en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/765457 Comments by rmb5202 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85431279 The ten commandments results were ridiculous because I bet half those participants were lying through there teeth. Actually reviewing that I felt like a terrible person because almost everyone of those commandments revealed except for about two I did. The difference with me though would be that I would not be afraid to admit that I have went against the commandments unlike I think most of the people taking the survey did. It is funny how people do point the finger at others and look at themselves as well as there family members as angels. Thu, 8 Jul 2010 02:53:03 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85431279 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85431251 The same thing happened to my boyfriend yet he was the one who did not make the team. He tried out for the baseball team and my dad happened to be the coach. We did not even know each other at this point because it was freshman year of high school so my dad cut him. The only reason my dad cut him was because the other coaches knew a young fellow from the neighborhood and felt bad cutting him so they cut my boyfriend (who was very good) instead. The words literally came out of my dads mouth when we started dating, “I wish you were dating Regina that year because you would have made the team.” As shocked as I was it was true. My boyfriend at the time had no connections and even though he was better than probably half the boys on that team he did not make it because he did not know anyone. It really is unfair but see I have for the most part always been the way who benefited from it that I never really looked at the people who were not so fortunate. Thu, 8 Jul 2010 02:52:51 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85431251 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85431223 I agree that people should not have the right to tell others how to act or what to do. It is rather crazy yet interesting that affirmative action and nepotism are almost the exact same thing yet looked at completely different. Affirmative action is great for us white women 9as expressed by Mr. Richards) so I am very grateful. I do support affirmative action now because I understand I would not be in college if it wasn’t for affirmative action. I think almost everyone has benefited from nepotism at least once in their lifetime. I must admit I have benefited from nepotism more than once. I went to a high school where I literally knew all the softball coaches cause they were from my neighborhood and knew my parents very well. I honestly got onto the softball team because of that reason. Now granted I am not such a bad player but I can be sure there were definitely better people out there on the try-outs days that were not even looked at because of me and my connections. Thu, 8 Jul 2010 02:52:39 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85431223 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85427703 I agree that most people have benefited from nepotism and it does happen in the work place all the time as well as in other cases as well. I have the same story as your brothers with my boyfriend. He was trying out for the baseball team for his high school but did not make it because he did not have the connections some of the other kids had. He went to several of the baseball teams games to see how good the other boys were compared to him and they stuck but just because they knew somebody they were on the team. Thu, 8 Jul 2010 02:34:10 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85427703 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84817453 Growing up a bit on the poor side I took a little offense to that statement although I realize it was not directed to me and I probably should not have taken offense to it I did but some people honestly do not choose to be poor in some cases. Congo the dog is a very sad story but at the same time I can understand it. Although the man was working minding his own business I can see where the people are coming from wanting to save the dog. Now don’t get me wrong I find it to be completely racism but he is illegally here so getting as much as he did get is great. The dog should not be killed because he does not seem like that much of a threat if the owners are going to keep a close eye on him. The dog was completely wrong but he should not be punished to death because he did not kill the man . I guess this is my pet loving self speaking but I can see where the people who want the dog to live point is coming from because the man was here illegally and the owners can watch there dog more carefully from now on. Mon, 5 Jul 2010 02:57:59 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84817453 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84817409 I agree with Dr. Richards when he spoke that people who are immigrants are not going to change there culture just because they moved somewhere else. I hate people that can not speak English when they come into my work ( which is retail) but I never think to myself that maybe they just moved here and don’t want to change to please others (which I fully understand and respect.) Although I can see there point it does not mean that if I went to another country I would not at least try to change my ways to make things either for the people living there as well as myself. The statement made by Dr. Richards that struck me by surprise when he stated, “ Poor people are a problem like immigrants.” I think its true to a certain point but overall I think that statement was inappropriate. I think it was terrible throwing the poor people under the bus. Being poor sometimes isn’t a choice and I understand living with poor people is a pain is the butt but sometimes people can work so hard everyday yet are still poor. Mon, 5 Jul 2010 02:57:33 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84817409 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84817341 Immigration is an issue that has been a problem for as long as I can remember (basically since before I was born.) It is not a democratic issue nor a republican issue it is just an issue in itself. People just assume that Mexicans are a majority of our immigrants. To be honest that is exactly what I thought too until proven otherwise. The facts prove that Mexicans are not the majority and I found that very shocking until I actually thought about it and