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2 years ago @ Clever Manka - Thursday Link Dump · 2 replies · +4 points

I'm still trying to process what they were going for. I did kind of like the idea posited at the end, that gender can be "how do I want to move through the world" rather than "who am I inside" because I do really struggle with naming who I feel I am, but I am moderately comfortable operating in the femme-to-nonbinary scope (AFAB). I don't think I'd ever read masculine and don't know that I need to to feel like me, but I'd like to read a little less femme to the rest of the world.

It feels a little disappointing for the two people to talk about it as if people are gravitating to a gender, moving through nonbinary as a way station, or being given too many options for identifying.

I did kind of agree that it would be nice to have something defined by what it is instead of what it isn't, but as long as gender construct exists in its current binary, I'm going to not feel warm and cozy in any given one, so "genderqueer" or "femme-ish-nonbinary" is as close as I'm getting.

3 years ago @ Clever Manka - Daily February Prep Post · 0 replies · +4 points

I'll be pulling a tarot card a day and writing about it a little. I've been mostly doing this since the start of the year, when I opened up my weekly "planner" which I've turned into a small journal.

It's been good - like today I've pulled the 10 of wands right as I was feeling deeply overwhelmed by Doing Too Much. A good reminder to just... stop. To draw some boundaries around what I want to do and what I can do and what I need to do. To not burn myself out on things that don't matter.

It's been nice to just write a couple lines instead of being faced with a whole empty page I feel like I have to fill. And to have a prompt instead of facing the vast unknown of my brain parts.

3 years ago @ Clever Manka - Social Isolation Open ... · 1 reply · +4 points

fyi I think the especially problematic scene is in Ep 6, if you appreciate knowing it's coming.

3 years ago @ Clever Manka - Social Isolation Open ... · 1 reply · +3 points

I have watched the first episode and read many of the books. I have ~feelings~ about the nonconsensual scene (they are not good. this also happened in the book and they were not good then either).

What are your feelings? I so far find it a visually striking show, am unnerved by how old the men look and how young the women look (Daphne's actress is 25, cast as 23, but looks v. young to my 32 y.o. eyes. Then again, so does my own face...), do not like the addition of Marina's story (she existed in the books, in another way I do not like, but I like this new story line less), and enjoy the commentary by the gossipy older women.

It is enough for me to keep watching for now, but I may have to tap out.

3 years ago @ Clever Manka - Friday Open Thread · 1 reply · +5 points

I would love to get jacked! My preferred method of exercise is lifting barbells, which I haven't been able to get done because (gestures broadly at COVID). Maybe it's worth investing in a set-up for my garage.

I hear you on the convenience of sundresses and leggings. I've defaulted to femme quite a bit in the summer because I read as femme pretty strongly and it's just been easier. But dysphoria is kicking in the past years and I'm hoping to find broader inspiration. Gimli and per @Lee beer belly dad are going to where it's at.

3 years ago @ Clever Manka - Friday Open Thread · 0 replies · +4 points

A+ idea to channel beer belly dad energy.

3 years ago @ Clever Manka - Friday Open Thread · 7 replies · +7 points

I am wishing for some snowy mountains right now. I'm in a place where there is rarely if ever snow and my little northern heart misses it deeply.

A lurker asking a question on dressing for gender-nonconformance. I'm lately trying on a more masc clothing style and it's feeling more comfortable than anything else has since young me stole and wore my brothers old cargo shorts and plaid t-shirts. My flannels and sweaters are going great for winter but I'm struggling to figure out how to exist in summer and struggling to find images of people who don't have the "tiny androgynous" figure in casual wear. There is no escaping the fact that I have hips, even (especially?) when I wear minimizing bras.

Any help/recommendations welcome.

3 years ago @ Clever Manka - Social Isolation Open ... · 0 replies · +4 points

:) Glad to help start it on a particularly cryptoid note!

3 years ago @ Clever Manka - Social Isolation Open ... · 8 replies · +10 points

long time lurker (I lurked The-Toast), first time commenter. Just wanted to poke my head in and say HI AND THANK YOU ALL FOR EXISTING.

I appreciate everybody here and I am rooting for all of you!

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