en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/757387 Comments by paulh1124 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/tent-cities-in-haiti__trashed/#IDComment69469519 I think that this is pretty awesome. I was really thinking to myself especially with the last thing I posted on the 300,000 people dying how, everything starts back up. It is cool even though everyone is in tents they are still starting their own business in selling clothes and what not, it is even cooler then that the people that used to have businesses like salons and stuff are getting as much as they can together and getting it started again. I guess this is the first step to get the economy rolling. The funny thing is everyone seems content and happy, i guess they are over the fact there is nothing else they can do. Wed, 21 Apr 2010 22:48:19 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/tent-cities-in-haiti__trashed/#IDComment69469519 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment69465033 Wow, this really opened my eyes about people in prison. When I think of prison, I think of people who should be shunned and never spoken to, but I guess a person is a person and no matter the crime you do, it usually hits most people that waht they did was wrong. I mean I could not imagine living the rest of my life in prison, but I guess its like the last chapter of your life and when and if that happens you learn to adjust, just like adjusting to other things. The way he wrote these things, I would like to get him out of jail because it just seems like he has learned and jail should not be forever. This world is so complicated at times. Wed, 21 Apr 2010 22:38:40 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/letter-from-an-inmate__trashed/#IDComment69465033 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment69461259 I do not want my response to sound ridiculous or insane, but I feel as if its not directly our problem that stay away. Yes, I think the US and other countries should definitely help and people who want to help certainly can, but if people don't want to than they shouldn't have to. If something happened on our land then yes, taking some time off to help with the crisis is necessary. All people should help out their land and get it back on its feet. Same goes in Haiti, parts of Haiti were not effected as drastically by the quake so the people who were not need to pick up and help out. Yes, their country is more poor then ours so other countries should help in time of need, but it should a pool of money and aids that are in place already. Asking for money from the public of other countries I think is too much, especially how it was every other commercial Help Haiti Help Haiti. Like ok, we did... lets move on. Now I no that sounded really harsh, but I feel a lot of people feel this way. Things stop in countries its directed at so it makes everyone else pay attention and help out, but the world didn't stop when that happened, US business did not close like many did on 911. Even though many people want to help, there is just no way we can. If you were a concerned citizen and you went to your boss and said I need time off to go help Haiti I guarantee you would be fired. So, since that can not happen, many people have no other alternative so they just act like they forget about it and people get upset that no one wants to help when that is not really the case. We are currently in the middle of a war right now... yes there are other countries aiding in certain ways, but is other militaries over fighting with us no because its not thier battle! So I am trying to compare some things, but do not think it is working out to well. Ultimately, the end result is many more people care, but on the outside it does not seem that way because we just can not. Three hundred thousand people is a ton of people and it is a serious thing that happened, but this goes to show you no matter what happens in the world... do not expect every soul running to your needs. Thats a hard thing to say, but it is very true. My personal opinion is I would like to help physically rather then just giving money. I am always skeptical of where my money is going and how it is getting there that's why If I could go down myself and help I would in a heartbeat Wed, 21 Apr 2010 22:30:28 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment69461259 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment69459738 I do not want my response to sound ridiculous or insane, but I feel as if its not directly our problem that stay away. Yes, I think the US and other countries should definitely help and people who want to help certainly can, but if people don't want to than they shouldn't have to. If something happened on our land then yes, taking some time off to help with the crisis is necessary. All people should help out their land and get it back on its feet. Same goes in Haiti, parts of Haiti were not effected as drastically by the quake so the people who were not need to pick up and help out. Yes, their country is more poor then ours so other countries should help in time of need, but it should a pool of money and aids that are in place already. Asking for money from the public of other countries I think is too much, especially how it was every other commercial Help Haiti Help Haiti. Like ok, we did... lets move on. Now I no that sounded really harsh, but I feel a lot of people feel this way. Things stop in countries its directed at so it makes everyone else pay attention and help out, but the world didn't stop when that happened, US business did not close like many did on 911. Even though many people want to help, there is just no way we can. If you were a concerned citizen and you went to your boss and said I need time off to go help Haiti I guarantee you would be fired. So, since that can not happen, many people have no other alternative so they just act like they forget about it and people get upset that no one wants to help when