realized Italians and Irish people (which is my culture and heritage background) can be immigrants too but since I am as well as the rest of my family considered Americans now I forget that they were once immigrants. Mon, 5 Jul 2010 02:56:51 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84817341 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84814090 I agree that most people just assume immigrants are Mexicans cause I know I surely did but the facts do show and prove otherwise. I am not the biggest fan of Glenn Beck either but I think I have that opinion maybe because it is just me being bias because I am a democrat and agree with most of their biases. The example of the dog, Congo was brilliant yet also rather sad. It proved a great point because immigrants do get attacked for just minding their own business and it is sad. It kind of sucks though because illegal immigrants are here without permission so although I feel bad for the man, being fair would be to kick them out even though they have a better life here recardless being fair is being fair. He got some money which is fair and good but honestly he was here illegal so there is really nothing that could be done. Overall, the example of the dog definately showed racism and I honestly felt really bad for the man. Mon, 5 Jul 2010 02:26:54 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84814090 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83603044 I remember when my car broke down on a street where cars could barely get by. I remember the cop saying to me “way to break down right here, your car cant move at all?” All pissed off I yelled back at him “do you really think I wanted to break down and if I could have moved my car don’t you think I would have?” Well let’s just say the cop was not to happy with me after that comment but I think the same situation applies for gay people. They do not choice to be gay, it is just something they are born with. I think it is wrong for people to not accept them due to something they can not help. Thu, 1 Jul 2010 00:58:12 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83603044 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83602960 My step mom has had her gay friend Dave around for as long as I can remember. He is the funniest, most genuine guy I have ever met. My family loves him (even my dad who claims to be homophobic) and he comes over every holiday as if he were blood. Every since I was younger I always wanted a gay friend like Dave because I thought they were the greatest things created. I have yet to find myself a Dave but I can’t say I am not still looking for my gay maid of honor. I think gay people do not choose to be gay. I remember talking to him and he knew he was gay and about the age of eleven. Thu, 1 Jul 2010 00:58:06 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83602960 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83602911 I have a grandmother who is very religious and God forbid if I were gay I ever told her because I think she might have a heart attack on the spot. My grandmother goes to church every Sunday and prays over everything and anything. I guess you could say she’s the type of women who does everything by the book (or at least that’s what she likes to call it.) I wish she could have watched this lecture because I think its important for her to understand the gay world. She claims to do everything by the book but if I know my grandmother correctly she does not. That woman curses like a angry truck driver and I have seen her have her fair share of drinks. Also, although I don’t know nor do I care too know this detail,. I am almost sure she used protection during intercourse which is “against the book.” Everything does things wrong so why should the gay people suffer more for doing something “wrong.” Thu, 1 Jul 2010 00:57:37 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83602911 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83602774 Every culture forbid’s the gay, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender society no matter where you are raised. I was never taught by my parents that being gay was wrong but going to catholic school my whole life they made it very clear to their students that being gay is wrong and punishment will be made to those who are gay. Even though I am straight I always felt it was wrong for our teachers to say such awful things in class as I knew I was surrounded by many lesbians (going to an all catholic girls high school.) I found it very interesting yet so true when Mr. Richards stated, “ More color people have a harder time accepting the LGBT group which may seem shocking because they don’t fit into the world because they are black.“ I find it crazy that they would make someone else feel uncomfortable when they know first hand how it feels (although I guess it’s a semi different situation it still seems unfair.) Thu, 1 Jul 2010 00:57:22 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83602774 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83595686 Your story is very interesting and inspiring and I think you are handling it very well. My cousin is bisexual with a baby as well. Although my cousin is not dating her step sister she was dating another female until things went sour and the girl cheated on her and started treating her like dirt. Now my cousin is on a break with girls at the moment and switched to males. Now although she changed her mind about what sex she is with, I think its confusing for her son at times and my aunt gets nervous they are doing things out of line when she is not around. The truth is (after talking to my cousin) she loves her son to death and would do nothing to harm him so she shows him respect and does nothing in front of him as I’m sure your daughter does as well so I would not worry. Thu, 1 Jul 2010 00:30:12 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83595686 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81821497 I agree completely that finding out about your race at a young age is not a bad thing. I think its always so much better to do things and be taught at a young age because as your grow up you realize its harder to adjust to things. I think you bring up a great point with right and left handed people. It would be completely odd if you were to write with your left hand all your life until someone taught you to write with your right and you found it was so much easier. You would feel robbed of life and i think thats how people