en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/214433 Comments by silver http://www.komonews.com/news/local/30891829.html#IDComment8442273 When I met my ex-husband, he was very careful around me. He admitted that he liked to fight, but with men only. He waited until just before I married him to tell me that he was an illegal in this country. After I married him, he waited a month and then began to accuse me of things that I did not do. This was because "God" told him that I was doing these things behind his back. When he accused me, I would stand up to him and tell him the truth. He would not believe me. Then a month later, he hit me. I was in shock. He apologized to me and promised that he would never do it again. He then hit me again a week later. Again with the promise that it would never happen again. The third time he hit me, it was so hard that I was on the floor-bleeding. I could not get away because he had the keys to the truck he was driving, he damaged my car so it would not drive, he had the only key to the apartment that we lived in and the only phone that we had was in his possession. I waited until he was in the shower and ran for my life and this was because he would not go outside naked. I got a restraining order against him. He violated it now many times, I have called the police many times and they make a report each time, but he is still out. They have not arrested him even though he now has warrants out for his arrest. When I got the restraining order, the judge told me that he had 21 cases of domestic violence, 1 case of rape and 1 case of stalking in his background. Now it has been 2 years since I got the restraining order and he has only been in jail 9 months. He thinks that because he was released, he is innocent. Today, I am looking for a job, so I really cannot change my number at this time. He has called me 14 times just today telling me that he is coming over to my house. I now lock my door to my home at all times. Even when I am in it. When someone knocks at the door, I have to ask who it is before I touch the door. I am not afraid of him, but when is it going to stop? Celtics017, where is my peace of mind? I cannot move because I do not have the money to do so. I turn my phone off at night just so that I can get some sleep. Sadly, if my children(none of them are his) are in trouble, they will have to wait until I wake up and turn my phone back on before I can be there for them. He always seems to be innocent-but is actually very good at manipulation of people and the system. So, how do I stop this? How do I get him deported when ICE believes that he is a native? I can understand others who have it hard because of this. I do not let this change my personality. There just needs to be another way. Mon, 13 Oct 2008 23:12:03 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/local/30891829.html#IDComment8442273 http://www.komonews.com/news/consumer/30544639.html#IDComment8432803 I have been on both sides of this issue-as a collector and a debtor. There are a few rules that most people-especially collectors forget. If you answer your phone and actually talk with them, they are not to call you for at least 2 days. If they do so, it is illegal. Call the cops and report them. They are not to call before 7am and not after 7pm. I was called in the middle of church on Sunday. I chewed them out because of this. I informed them that they could call at other times and I would be more forthcoming. And yes, they begin to run all over you and claim that they will go to court against you. As long as you are making some sort of payment towards the debt, they cannot do that. As a collector, I listened to the client and made suggestions as to what they could do to pay their bill. They actually were more willing to pay the company I worked for because I was not yelling at them, instead I was there as their partner in getting the debt paid. They even called me to tell me that they were able to make their payment and I cheered them on! Remember that both the collector and debtor are real people. That they both have feelings and that money is the issue, nothing personal. Mon, 13 Oct 2008 22:41:35 +0000 http://www.komonews.com/news/consumer/30544639.html#IDComment8432803 http://dev.www.komonews.com/news/30465914.html#IDComment7568633 I have been applying for Microsoft positions for years. I am a white female Mormon who gets told that I am overqualified and they do not want to make me bored with the job. Bore me already! My name is up for 7 positions and I bet that I would not be asked to come in for even an interview this time. I have been unemployed for 1 1/2 months now and for someone who does not complain, works hard, works well and is willing to do anything to make the job work right, I am surprised that they would not touch me. ...Filling in these blanks do not work for me. Sat, 4 Oct 2008 20:42:53 +0000 http://dev.www.komonews.com/news/30465914.html#IDComment7568633