that is not really the case. We are currently in the middle of a war right now... yes there are other countries aiding in certain ways, but is other militaries over fighting with us no because its not thier battle! So I am trying to compare some things, but do not think it is working out to well. Ultimately, the end result is many more people care, but on the outside it does not seem that way because we just can not. Three hundred thousand people is a ton of people and it is a serious thing that happened, but this goes to show you no matter what happens in the world... do not expect every soul running to your needs. Thats a hard thing to say, but it is very true. My personal opinion is I would like to help physically rather then just giving money. I am always skeptical of where my money is going and how it is getting there that's why If I could go down myself and help I would in a heartbeat Wed, 21 Apr 2010 22:26:55 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/300000-whats-it-mean-to-us__trashed/#IDComment69459738 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-are-we-doing-here-really__trashed/#IDComment68285110 The point is to learn all about this to understand everyone is equal in the long run. The point of this class as Sam said was to at least change how you view certain things. Now according to Lauries question in class when she asked how many peoples views changed in the discussion group,.. well only one person raised there hand. So to me that is telling me not many people are getting a lot of points in this class. Like I said before in a lot of blogs, if someone feels a way on something they are usually going to stay that way and keep that view. That is why this class is very hard to get points because many of us already have views on these things. Thu, 15 Apr 2010 22:56:26 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/what-are-we-doing-here-really__trashed/#IDComment68285110 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/christian-invaders-the-turnaround__trashed/#IDComment68284368 It is not about Christians taking over the world at all. Sam was giving a point on how Muslims or people over in Iraq are seeing this war. I totally understand what he is saying how we think this war is necessary and we know they are good Soldiers over there. Everyone currently living in the war zone are scared and think the worst and look at all the negative so what else are they supposed to think. The war though is about oil. I mean if politicians can say it and not only George Bush... then we know that is what its about. I am one of the people in class that are against war, and that's why I loved that toy store example in class. Because it is so true. Thu, 15 Apr 2010 22:49:30 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/christian-invaders-the-turnaround__trashed/#IDComment68284368 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68257215 Yes, I agree with what was said in the video. However, many women no matter what you tell them will still think their appearance is the most important thing. As for what was said in class I have many "girl" friends and I know they dress to impress each other not other guys. As long as it impresses the other girl then it will impress the guy. It really should not matter what you look like whether is be big breasts small breast fat skinny. I think for men it doesn't matter because we can care less aqout our appearance. Yes, there are a lot of guys that care about our appearance but not to the extent in which girls do. However, the video has a great attitude about it, but people will not see that we should relax and not care. Your body for the most part is made of genetics. Keep your natural body for how it is. No one needs surgery to look better. The play that was showed in class was very good and I think had a clear point that all women should understand. The whole issue on the media being brought up in class was good. It seemed Laurie did not feel it was a lot about the media, however, It does play a big part. It is because it has always been taught that way on the media from when we were born until now. Especially now with this generation the media plays a big part. It is just like a toy commercial. When a kid sees that commercial over and over and over again they want that toy and it makes them remember it more. So it is just an average problem that still exists and its something that is not just going to disappear. I definitely see how this can relate to class and how we are all equal no mater what we look like. Along with the media, it is friends and people we see everyday. What about the people that hardly wear clothes in the summer? Well the heavier people will not do that, but the thing that they are thinking is wow look at her I need to be skinner to wear something like that. Again, it should not matter what you look like. Wear what you want and how you want. Just because you do not look as good in a bikini as the skinner person does not matter, just do not wear it. You do not have to compare yourself to anyone and should not. That is the main problem, people compare to everyone else and keep thinking what they could do better to make themselves look better. Thu, 15 Apr 2010 18:53:26 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/women__trashed/#IDComment68257215 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/the-white-minorities__trashed/#IDComment66253023 It should not matter who feels in control and who does not. Lets get over it already. Who cares if the majority of the world is black, orange, red, brown. I believe we live one time and there is just not enough time to change everyone opinions about things and issues. We live to work... everyone deserves a job. The people with a better education deserve a better job. That is how it works. Everyone has a chance in the world to do what they want. It might be harder for some as we spoke about, but there are ways for the poorest person in the world to become wealthy. I