would feel if race was never talked about in until an older age, a person would feel robbed of their own background and feel lost. Thu, 24 Jun 2010 01:39:33 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81821497 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81820500 The commercial of the white man talking in so many different ethnic voices trying to rent out a house was very surprising. I did not think that race was still so common today (I guess because I don’t consider myself a racist) but clearly it stills exist. I would never in my life turn down someone just because they were not the same as me. That to me was completely ridiculous and embarrassing. I am embarrassing that someone from my own race would treat others with such discrimination just because there skin color is different. Thu, 24 Jun 2010 01:33:40 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81820500 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81820428 Mr. Richards made a very good point when talking about adoption. I agree that adoption is best when they are not the same race because it makes the person well rounded when they have the experience of understanding their differences compared to their parents and family members. When talked about among the family members and adopted child, adoption is not as bad because you know your differences and the affect is not as bad as if you didn’t. I thought it was sad when Mr. Richards told the story about the little girl in pre-school coming home crying about another little girl who was white telling her she was dirty because her skin was so dark and that’s what happens to the white girl when she gets dirty. Although its not racism it’s still so crazy that at such a young age the black girl had to look at herself in the mirror and question herself as to why she is so dark. It’s so sad that black people want to be lighter and would do anything to get light. It was heartbreaking when the girls on the video were talking about how they used skin bleaching and were putting it on as young as 6 years old; that blew my mind. I never thought that black people felt that way and it honestly upset me. It was sad with the girls and the dolls and how their girl was pointing to the “nice” doll only because she was white it’s like the world at that time brainwashed everyone into thinking that white people are “gods.” That to me is insane and completely uncalled for on so many different levels. I am so happy that I did not have to grow up during the times of that little girl because although people think race is an issue nowadays nothing compares to the times that little girl experienced. Thu, 24 Jun 2010 01:33:11 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81820428 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81820370 This lesson was interesting because I got to learn about a race I am unfamiliar with. I found it very interesting yet so true when Mr. Richards said, “Different people have different experiences” because everyone (even if you’re the same color) have different experiences depending on your environment. The “color” pre-awakening stage was not surprising to me when the Asians would think of themselves as white because there skin is light and growing up I can totally see how an Asian would think they were white without learning about it first. Thu, 24 Jun 2010 01:32:43 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81820370 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81159097 I agree that people should not be so easily offended with stuff because sometimes I will say something not trying to offend anyone at all and would never call it offensive yet someone (of another race) would get offended just because they think they can. I could not agree more when you stated it is hard for white people to refer to someone as black because white people are criticized often so they never know what to say because they are unsure if it will hurt someone’s feelings or not. Also I agree that color is topic of conversion throughout the world. When I am talking about someone or describing them I will use their color to help describe them and I think it is definitely where our world is at today. Mon, 21 Jun 2010 01:24:51 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81159097 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81158571 I enjoy the concept of racial identifiers presented in the lecture. The BRO concept really stood out because I realized Sam did that a lot throughout the first couple lectures and actually thought someone would be offended. I mean I guess I figured that was just the way he was but I definitely just figured someone would get offended one way or another. Lastly, while watching The Red House clip, I was thinking to myself why did they have to say there white, black or whatever color someone is because it doesn’t matter. There is no couch that is specifically for white or black people. I found it annoying that they had to keep saying there race when it was obvious what color they were, I understand it suppose to be comical but honestly I found it disturbing that race was such a big part of the commercial. Mon, 21 Jun 2010 01:17:49 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81158571 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81158541 The clip with the twins was ridiculous. It is so sad how ignorant they are but I honestly think it is their parents faults because they is how they are raise and they can’t help where they come from. I mean sure they are old enough now to reason the difference but who knows maybe in the future they will come to terms that everyone is equal and should be treated the same. I found the wash cloths segment so interesting yet so true. I am white and do not use a wash cloth rather a sponge or even sometimes if I am in a rush my hands. I always just thought that wash cloths were annoying but my grandmother swears by them. My close friends who are not white are always using a wash cloth and when I asked my one friend why and she responded with, “Because there is nothing else that will get you as clean as a wash cloth.” I never took into consideration that black or brown people use wash cloths because they feel as though there skin is dirtier than white people. As a white person it’s not that I don’t use a wash cloth because I think my skin is clean I just don’t like the feeling of the wash cloth on my skin. Mon, 21 Jun 2010 01:17:27 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment81158541