gdp's Comments

http://www.sugarfilledemotions.com/ : Beauty Is...

Tue, 31 Aug 2010 21:01:01 +0000

This is an excellent point. When we're jealous of someone, or hate them, we should take a good hard look at WHY. And then we should do something about it. Jealousy and hatred never made anyone happy, but they can give us clues as so how to make ourselves happier. My recent post Changing Thoughts and Behaviors- You Can’t Replace Something With Nothing

http://www.sugarfilledemotions.com/ : Worry Worry Worry

Tue, 31 Aug 2010 03:28:20 +0000

I love your idea about setting aside "worry time." I may try that. These are some really helpful suggestions, and it's great that they're so easy to do. My recent post Changing Thoughts and Behaviors- You Can’t Replace Something With Nothing

http://www.sugarfilledemotions.com/ : Observations About My Husband

Thu, 12 Aug 2010 14:53:54 +0000

It can sometimes take a long time, but they learn eventually. :) My recent post Use Structure to Make Yourself More Productive

http://www.sugarfilledemotions.com/ : Observations About My Husband

Thu, 12 Aug 2010 14:52:52 +0000

This is the first post I've read on your blog, and I have to say I really enjoyed it. I think sometimes it's our significant others who have the hardest time dealing with our mental health struggles, because they feel they should be able to help and then feel powerless when they can't. Through my depression, my husband has learned that sometimes I'm just out of control, that I don't mean the things I say when I push at him, and that if he can try not to take me personally things work out better for both of us. Now, he copes better, which helps me cope better. My recent post Use Structure to Make Yourself More Productive

Social Discomfort : Change Yourself to Change a Relationship

Mon, 2 Aug 2010 20:45:21 +0000

Thanks for the feedback, I appreciate it! I like your quote from Gandhi. It makes my point perfectly. If you're not willing to change, why would someone else change? Unfortunately, some relationships, no matter how hard you try, just can't be fixed. There are lots of things that you can do, but in the end, the other person has to step up and make an effort as well.

Social Discomfort : Relaxation Tips and Tricks

Sun, 1 Aug 2010 07:31:09 +0000

I would love to be blog friends forever. We don't have to exchange blood or anything, right? LOL I enjoy reading and commenting on your posts; they're a lot of fun and interesting to read.

Social Discomfort : New Blog Schedule and Structure

Sun, 1 Aug 2010 06:03:24 +0000

I'm wondering now if maybe I should take Fridays off instead of Sundays, since Fridays seem to be my lowest traffic days of the week. Any thoughts?

Social Discomfort : How Often Do You Unplug?

Fri, 30 Jul 2010 06:05:20 +0000

I'm proud of you! Facebook is no substitute for real-life contact.

Social Discomfort : How To Get The Most Out Of Your Doctor's Visit

Fri, 30 Jul 2010 06:04:28 +0000

Your doctors at UCLA and Sansum sound good... your Valley doctor, not so much. If I were you, I'd switch to seeing someone else. I've had some better luck with doctors in Family Healthcare Network and even some through Adventist health, but I think it all depends on the clinic you go to. The one here in town I visit is actually pretty good. To an extent, I agree on researching your symptoms. More, I think you should just make a complete list of them and then talk to your doctor (if you trust him or her, anyway), because WebMD and the like can convince you of all sorts of things.

Social Discomfort : Blogging For No One

Fri, 30 Jul 2010 05:16:37 +0000

I'll keep that in mind.

Social Discomfort : Blogging For No One

Fri, 30 Jul 2010 04:04:35 +0000

I appreciate the feedback, though I can only respond with as much detail as I have to say. I'll try harder on the comments and discussion. I just have to have something to add, because I don't like to repeat myself.

Social Discomfort : Blogging For No One

Thu, 29 Jul 2010 21:40:29 +0000

Thanks so much for coming by and commenting. I agree with you; I don't blog for the comments so much as just for myself. It can get lonely sometimes, though, wondering if anyone is actually reading. Comments are like gold, even if they aren't the reason I keep going. BTW, I stopped by and checked out your blog. Interesting stuff. I'll be back!

Social Discomfort : Anger and Depression, Two Sides of the Same Coin

Mon, 26 Jul 2010 07:50:41 +0000

Thanks for catching that. Changed it.

Social Discomfort : Anger and Depression, Two Sides of the Same Coin

Mon, 26 Jul 2010 02:02:01 +0000

First, I recommend therapy, or at least a visit to the doctor, for someone who's having this problem. Next, the first step towards honesty about your feelings is accepting those feelings. Placing fault or blame in the situation, on the other hand, is just going to compound the problem. As is worrying about how the world perceives you. Accepting anger and depression as valid and acceptable feelings to have and express, on the other hand, allows the person to start dealing with them. You can't deal with something you're repressing. There are lots of reasons that people don't communicate their feelings, and they have to get past that before they can talk to other people about them. Obviously, the world at large isn't going to know the difference between anger manifesting as depression and actual depression unless the person says something, but that's not the point. It's usually because of the person's relationship with anger, or depression, or both, that they have this problem in the first place. Shame is often involved, or a sense that the feelings are not allowed or valid. If they felt comfortable talking openly about these feelings, and openly expressing these feelings, they wouldn't get caught in this cycle. It's when someone feels ashamed of one emotion that it fuels the other.

Social Discomfort : Overriding Negative Thoughts: The First Step Towards Positive Thinking

Wed, 21 Jul 2010 01:21:04 +0000

Most of the time, yeah.

Social Discomfort : Keeping a Journal: A Good Method for Keeping Your Sanity

Tue, 20 Jul 2010 04:23:46 +0000

Journals can be lots of different things for people. Most of the stuff you mentioned, I actually don't put in one of my journals - the poor, poor pitiful me and the barrage of anger and frustration directed at someone. For stuff like that, I usually just write it out on a piece of paper so I can throw it away later. At least, that's what I do with the majorly negative stuff; I don't like to hang on to it for posterity. My journal tends to be a censored record, since I'll go back and tear out pages that I don't want to read again.

Social Discomfort : Overriding Negative Thoughts: The First Step Towards Positive Thinking

Sat, 17 Jul 2010 06:53:26 +0000

Thanks. If you decide to try it, let me know how it works out in practice for you.

Social Discomfort : Baby Steps to Success: Keep Track of the Small Victories

Sat, 10 Jul 2010 06:33:26 +0000

Impressive! The more you do it, the easier it gets. Everyone has to start somewhere.

Social Discomfort : Information Overload: Seeing Through the Social Media Fog

Tue, 6 Jul 2010 08:25:55 +0000

Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for stopping by.

Social Discomfort : The Keys to a Successful Relationship

Tue, 6 Jul 2010 05:44:49 +0000

While the things you mentioned are important in a lot of relationships, and they're clearly important to you, they aren't necessary in all relationships. And if you had a relationship with someone who had the opposite values (i.e. was very private and felt that checking in and the like was intrusive or oppressive), then you'd have some serious issues to work out in order for that relationship to be successful. Compromise and communication would definitely come into play in that case. And just to be argumentative, being willing to be there for the other person also isn't necessary either, though I admit the person who feels this way is going to have a lot of relationship problems with others who DO expect this kind of reciprocity. They just have to find someone who isn't looking for that and only wants to be the caregiver in a relationship with nothing in return. Though rare, those people exist.