en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/602425 Comments by ronhuxley http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2011/05/13/what-is-your-cq-curiosity-intelligence-quotient/#IDComment153031390 I haven't but I am going to now :P Tue, 17 May 2011 13:34:44 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2011/05/13/what-is-your-cq-curiosity-intelligence-quotient/#IDComment153031390 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2011/03/01/parenting-guilt-is-a-waste-of-time/#IDComment131856104 That is fantastic Naomi! Thanks for posting. Wed, 2 Mar 2011 14:46:53 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2011/03/01/parenting-guilt-is-a-waste-of-time/#IDComment131856104 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2011/03/01/parenting-guilt-is-a-waste-of-time/#IDComment131855982 I agree that there is another side to this. Guilt is generally a powerful emotion that corrects behavior. Shame is a not so helpful emotion related to guilt. Addtionally, I wanted to focus on getting parents to not miss a moment enjoying their children. Thanks for the comment. Wed, 2 Mar 2011 14:46:15 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2011/03/01/parenting-guilt-is-a-waste-of-time/#IDComment131855982 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2011/02/19/parenting-differences-attract-and-annoy/#IDComment129633648 Thanks Naomi for your comment. Having an agreed upon plan for rules and boundaries is excellent. For some families that can be quite difficult. Kudos to you and your husband. Mon, 21 Feb 2011 16:20:53 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2011/02/19/parenting-differences-attract-and-annoy/#IDComment129633648 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2006/12/19/the-promised-land-a-poem/#IDComment119196281 Thank you Queen n Ivy! I had forgotten about writing this poem. I kind of like it myself :) Sun, 2 Jan 2011 19:58:05 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2006/12/19/the-promised-land-a-poem/#IDComment119196281 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2010/08/27/what-to-do-about-bullying-and-teasing-in-schools/#IDComment97150116 I think it is perfectly acceptable to talk to the other child's parents. I don't know what you will encounter given that the home life of the child, that causes him to act in a bullying way, may be less than ideal. You could approach the teacher to get some idea about the child's family. I would also check with the school about any bully policy that they may or may not have. There may be some clear policy directions they need to be taking that they are not... Sun, 5 Sep 2010 15:52:24 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2010/08/27/what-to-do-about-bullying-and-teasing-in-schools/#IDComment97150116 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2008/12/26/are-children-overdiagnosed-with-mental-disorders/#IDComment90495443 Thank you Gina for your insightful comments on ADHD and the "roller coaster" that the whole family. Tue, 3 Aug 2010 05:17:39 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2008/12/26/are-children-overdiagnosed-with-mental-disorders/#IDComment90495443 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/ptmembership/#IDComment90495133 Michele, no it does not mean that at all. There are times you have to let them suffer the consequences of their own choices. This doesn't mean you are not empathic towards their situations but you cannot rescue them either. Tue, 3 Aug 2010 05:14:17 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/ptmembership/#IDComment90495133 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2010/01/02/your-child-is-manipulative-so-what/#IDComment90495011 Brian, Thanks for your comments. You are right that there is no magic bullet but there are general principles that can aid parents. Too many approaches focus on the "management" of child and not in the "relationship" aspect. Tue, 3 Aug 2010 05:13:01 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2010/01/02/your-child-is-manipulative-so-what/#IDComment90495011 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/11/08/should-adult-adoptees-have-rights-to-their-birth-certificates/#IDComment65128608 I agree with you on the freedom of choice. It is an individual decision that each adoptee should make for themselves but if they choose to, they should have the right to do so. Thu, 1 Apr 2010 05:00:08 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/11/08/should-adult-adoptees-have-rights-to-their-birth-certificates/#IDComment65128608 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/12/27/should-you-let-your-child-have-a-facebook-account/#IDComment63584835 You make some very reasonable points about how to manage social media and children. I especially liked your comment about showing your trust in their inherent good nature. Thanks for offering that up! Tue, 23 Mar 2010 03:26:05 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/12/27/should-you-let-your-child-have-a-facebook-account/#IDComment63584835 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2010/02/17/6-steps-to-stress-free-parenting/#IDComment61160142 Your words are true but rarely heard these days... Kids are usually the last thing we think about when considering something as traumatic as divorce. Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:07:00 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2010/02/17/6-steps-to-stress-free-parenting/#IDComment61160142 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2010/02/27/is-there-a-volcano-in-your-home/#IDComment59565138 There is a moment of catharsis in letting it all out. The problem is that it also hurts and the original problem is still there. Good points! Wed, 3 Mar 2010 14:43:10 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2010/02/27/is-there-a-volcano-in-your-home/#IDComment59565138 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2010/02/27/is-there-a-volcano-in-your-home/#IDComment59565029 Thanks for being honest and sharing. I have had my less than perfect moments too :). Fortunately, there are other ways to manager anger. Keep in mind that anger is a "secondary" emotion. Something usually comes first, like sadness, loss, hurt, etc. Id what that is will help you. Wed, 3 Mar 2010 14:42:18 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2010/02/27/is-there-a-volcano-in-your-home/#IDComment59565029 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/12/27/should-you-let-your-child-have-a-facebook-account/#IDComment59564859 Thanks for posting your question and your concern about this girl's safety. I think it is definitely a risk that the mom is taking with this. If this were a safer, kinder world, we wouldn't need to be concerned. But it can be a dangerous world and so, I would agree with you that it is an unnecessary risk that I would not want to take. Wed, 3 Mar 2010 14:41:00 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/12/27/should-you-let-your-child-have-a-facebook-account/#IDComment59564859 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/12/27/should-you-let-your-child-have-a-facebook-account/#IDComment49280561 I love how you use social media as a way to teach a child how to think. This attitude should be applied to all things when parenting. Thanks for the great reply. Mon, 28 Dec 2009 04:59:03 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/12/27/should-you-let-your-child-have-a-facebook-account/#IDComment49280561 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/11/08/should-adult-adoptees-have-rights-to-their-birth-certificates/#IDComment48355681 Thanks Heather for sharing. It is going to take the voice of many adoptees to get this changed in every state. Keep speaking up! Mon, 21 Dec 2009 14:56:27 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/11/08/should-adult-adoptees-have-rights-to-their-birth-certificates/#IDComment48355681 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/11/03/are-dads-valued-as-good-parents-in-society/#IDComment48355460 Thanks for sharing this reminder "nugget" Suzanne. It is good to honor both mom and dads in their roles as parents. Mon, 21 Dec 2009 14:55:32 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/11/03/are-dads-valued-as-good-parents-in-society/#IDComment48355460 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/11/13/transracial-adoption-have-you-been-discriminated/#IDComment43279473 Thank you so much for your honest reply. Your situation is not a common one that I have found and it illustrate the very problem of adoption and discrimination in the article. I hope your children never have a clue about the ignorance. You will have to do a lot of work to educate and buffer them as they get older. Feel free to share some of the things that have worked for you. Blessings! Sun, 15 Nov 2009 04:46:08 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2009/11/13/transracial-adoption-have-you-been-discriminated/#IDComment43279473 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2008/12/26/are-children-overdiagnosed-with-mental-disorders/#IDComment43279377 I do believe their is hope that society can adjust. It will take voices like yours and mine to speak up and be heard to make sure that mental health is used in a sensible and balanced way. Focusing on the strengths of children (and adults) is essential to mental health regardless of the "diagnosis." Thanks for the reply. Sun, 15 Nov 2009 04:44:23 +0000 http://www.parentingtoolbox.com/2008/12/26/are-children-overdiagnosed-with-mental-disorders/#IDComment43279377