But I wouldn't want to be with someone, who's only with me because they think they have already made the commitment, and cheating is wrong. I want them to be with me because they want to, not because they feel they have to.

Yeah it is a bad move to the other person because cheating states that you don't value that relationship.

Cheating is not wrong, because 1st of all its not legally wrong. No one is obligated to stay in a relationship with someone. You don't need to justify anything to anybody in the first place. In fact I think the cheating is wrong mindset can implicitly promote this sort of unacceptable behavior because it can make people feel that they are entitled to be in a relationship with the other person.

I've had friends that cheated on their partners, it dosen't mean they are lesser human beings or should not have cheated in the first place. As long as its legally abiding, people can make whatever decisions they want to with their lives.

Btw Trix have you tried using products to see if you can grow some of the hair back? Even though on your forum thread, you were balding quite a bit already, it might still be helpful. From what I heard they don't work on everybody and there can be side effects but they might work on you? I have tried using a shampoo to help me with my thin hair but it didn't work. But at least I gave it a go.

If you feel bad about your hair, you can go and try to fix that.

Yes men aren't forced to approach, but as a man, I really do believe, and I tell this to other guys as well, that if you don't approach there is a very very very high chance that you'll probably end up with no one. Women approaching is not a part of our dominant social, cultural narrative. And we are largely responsible for our successes and failures anyway, so if you want to date, then its up to you to make it happen, not someone else.

I would disagree, and argue that for guys its not wise at all to just sit back and wait to be approached. It will probably never happen for most men.

Even though guys are not forced to approach, because no one is forcing anyone to do anything, but if you want to be successful, then its up to you to be responsible for that. Approaching is only a disadvantage if you see it as a disadvantage. In fact I see approaching as an advantage for men because it pushes you out there, and it can help you develop skills such as confidence, social skills, pushes you into the mindset of being responsible for your own success. Yes there are many more times that I can count where it falls flat on your face and you screw up a lot. Failure is not ideal, but you learn from that. In fact, because women aren't expected to approach that is a disadvantage for them because they are missing out from going out there and gaining all these skills you can learn, just from approaching.

The only short term "disadvantage" that men are "supposed" to approach have is that not all guys are confident, have great social skills, body language, can carry a conversation. In fact I wouldn't be surprised if the majority of guys don't. However personality is not static, if you don't like who you are then you can change that. You can get rid of the disadvantage by changing yourself, and turn it into an advantage.

It'd be pretty helpful if you can state some examples of your connection skills. Maybe we can all examine and see what we think of them. "Connection skills" also seem a bit broad, what exactly are you referring to?

Dating, like social skills is context sensitive though. Maybe some woman will let the shyness slide, some won't. Personally I wouldn't put all my eggs in one basket and bank on one singular trait in order to appeal to women, whether it is appearances, or personality or confidence.

I agree, men also have the ability and potential to improve on their appearance. Guys can wear makeup, style their hair better, get flattering clothes, wear heels ( https://www.taller.com.au/ ), go lift, shave body hair, wax/thread eyebrows and so on. Sometimes some guys forget that they can do these things as well, cause its not the social narrative we were brought up with- that guys spend time on their appearance.