mean look at JK Rolling. She was livi0ng in a shack and she wrote the Harry Potter Series and now she is a millionaire. So everyone can do something, people need to stop being lazy and get up and try. Tue, 6 Apr 2010 18:39:23 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/the-white-minorities__trashed/#IDComment66253023 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/is-quality-the-question__trashed/#IDComment66252209 I think Affirmative action is used a lot however, I think there is a line where it is used. For instance, in health care, if you have a degree and someone else has a degree and one is better then the other and the one that is less "smarter" i guess ill say is approved the job because of Affirmative Action, I do not see that a problem anywhere. You earned a degree just like everyone else. I consider that in the end the same qualifications. Someone without a degree Affirmative Action or not, they will not get that job I dont care if your my son or daughter. Yes there are some people with degrees that really shouldn't have that degree or whatever, but it doesnt matter, you have it you use it! Tue, 6 Apr 2010 18:32:58 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/is-quality-the-question__trashed/#IDComment66252209 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/i-really-want-to-know-also__trashed/#IDComment66251413 I was waiting for someone to ask this question. I feel the exact same way, my opinion has not changed in the least bit about anything Sam has said. My friend and I in the class will see things happening whether it be racist or prejudice and we will say that is something Sam would talk about or that is a Sam quote. So we do remember the things he says and the points he tries to get across. However, I feel this is the type of class where it effects thousands and thousands of people by being in the class, but only few people really get the points and change the way they think. It is like really doing anything or taking any class.... many people will do it, but only the ones that really understand and are interested will get something out of it. So I believe if you took this class because you heard it was easy to get a good grade or because you know someone in the class things like that are probably not going to help in changing your mind in anyway. Same goes for if this class was a requirement. However, if you taken this class on your own because you are really interested in it, I am sure those are the people really benefiting from this class and there mind is changing. Anybody can sit in a class and learn something, but its the real points behind just the learning. If you really see how Sam see's it or understand where he is coming from then you are getting something out of this class. I bet 100 if that many people out of the entire class really are getting most of this stuff. For the rest I think it falls between yes, you enjoy it but it is really not what you thought it was going to be. As I was reading some other posts about this, people are saying how alot of this stuff we learn is common sense. Well to the people that see everything in one way and no the basics behind stuff, yes it is common sense. I have realized there is a hidden point that Sam tries to get across at each lecture and whoever receives and understands that point it is more then common sense. It is taking what we already now and making everyone understand the problems behind them. If you think about it who really wants to change how they feel about things. That is a personal choice that i am sure many people do not want to change just because we learn something in one class. Although, I feel that Sam would like for everyone to at least take one thing that they learned out of the class. I think the class has potential, but it is too big of a class to have a conversation going. The class should be like 25-30 students. Tue, 6 Apr 2010 18:27:03 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/04/i-really-want-to-know-also__trashed/#IDComment66251413 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/nothing-about-the-census-is-easy__trashed/#IDComment65087675 I agree to some extent. If people had to choose every background they come from. We would probably have thousands of different people and categories. here, there is only like 8 or 9 to choose from. It can get very confusing if there are too many. I think this just makes it easier, but i definitely get what your saying and how it probably would be better if we all put what we really were. However, this goes not just for the census this question always has the same answers to choose from on anything when we are asked this. I would say it is politically correct. Wed, 31 Mar 2010 23:04:48 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/nothing-about-the-census-is-easy__trashed/#IDComment65087675 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/nothing-about-the-census-is-easy__trashed/#IDComment65087023 i agree one hundred percent. Who the hell cares. Why do people make a big deal out of nothing. I bet you if there was a term instead of white on there that was used in the past and taken away and all of a sudden appeared everyone would be up in arms about that too. They put it back on there for a reason, obviously there was some people probably complaining about it and enough so they put it on there. Like the person said, if it does not effect you and you do not go by it then who cares. No need to make issues out of it. Wed, 31 Mar 2010 22:58:57 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/nothing-about-the-census-is-easy__trashed/#IDComment65087023 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment65085947 I was very shocked to see the results of this. I am always in that mode that we pick our own look a like. So, as we were watching it I figured that the white kids would pick the white doll and the black kids would pick the black doll. It actually surprised me that most people picked the white doll. I