en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/759796 Comments by phillygirl91 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment70059619 It was really moving to read about this compassion and the helpful nature many of them possess because it's not often that we hear about this. For men and women in their situation it's kinda hard to even believe that they are these amazing people because we always come to the question of: If they are such a good person why are they in prison? This is a valid question. But that shouldn't be the only one in my opinion. This letter brought to light for me anyways that these people aren't as heartless as we believe, granted they have made a big mistake and I do mean a BIG one....we still have to take into account that these men and women are just that men and women they are not mean dogs that need to be locked up and looked down upon but we still have to view them as human beings! Sat, 24 Apr 2010 02:08:04 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment70059619 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment70059589 Wow this was beautifully written piece if it weren't for the fact of Sam saying this is from an inmate I would have never know. As a society we paint prison as this dark place with cruel people and for the most part that is true. But for a person to write something like this and being in the situation that they are in is something amazing. I couldn't wrap my head around the fact that the story being taken place in a prison and not only that these men have compassion for one another, are willing to help one another, and be....human. When we lock people up we have this mentality of we are locking up animals and I know I am guilty for that for the most part. Sat, 24 Apr 2010 02:07:47 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment70059589 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68449303 I really agree with what she is saying, but at the same time I do believe that being a woman is sometimes about appearances. When we get up and get dress we dress for other women not men. We want to look prettier than that other girl, we want that desirable figure that the girl in the magazine has, we want to be known as the gorgeous one that everyone envies. If you think about it we want the approvable of other women, we want the compliment of being called pretty, having a cute outfit on, and having a cute hairstyle. Men couldn’t care less about our appearances if it was up to them we would walk around naked. Sat, 17 Apr 2010 00:22:57 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68449303 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66858788 People are sick and demented I believe! Who would think of a game like this?? You can grope and rape a young woman and this is suppose to be entertaining? Like what the hell is wrong with society? This is so disgusting forget for a second this is a game, this actually happen to women, and the makers of the game thought that it was a good idea to exploit many women's pain and secret shame. I don't care what part of the world you live in rape and fondling a young or old woman is not entertaining! Forget that it's a game for a minute and this was your mother, sister, niece, or daughter and you got the call that she has been victimized. My point is even though it's a game it is to to to real for many woman that had this done to them. I'm not so disgusted right now at the woman who said she found nothing wrong with this game....what planet does she live on?! I find it sad that in order to sell games, books, music, etc.... we have to use sex as the selling point, I cannot believe society can sink lower and lower with each passing day. Fri, 9 Apr 2010 19:25:51 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/this-is-totally-off-the-hook__trashed/#IDComment66858788 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64936706 As children we all saw that Barbie always had the best accessories and the Christy doll was always funny lookin' so guess what...when you don't have an accurate portrayal of "black beauty" many tend to want to be someone they are not. It’s almost like beauty has to be taught instead on witnessing it firsthand because we see who is always on the cover on different magazines and in once in a blue moon we would see a beautiful woman of color on one of those magazines. Also, when we get older this feeling doesn’t go away because of the many comments we may endure for example “You’re cute for a dark skinned girl” or “She’s a lot prettier than you because she’s light skinned”. Wed, 31 Mar 2010 01:33:39 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64936706 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64936581 Despite all the comments on being shocked about the video, I for one was not. As a woman of color I could really see myself picking the white doll because the media portrays being fair skinned, having straight hair, and having light eyes is beautiful. Like seriously??? We all saw when Donnie typed in “beauty” in google images and what came up, so unfortunately this is what is being portrayed to today's youth. As sad as it is we have to do more than say "Black is Beautiful" because according to outside sources this conflicts with this statement. As a child my parents always told me I was beautiful don't get me wrong I know for a FACT that I am fabulous....but going to an elementary school that was predominately white tend to have an effect on you it gives you this longing to be like the other girls. Wed, 31 Mar 2010 01:32:30 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment64936581 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63036606 I found that ignorant white people will just either have the running joke with their other ignorant friends but when around a person of color they will never say anything disrespectful to them out of fear of either getting knocked the hell out or being painted as a racist. People of color I see just don't do that if they don't like you best believe they are not afraid to tell it to your face. The rude text message from the people of color played on the "positive and comical stereotypes" white people have, which most white people pride themselves on or feed into the at the same While the comments for the people of color were being painted as these uneducated, loud, obnoxious people. And guess what none of them would be brave enough to repeat what they text in front of the class so this why Sam chastised the white people more than the people of color. Fri, 19 Mar 2010 21:14:13 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63036606 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63036578 I believe rude is rude.......BUT when you don't have the guts to tell it to the person