and we have become masters at. You are masters at working together and at conflict resolution but it seems to me that you are still learning and creating your open relationship. It might be easier to teach conflict resolution techniques on subjects that are not so controversial. It took you and Carl years to get were you are at with your open relationship. Give your readers time to catch up!

Jujumama : Busting Windows is the Norm?

Fri, 31 Dec 2010 16:38:54 +0000

I think most of us are taught not to feel as children. Or we have traumatic experiences that teach us that feeling hurts so we shut down. Trauma without tenderness and support to recover from it means shut down. We need to feel to thrive, to create and to grow spiritually. So we create drama to kick start feeling again. I blogged about it 3 times before the Solstice as I could feel that energy pattern welling up to the surface. It's here if you are interested: http://www.attunementsforthesoul.com/blog and http://www.attunementsforthesoul.com/the-problem-... and http://www.attunementsforthesoul.com/the-spiritua....

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Wed, 1 Dec 2010 04:36:00 +0000

Yes, what we are learning from you is invaluable Kenya. And yes I find you very relatable.

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Wed, 1 Dec 2010 04:33:52 +0000

Beautiful.

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Wed, 1 Dec 2010 00:10:25 +0000

I completely agree and that is why a group of female healers are making a point to meet and DO things together in my little village. Sometimes we read a book, sometimes eat healthy food, sometimes go for a walk or cook or pick an angel card and share healing. We have a sleep over and a hot tub evening planned for this winter. Nothing earth shattering but everyone is positive, open to change and growth, does their best to own their stuff. We even made our vision boards around the same dining table and talked about them together. i also have a local friend who organizes "Spa Days" where healers go to a woman's house and look after her friends with massage, energy work etc

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Wed, 1 Dec 2010 00:04:26 +0000

I am so glad you spoke! Your many words are a soothing balm to me today.

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Wed, 1 Dec 2010 00:02:39 +0000

I to-ta-lly agree. Thank you for putting it so well PeaJae! I think Kenya is one of those archetypal and key human beings who create a blueprint for us all to have available so that if we chose to use it, our growth and change will be easier. She is a ground breaker. I recognize it because I do it in other areas of spiritual growth. It is hard work. And the souls who were born for that purpose really need a lot of support to enjoy the human part of their life. (Hakashamut: this was channeled for you by the way. Not sure who was doing the dictating though. She says: the energy of the Ocean)

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Tue, 30 Nov 2010 23:52:32 +0000

I don't think yo need to lower your vibration to meet people where they are at. You need to lower your vibration to lower yourself to only what people who lead an unexamined life know. But none of us are going to go back and fit inside that tiny box. Like a good teacher can teach her subject at any level, from beginner to advanced research, an enlightened being can see the divine spark in others and find a meeting point with anyone. For example: while I choose not to attend drunken party because I find them really boring and I don't have enough time in the day to do what I enjoy doing as it is, if I happen to be around people who are drinking, I can follow the jolly mood without drinking myself. We are all one. They are me and I am them and there is no mistake. Of course I understand that we don't want to live with drugs, bad food, negativity etc 24/7. But something in me is starting to feel like if I am strong in myself, it shouldn't affect me that much.

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Tue, 30 Nov 2010 23:41:28 +0000

I say that too: "I need to go to other healers coz I can't see my own butt." Always makes people laugh. I don't know why because it's a simple truth!

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Tue, 30 Nov 2010 23:38:24 +0000

I love this. Right on!

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Tue, 30 Nov 2010 18:21:47 +0000

Will do. Share more here I mean. Divine Ocean of Love. Rumi. Sufism. Oceans of compassion. Buddhism. Those are the training grounds of many lifetimes. Other things and places from the Amen as well. All coming together now. You are definitely at the forefront of current spiritual expansion in everyday life. Your courage and honesty are inspiring.

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Tue, 30 Nov 2010 18:03:32 +0000

Enjoy Vegas! I have often wondered how I would react to a place like that. I can barely tolerate Philly! lol!

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Tue, 30 Nov 2010 18:01:52 +0000

Being intellectual and in charge served us well at one time. Loving that smart part of us helps us move to the next way of being.

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Tue, 30 Nov 2010 15:25:15 +0000

I agree with everything you said Tokushuwan. And I also think that for really spiritual and intellectual beings to learn to be in their body and to have enough compassion to love others where ever they are at is the next spiritual frontier. Enlightenment comes easily to a lot of people these days. Angels and ancestors abound, speak freely and are heard easily. I agree that we just need to learn to chilax and be with others and demonstrate what we have learned without always teaching it. I know that's my lesson at the moment. My kids and boyfriend insist on it! I still don't drink though.

Jujumama : A talk with my husband…

Tue, 30 Nov 2010 15:15:47 +0000

I love that you are supporting your wife so lovingly and so publicly Rakem! Speaking as a woman receiving love, there is a difference between being loved and adored and feeling tenderly held. And while it looks as if most grownup men only need tenderness occasionally, I think that most women need it more often. Mothers in particular because they need to pass tenderness on to their children to socialize them and make them emotionally intelligent. So they need to receive a lot of it themselves to avoid becoming depleted. That's where the cooperative and trusting female friendships come in. So I think that you are still on the same issue as in the 'bitches' post Kenya: once you trust women to get emotionally closer to you, you will automatically receive more tenderness in your life. Speaking as someone who does not have TV, does not eat junk food, has lived on a spiritual island for many lifetimes and is in nature an albatros whose purpose it is to survey the Ocean of Divine Love and report about it to others, I will say that even when we grew up without attachment and tenderness it is possible to download the energy of tenderness and create the cells, synapses and chemical reactions that will create it in our body. Speaking as someone who was magnetized to you and your teachings out of (apparently) nowhere 2 years ago and decided to leave last winter because of what I perceived as a lack of compassion on your part: 1- I was never repulsed by you. I was just protecting myself from being pushed faster than I could comfortably change as I suspect most non-returners do 2- I came back to your site and joined cn365 a month ago because it felt as if you had changed and you were more loving and more tender already. Also I think you have done so much, spiritually, emotionally and physically in the past 3 years, worked so hard, moved, learned, built a company, grown, shared, looked after your family through all of it, you might just be really tired and need to look after yourself for a lil while. I've had a very similar life. And sometimes I just need to sleep. With much Love, Light and tenderness to you and yours Kenya.