think though, what people were saying in class about this was correct in a way. I also think it is that fact that most dolls and princess dolls and really any kind of doll were always portrayed as white. I think it is what people are used to. The few black dolls that are out there. If your parents bought you them as you were a kid and you always played with the black doll, I think they would pick that because they were used to it. It just really surprises me that most people pick white dolls because they know who is superior and who is not which I do not think is totally true. As someone said before though, it depends where and how you are raised. Kind of like what I was saying. If you are raised in a white community and everything you know is only white, then of course you would pick the white doll. I really think though that many black people would make their child get black dolls, as we learned in class many black people prefer the white ones and why is that? I would think that if your a black parent or non white you want your child to have certain dolls, but i guess that being racist i do not know. The media should be blamed definitely for some of it. They do take a major role in it and all commercials do not feature the black doll. So for people to say it is not the media, they are not right. It is a portion of the media, a portion of the home life, and a portion of the people they hang out with and are raised with. The whole thing about minorities and not being beautiful, I do not know what to say about that. Do shows really portray that minorities are the less beautiful ones? I guess yes in a sense because when there is a mix of people on the shows... then white people always take the spotlight for some reason. I feel as if new shows are different. Look at new Disney channel shows like Thats so Raven.... there are episodes that you notice problems, but for the most part Raven ends up winning in the end and she is black. So i think the focus is slowly changing. Wed, 31 Mar 2010 22:49:38 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/those-damn-dolls__trashed/#IDComment65085947 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63920579 Yea I agree with what you wrote and I think white people are scared. The funny thing is with knowing what happened in history and how white people seemed to be on top you would think it would be the opposite. However, like sam said people of color are more open to expressing their feelings and really not giving a rats ass about what people think. On the other hand many white people try to impress so they care more of what people think. I think this goes back to another thing you grow up with. You learn in school not really to talk about it it is not nice so we do not. Wed, 24 Mar 2010 22:56:25 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63920579 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63920205 Are white people really scared? I know that I am white and I would never be rude to a person of color for fear of being called a racist. People are making a big deal about nothing. I do not even think I noticed in class an uproar focusing on one side or another. Maybe it is because black people appreciate the class more then whites do. So they take all the stuff more seriously. However, I do not know that is just my opinion. As sam also said in class- these people would never say these comments out loud to anyone face. Maybe that is another reason so many bad comments came out of white people because they had the chance to do it on the board where no one could see. Wed, 24 Mar 2010 22:53:02 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/does-this-rudeness-thing-cut-both-ways__trashed/#IDComment63920205 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63919307 This one cracked me up. I never heard anyone in my life say they were proud to bleed haha. Although I never heard someone refer to a whole conversation about it as bleeding. Is it true though even though you have a period that does not mean you can re produce easily. Some people have problems reproducing and the person on the video seemed real excited about how she can reproduce so easily. MAYBE YOU CANT!! I am just kidding. When men rudely ask "is it that time of the month" , well in my opinion it is not rude. How else are we supposed to say it. Is that better then saying are you bleeding now. Wed, 24 Mar 2010 22:45:18 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/whats-the-big-deal-with-periods__trashed/#IDComment63919307 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/if-men-could-menstruate__trashed/#IDComment63918296 Really though what is the point of men knowing about them if they really do not affect us? I mean i am sure most men know about the period and the menstrual cycle, but to know details is pointless to me. I do not get grossed out about it, it is just one of those things that happens to women and does not to men. I do not think anyone should be grossed out by it, nor do I think SAM should have said everything that he did in class haha. Condoms are free, but when I asked someone they believed because it was made out of a cheaper material. Although, another person said that condemns are used to protect both parties which is true so maybe that is a reason their free and tampons are not. Is it true though if you take birth control you have a period every couple months rather then every month? Wed, 24 Mar 2010 22:37:02 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/if-men-could-menstruate__trashed/#IDComment63918296 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/prom-or-no-prom-just-dont-let-the-queer-students-dance-together__trashed/#IDComment63917377 Canceling a prom for this reason is very odd, however this problem is definitely in existence today. My high school would not allow female and female or male and male together either. I went to Bensalem School District located in Bucks County right outside of Philadelphia. It was not that we could