face you are just a coward! Ok it's not black people being sensitive...and for the record how do ya'll know it was all the black people being shocked first of all because the question was address to the people of color that means everyone that ISN'T white! So just say it was all the black people because how do you know it over a hundred people in the room! Also, if black people are going to say a rude comment best believe they will say it to your face or loud enough for you to hear it. The only difference was those cowards in the room was hiding behind the fact that it was anonymous and at any given day they would never say that to a person of color! Fri, 19 Mar 2010 21:13:54 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63036578 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/prom-or-no-prom-just-dont-let-the-queer-students-dance-together__trashed/#IDComment61714501 The administration should be ashamed of themselves! Cancelling prom because “it interfered with schoolwork” Seriously? It’s PROM! As long as you get the money for the tickets on time, the school should have no say so when it comes to who you are taking. Granted there is a dress code they can enforce but choosing someone’s date that is so wrong. It’s the student’s money!!! I think that’s what the administration keeps forgetting; I bet if the student’s put all of their money together they could have a better prom than what the school was going to give them. I hate it when schools act like parents and take things away because if it wasn’t for taxes and the parents letting their children attend that school….There wouldn’t be a prom to cancel because no one would be there! They administration know that they are in the wrong for canceling prom, so they are deciding to hide behind the fact of prom is more of a party and it has the right to be canceled, instead of saying that they oppose of same-sex couples attending prom together. It’s downright childish of them to do something like this! It’s the one night many would remember for the rest of their lives, how dare they take that from them! I feel horrible for the students that have probably been saving their money so they can go to prom. I think it’s disgusting what administration did because it’s not their money….why do they have a say in this matter. If they girl would have taken a guy and then ditched him to be with her girlfriend, would they even care? Come on it’s always that one girl who hates their date and ditches them. But because the girl outright said she wanted to take her girlfriend they believe this is an extreme problem. This is so discriminatory what’s next black girls can’t have dates that are not their race? I swore it was 2010, why is this issue considering the students are the ones footing the bill? Fri, 12 Mar 2010 17:15:57 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/prom-or-no-prom-just-dont-let-the-queer-students-dance-together__trashed/#IDComment61714501 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment59956353 While listening to this discussion it was like they were just talking in circles I believe and nothing was really said. This is soooo ridiculous bad enough that black people are the ones doing this…as a joke no less. Are they that bored? And why is dressing “ghetto” a good theme party it just feed into the stereotype that black people are ghetto and ignorant. This really pissed me off, I really want to know what was going through the heads of these people it’s utterly ridiculous that they would do such a thing! It’s not cool. It’s just stupid. I think the faster people would stop trying to live up to these stereotypes the faster we can get rid of them. I really disagreed with David’s idea of having more African American staff members it’s not because it’s a dumb idea, but it’s really unrealistic. It’s almost impossible to find that many minority staff members that are qualified to do the job efficiently. Fri, 5 Mar 2010 23:32:43 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment59956353 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment59956244 Alright they are just figuring out that most college students are immature brats? Seriously?? People are always ignorant they think that playing into the stereotype is fun to do…Don’t ask me why but they do. A noose! A noose! though. These kids are just stupid or hit their head hard that day. They don’t understand the history behind this hateful symbol. I still believe that it probably wasn’t a black student; if it was I don’t think we would be discussing this or it would be an issue. I think this interview was set up because it was assume that a white student did this, this is why people are reacting the way they are. Also, why are these people almost like the representative of the black community instead of the school? There’s no real story here, I felt as if it was thrown together. You could clearly see that! She didn’t even know the guy’s name and she was the interviewer. Fri, 5 Mar 2010 23:32:30 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/this-is-getting-to-be-too-much__trashed/#IDComment59956244 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/native-americans-question-three__trashed/#IDComment58885236 I think it's sad people don't think that this affect them in any shape or form! People are out there suffering they are not in a different part of the world that we can't see, they are literally in our backyard. I find it very ignorant that people believe it's either not are fault...like Sam said we are ALL IN THIS TOGETHER! People are living not at the poverty line but dangerously below the poverty line I find it hypocritical that people are willing to help others in another part of the world, but you can't find the time to help the Native Americans! We practically stole this land and genocide a whole group of people and not even give an apology for it....this is really f---ed up. I believe that once we admit that we did this to the Native Americans we have to admit our founders were heartless S.O.B's and I do not believe we are willing to admit this. And to the people who strongly believe that this doesn't affect you picture your family struggling day to day, trying to find illegal ways to escape your problems, and ultimately feeling like you don't even matter in the world and want to kill yourself. If you had to live as an Native American for a day...No an HOUR I think your views would change. Fri, 26 Feb 2010 22:53:57 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/native-americans-question-three__trashed/#IDComment58885236 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/lgbt-class-question-six__trashed/#IDComment57718358 I think it's because as women it's natural for men to see us together hugged up because as children we were