gdp's Comments

What it Takes : What it Takes, by KEZ. A SpiderForest comic.

Tue, 4 Dec 2012 12:51:11 +0000

augh, I can't tell, because I'm not sure what comic this was on.

What it Takes : What it Takes, by KEZ. A SpiderForest comic.

Sat, 28 Jan 2012 05:47:51 +0000

Omm nomm nommmmmm. definitely not Aiel. Though I find it funny you're using those rumors here. If you are. I'm going to pretend you are because that's funnier. :D

What it Takes : What it Takes, by KEZ. A SpiderForest comic.

Wed, 4 Jan 2012 19:09:10 +0000

I had to read that twice to get it. I was like.. "Cairhienin? Is he really implying that they are before Laman's Folly? Innnttteerreessttinnnggg" Regardless, I'm still loving it.

What it Takes : What it Takes, by KEZ. A SpiderForest comic.

Sat, 31 Dec 2011 17:05:46 +0000

Spear sister, You are amazing and I love you forever for this reference.

Womanist Musings : Clarification of Question and Yet Another Apology

Mon, 19 Sep 2011 14:13:30 +0000

Perhaps this is why I didn't read the question as an attack... I'm far too used to LGb(..t?) spaces being unsafe for me and seeing lots of racefail. Sometimes in an actively hostile way, sometimes in a stupid questions and presumption of knowledge or relationship that isn't there. I instinctively evaluate every space I'm in for it's safety re: trans * stuff, and I'd be very surprised if that calculation wasn't present regarding ableism as well.

Womanist Musings : What Are You Reading?

Wed, 27 Jul 2011 11:53:39 +0000

Right now I'm working on "Right to Ride" by Prof. Blair L. M. Kelly and "Press Enter" by John Varley (which has some issues with race). A couple reccs, but the first book comes with a HUGE trigger warning, but you might give "Grunts" by Mary Gentle a try. I really can't emphasize enough how big of a trigger warning though, the book is a comedy... sorta.. but it's got some pretty nasty things in it. Second book is sci fi, and oldschool hardcore sci-fi at that, but one of my favorite: Joe Haldeman's "The Forever War" If you feel like reading a slightly longer series, but more fun than intense, try Margret Weis and Tracey Hickman's Death Gate cycle. It has an interesting well worked out magic system and one of my favorite characters of all times in the second book. :)

Womanist Musings : Ten Things Not to Say to a Trans Person

Mon, 27 Jun 2011 16:27:47 +0000

ugh number 3. So tired of that "if you would just wear a little more makeup you'd look SO much more feminine!" from my mom... with the occasional add-on of "If I just had been able to raise you as a girl you'd not be like this." Pink hair and a piercing... wooo so skeery, and absolutely NO cis women look like me at all. Nope nope nope.

Womanist Musings : Thoughts on Buffy Season One

Fri, 27 May 2011 14:21:37 +0000

Everything you say is fair. Season One is atrocious. The fighting DOES get a little better but is never stellar. I might get some Firefly fans mad about this, but I think it's not until Dollhouse that he gets a decent fight choreographer, and a cast that can really support it. The one thing that I'd say to add a little perspective about Buffy herself, however, is that I think Joss intended for her to be horrible in all the ways you described. From the later seasons, including season 2, it really did feel like he was pointing out all the problems with these characteristics.

Womanist Musings : DEATH IN THE FAMILY WE NEED YOUR HELP

Mon, 9 Aug 2010 13:05:59 +0000

My condolences. If I can donate I will, but my heart goes out to you and your family

Womanist Musings : Segregated Schools Are Not A Thing of the Past

Tue, 27 Jul 2010 17:53:45 +0000

Nashville is/has been dealing with something along these lines. There was a bit of an uproar over it, but I'm not sure how it has shaken out as the coverage dropped off. Need to check with my mom, she'd actually know :P

Womanist Musings : Senator Eric Adams: Stop the sag, pull your pants up

Thu, 1 Apr 2010 05:31:57 +0000

We construct the image that we wish people to see, and then run with it. Some more consciously than others, and I think that's the key point, to not just do something "because", but fully aware of a choices implications and effects. Clothing as much as everything else we do in life. Nashville recently tried to pass an anti-sagging law. Horrible idea that would be enforced unevenly just as a by-product of our cops being much more prevalent in heavily PoC areas. That story could go on and on. Gr.