not dance with each other, but when we signed up at the office and paid to get our tickets we had to write who are date was and if it was the same sex it was not allowed. We had one student that was very upset about this because it is definitely the most unfair thing. This caused a big commotion within the school, but was eventually let go. This has been school policy and you were not allowed to do it. You also were not allowed to go alone to the prom. You must have a date. I think that is stupid because the people that were gay wanted to go, but did not have a girl or guy to bring. For some, they either found a friend and brought them and some missed their prom because of this situation. This is another hump we need to get over to support gay and lesbian rights. This goes to show that at the school level this is not accepted and people are still being taught to hate against gays. Maybe not physically being told, but that says something when schools have rules like that. Even someone above had a statement that they don't agree with homosexuality, but they still do not think they should be discriminated against. That is okay, it is ok to not agree with something, but as long as you do not discriminate against it just because you hate it is good!! What usually happens is that if you do not agree with something you will be against it totally, which I think is wrong. Back to the article, by punishing everyone you get no where with anything. It makes people think that this is how the rest of their life is going to be. Why could they of not just taken her out and explained how this is not accepted here, rather then making everyone suffer. This is what really starts bullying and why guys are hated against for reasons like this. As I have been saying little things like this is what we need to change to make LGBT accepted within the community and beyond. School is a place for learning and were obviously being taught the wrong things!! I am wondering if this is because administrators are in that older generation where they believe this is not acceptable. I know that years to come this will change. It is just a matter of time and when younger people get hired into these positions.... shit will change!! Everyone should be for gay rights. Wed, 24 Mar 2010 22:29:17 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/prom-or-no-prom-just-dont-let-the-queer-students-dance-together__trashed/#IDComment63917377 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/are-whites-the-only-people-willing-to-humiliate-themselves__trashed/#IDComment59652569 Hm, this is a very good point. I actually never noticed because I do not usually pay attention to those type of things, but since it was appointed out I was like wow. Look at deal or no deal... the majority is white girls on there too and that is on NBC. I would not blame it on ABC, but the people that pick the girls for the show. Maybe since it is a white guy or white girl contestant they tell them ahead of time they want the same color and it wouldn't make sense to bring colored people in cause they would just send them home with no rose cause it is not want they want in the future. Thu, 4 Mar 2010 00:11:14 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/03/are-whites-the-only-people-willing-to-humiliate-themselves__trashed/#IDComment59652569 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/native-americans-question-three__trashed/#IDComment59651664 I just do not see it. I never studied history or Native Americans and if it does not effect me personally now in life then I am not worried. It is like that saying not my chair not my problem. Like I understand some people are really interested in learning about his more and more, but for me I can care less. I know there are a lot of people who feel the same way and they just do not want to say they do not care. Maybe I am part of the race problems I do not care, or what to speak about it so I am not going to. Like someone else said in this section, we only think about it when someone talks about it. I think this is the first class i ever had that spoke about any problems like this or native Americans in general, or who knows maybe i am just not paying attention in history class. I am the complete opposite of the person who asked this question. I would say what makes people care so much about issues like this. How does it affect you? Really? to you personally? For me it is not just this topic though its every other one including slavery. I care about my grades and getting a job and my family and friends. Other then that what else do i have to worried about. Life is to short to worry. As Sam says were all gonna die soon anyway so who gives a BEEEP! Then again there are those people that really care and i guess you have your opinions to care or not, but like Sam they have to convince the people that do not care to care. That is something hard to do especially when someone has their mind set on something. The person in the video sounds like they care so much about it which amazes me because i just can not see it. I am trying to think of a way that would help me see it, but I can't. I think the only way I would see it would be if a real person in a situation would come explain. For instance a Native American guest speaker or something. When one white person is just talking to another white person, sometimes I just think why do they care and get involved in shit that is minimal. If anyone reads this post let me know if you agree or not or just think I am living in a bubble or something. I do not like to think myself as living like that, but I guess the people that care about this will be mad at me for all that I said. The end result is if there is no connection to you personally then what is to worry about. You can not change any past happenings and you can not predict the future. Thu, 4 Mar 2010 00:01:59 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/02/native-americans-question-three__trashed/#IDComment59651664