socialized to be these gentle creatures and it's not really shocking; if you see to girls walking down the street you automatically think they are friends so it's harder to see if they are just friends or not, but it's not difficult to distinguish gay men from friends I believe. Sat, 20 Feb 2010 04:06:14 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/lgbt-class-question-six__trashed/#IDComment57718358 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/lgbt-class-question-two__trashed/#IDComment57717636 I agree it's not sexual attraction it's just you feel a closeness to that particular person. Everyone has once in awhile found themselves saying "Oh that girl is cute." or "Wow that guy is really buff.", but it doesn't automatically make them bi or gay it's just observing the beauty/handsomeness of the person. I think it boils down to a person to how comfortable a person is with their sexuality and if they can honestly say that can't see themselves being romantic with that person physical or emotionally. Then I don't think it's sexual attraction but if a person feels like they have to contain themselves when they are around that person then there something there. Sat, 20 Feb 2010 03:57:33 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/lgbt-class-question-two__trashed/#IDComment57717636 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/negros-of-the-world-unite__trashed/#IDComment55519378 This was an very interesting article it shows that the census is now trying to be “racial correct” because as a society we no longer accept the word “negro” it was socially acceptable back then but not now. They are in between a rock and hard place right now because of the word, but at the same time they are trying to do right by other races by boarding the racial spectrum (if that makes any sense). If think about it, it’s quite rare for a person to be just one race anymore because if you are a person of more than one nationality what can you possible put down and still be account for? So I guess the census is finally making a note of that. A lot of the other comments are underlining the fact that race doesn’t matter but seriously though it DOES! The first thing you notice about a person is the color of their skin so don’t act like you colorblind because you not and if you say that you are you are just lying to yourself. Sorry to say it but race is always going to be a primary factor no matter how much you don’t want it to be. Fri, 5 Feb 2010 20:03:00 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/negros-of-the-world-unite__trashed/#IDComment55519378 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/negros-of-the-world-unite__trashed/#IDComment55512569 I feel like you are doing what the census is doing by omitting the fact you don't know what to do. And first of all don't make a hasty generalization that black people don't care what they are called by saying that it just disrespectful! 1,000 of people wrote that in because of the sheer FACT from when they were children this is how other people identified them as a person, but I'm pretty sure if you came up to me and called me a "negro" it would not be pretty because I grow up identifying myself as an African American woman, not a negro! So just because 1,000 of people wrote it in maybe you should look at their age and then make the statement of whether or not as a people we care what we so be identify as. I don't mean to be disrespectful in any shape or form. Fri, 5 Feb 2010 19:03:10 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/negros-of-the-world-unite__trashed/#IDComment55512569 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/01/is-that-negro-or-negra-harry__trashed/#IDComment54417876 With his comments I truly believed he showed his ignorance and age.”Negro” seriously though….. How old is this man? He probably still believes these “negroes” shouldn’t be sitting at the lunch counter. In society we always take a few steps to better ourselves but it’s always that one person that screws it all up. Since when is it okay to call the President a “negro” like come on Massa! Get with it! And it’s funny when Bush was president his race didn’t matter one bit and we never referred to him as that “white president”. But every time someone refers to President Obama that is the first thing that flies out of everyone’s mouth. It’s so sad that no one hasn’t corrected him before this because I do believe he has done this more than once around a group of people and no one said anything. It’s not about being politically correct it’s more like a level of respect that you have for the opposite race. And since when being light-skinned and being able to speak in proper English have anything to do with the person’s ability to be president, it doesn’t matter if he is an elected official….Ignorance is Ignorance! It’s not about being “politically correct” it’s about thinking before you speak. It’s so sad that a man or woman has to define by the color of their skin last time I checked isn’t it 2010? Why is this still a problem in our society? The comments maybe “harmless” to some but still being defined by the color of our skin still stings a bit it seems like no matter how hard we work this is the first thing people see and then or accomplishments. It’s funny because he know what he said was insensitive but he doesn’t care I personally think he said this out of jealously he may be an elected official but he’s damn sure not President! This I believe can spark jealous in anyone. Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:32:56 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/01/is-that-negro-or-negra-harry__trashed/#IDComment54417876 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/01/last-name-begins-with-b__trashed/#IDComment53874621 Heyyyy! Tue, 26 Jan 2010 01:50:10 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/01/last-name-begins-with-b__trashed/#IDComment53874621 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2009/11/the-solution-to-the-race-dilemma__trashed/#IDComment53401803 I never really understood people who “bleach” themselves and try to be something that they are not. It's quite sad actually people cannot be even comfortable in their own skin. Many blame the media for this, but I believe if a child is brought up to believe that they are indeed beautiful, they would not need any reassurance from the media or from anyone for that matter. Maybe if we stop picking apart the way we look in the mirror there would be a less people with low self esteem and eating disorders. Let’s face it no one is perfect, having lighter or darker skin will not make you perfect. Fri, 22 Jan 2010 17:17:37 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2009/11/the-solution-to-the-race-dilemma__trashed/#IDComment53401803