Womanist Musings : Introducing Kola Boof

Thu, 1 Apr 2010 05:14:17 +0000

My memories of Sudan are fractured and almost without a sense of time, but I remember very clearly the panic of my parents when the coup happened. I remember very clearly the dead silence in the Embassy van when it was stopped by soldiers with rifles asking for our papers. I've only been paying partial attention to Sudan since then, because I am so heartbroken from what I hear and what I remember. It is those memories that drive me to listen, and drive me to fight... but I have always felt powerless to help the country I spent two years in as a child. The time for me to listen and fight about this is long past, but better later than never. Welcome, and thank you for your words, your memories.

TransGriot : It Ain't 'Deception'- We're Living Our Lives

Wed, 30 Dec 2009 15:59:44 +0000

You call it 'deceptive' because you're having a problem processing the fact you were feeling the positive vibe and aura that particular transwoman was broadcasting to the world because she's finally happy with herself, and you were intrigued enough by it to step to her.

Completely unrelated to dating, but the positive vibe thing earned me one of the funniest comments I've received in awhile. Was changing my name on an old account at the electric company (it's been 7 years since I had an active account with that company) and when I was leaving, I had to step back to the desk to grab my almost-forgotten name change court order, and said "Gotta have that." She replied, "Well, you seem happy about it!" "... Yeah, I am." The sorta absurdity of it all had me laughing all the way out to the car. She was well meaning enough, and very helpful, but I think the fact that I was so obviously happy about where my life was and who I was sorta threw her for a loop. Yep. I'm happy about it. Yep, I've got a positive vibe... and a pair of stompy boots to go with my army jacket. :D

Womanist Musings : Disableism Impacts Families

Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:10:45 +0000

Hoping that everything went well with the call

Womanist Musings : Just Another Manic Monday

Mon, 30 Nov 2009 20:57:07 +0000

I actually got some stuff done today. Went to talk to the people at the unemployment office (my claim isn't straightforward... like anything about me is ever. sheesh). Got some copies of my name change paperwork from the court as I had lost mine a good while back. Went to my secondary bank and FINALLY got my name changed, and deposited the start of my SRS fund.. $42.50. **sigh** Hey, at least it's a dedicated account that can't easily get raided for day to day stuff, and it's a start. Here's to hoping.

Womanist Musings : Just Another Manic Monday

Mon, 30 Nov 2009 20:52:22 +0000

Yay for class and fame privilege!

Womanist Musings : Just Another Manic Monday

Mon, 30 Nov 2009 20:51:44 +0000

Yeah. This and some discussion with christOhaters on twitter really contributed to my being angry all week last week.

The Jaded Hippy : http://jadedhippy.blogspot.com/2009/11/art-sharing.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_c

Sat, 14 Nov 2009 15:31:40 +0000

Ok while I claim nothing like those above awesome peices, I totally understand the attraction to drawing on Styrofoam cups. When done with the correct marker or pen, it comes out awesome. I usually do stuff more along the lines of http://stevie.eclexia.net/erin/tmp_img/fly_small.... this, and only wish I could do those. Want pretty! :D

Womanist Musings : Drop It Like It’s Hot

Wed, 4 Nov 2009 21:08:54 +0000

testing the commenting system

Womanist Musings : Sorry, Men and Fun-Fems: All Porn Is Rape, All the Time (Or, If You Are Watching Porn, You Are Watch

Wed, 28 Oct 2009 15:52:33 +0000

as far as "breaking the role" how is the man supposed to know whats real, and what the woman's "will" really is, when he is in the fantasy-world of acting out real sex, but real-world legal responsibilities apply?

The same way that you'd know in a BDSM situation, or any number of other ways. Mostly, by not being a monster who is completely insensitive to their partner's wishes. I'm no expert on this section of sex-work, but my understanding is that the contracts do not say, "you do what I say and your further consent is null and void". I'll be coming back to this thread later, but just a quick note... I think that there are truely problematic things to do with porn, but consider this one thing. If the female performer felt their consent was removed from them in the production process, why would they return to it.?