en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/720514 Comments by mypolaropposite http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2015/03/02/dating-while-bipolar-when-to-trust-your-feelings/#IDComment954663844 At some point, Matt is going to get tired of reading about himself ;-) Tue, 3 Mar 2015 18:51:50 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2015/03/02/dating-while-bipolar-when-to-trust-your-feelings/#IDComment954663844 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2015/03/02/dating-while-bipolar-when-to-trust-your-feelings/#IDComment954663701 I have a lot of those days. I think the key is knowing when there are bad days, because those are the ones we need to do something about. Tue, 3 Mar 2015 18:51:07 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2015/03/02/dating-while-bipolar-when-to-trust-your-feelings/#IDComment954663701 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2011/07/24/the-friend-boy-chronicles-wallowing-in-freakish-misery/#IDComment212777259 Squee!!! Thanks for the nomination - I'm looking for a way to pay it forward right now! Thu, 27 Oct 2011 00:40:44 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2011/07/24/the-friend-boy-chronicles-wallowing-in-freakish-misery/#IDComment212777259 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2011/10/25/dating-while-bipolar-what-ive-learned-while-waiting-for-love/#IDComment212777065 You're very welcome....thanks for reading! - Deltra Thu, 27 Oct 2011 00:40:03 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2011/10/25/dating-while-bipolar-what-ive-learned-while-waiting-for-love/#IDComment212777065 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2011/05/16/perqs-of-being-a-black-woman/#IDComment176930977 Thanks for reading, and for commenting! Sun, 24 Jul 2011 17:12:23 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2011/05/16/perqs-of-being-a-black-woman/#IDComment176930977 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2011/02/07/dating-while-bipolar-is-it-deceptive-not-to-disclose-your-disease/#IDComment126586341 Thank you for sharing your story. I would never get to the "we're getting married" stage without telling someone about my disease. But WHEN do you bring it up? It's not an icebreaker, but those of us who're newly diagnosed (and single) are trying to find the right balance between "too much info, too soon" and being honest. I'll look at your blog and add it to my blogroll - I think a relationship with a bipolar can perhaps be as trying as having the disease. Best of luck! - Deltra Tue, 8 Feb 2011 01:28:57 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2011/02/07/dating-while-bipolar-is-it-deceptive-not-to-disclose-your-disease/#IDComment126586341 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/11/17/armchair-therapist-black-women-are-voluntary-victims/#IDComment110495978 Danielle - really interesting point about how western patriarchy hasn't worked for white people either, mostly because it's fallacious. And, by the way, white men wanted black mothers taking care of them too because white women were perceived to be too weak to be of any real value. My concern today is that I feel like our mothers didn't have this public pity party for themselves the way our contemporaries do. Yes, they had to work, but they didn't feel bad about it, perhaps because they needed to for money. They went to work, held down the kids and the husband and didn't miss a beat. In retrospect I might not want to do all of that, I might want the man to share with the household duties moreso than our fathers did, but there was a certain sanity to it. I don't know, maybe with the work and the man and the kids we didn't have time for complaining. It just feels like Black women are backsliding in the confidence department. If we sat around wallowing in our circumstances, being reminded of the bad things in our lives, there would have been no Civil Rights movement. Thu, 18 Nov 2010 23:42:14 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/11/17/armchair-therapist-black-women-are-voluntary-victims/#IDComment110495978 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/08/04/on-big-girl-bras-and-why-ive-never-liked-kathie-lee-gifford/#IDComment93203618 Cool! She's gorgeous. I just don't get it... Sun, 15 Aug 2010 02:34:44 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/08/04/on-big-girl-bras-and-why-ive-never-liked-kathie-lee-gifford/#IDComment93203618 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/20/come-out-whever-you-are/#IDComment88692644 I disagree about the quality of the music: the new record is really fantastic specifically because it isn\\\'t about crooning lovey-dovey ballads but rather about deep emotions that really suit Maxwell\\\'s maturing voice. The problem is the fans who only want to hear the falsetto, the \\\"lay you down baby\\\" lyrics. Listen to \\\"Help Somebody\\\" and the final instrumental cut on BLACKsummer\\\'snight which are mature and profound. None of the fans at the show I saw wanted anything to do with that kinda stuff. Totally unfortunate. Sun, 25 Jul 2010 16:59:45 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/20/come-out-whever-you-are/#IDComment88692644 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/20/come-out-whever-you-are/#IDComment88613718 The difference between the Maxwell now is not that he\\\'s effeminate, it\\\'s that he looks like he\\\'s faking something he clearly doesn\\\'t want to be faking anymore; I could feel his pain, see that he was in the midst of the no-win situation that you mention. My issue is not with folks who don\\\'t come out, but with the heterosexism that makes it nearly impossible for the music industry (and narrow-minded fans, especially Black folks) to support an artist that doesn\\\'t sing boy-girl love songs. Look at an artist like Janelle Monae, who the industry and Black fans don\\\'t know what to do with because she\\\'s not shaking her ass and trying to sex up the world in a video. *shrugs* Sun, 25 Jul 2010 05:14:57 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/20/come-out-whever-you-are/#IDComment88613718 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/20/come-out-whever-you-are/#IDComment87989489 I know...jail is not a good place for people who can't figure their shit out...the boys on the yard will help you with the quickness! And doesn't D'Angelo have drug issues as well? SMDH Thu, 22 Jul 2010 02:32:02 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/20/come-out-whever-you-are/#IDComment87989489 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/13/uninvited-how-social-media-ruined-my-birthday/#IDComment87989342 You're right! I'm considering writing a post about how when I put people on blast in the blog, I got all manner of emails, tweets, texts because people didn't want me to be mad at them. How about you think of that BEFORE you piss me off. A reason can turn into an excuse if poorly timed. Thu, 22 Jul 2010 02:30:31 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/13/uninvited-how-social-media-ruined-my-birthday/#IDComment87989342 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/20/come-out-whever-you-are/#IDComment87805119 Hey, I calls it is I sees it, but I just don't like to see people so obviously struggling and so clearly in pain without pointing it out. You can hate on me if you want, but I'd rather people hate on the unwritten rule that you have to be sexually attracted to an artist to buy their records...it makes us all out to be base-level idiots (which, of course, so many people are) Wed, 21 Jul 2010 03:17:34 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/20/come-out-whever-you-are/#IDComment87805119 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/08/black-love-is-outdated/#IDComment86026329 Thanks for stopping in, and for the comment! Really, though, are there any black marriage role models out there? Not the people trying to act like they have it together, but for real? Sun, 11 Jul 2010 02:34:22 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/08/black-love-is-outdated/#IDComment86026329 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/08/become-the-change-you-wish-to-see-or-why-i-need-to-lose-40-lbs/#IDComment86026147 And I love your fat ass! Sun, 11 Jul 2010 02:32:26 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/08/become-the-change-you-wish-to-see-or-why-i-need-to-lose-40-lbs/#IDComment86026147 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/08/become-the-change-you-wish-to-see-or-why-i-need-to-lose-40-lbs/#IDComment86026097 Gonna have to stop blogging at the office cuz it\\\'s hard to edit AND watch out for the boss. Call the point of this post \\\"like begets like\\\" so I\\\'m gonna make my outsides match my insides...or something like that. Thanks for stopping by! Sun, 11 Jul 2010 02:31:49 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/07/08/become-the-change-you-wish-to-see-or-why-i-need-to-lose-40-lbs/#IDComment86026097 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/05/07/armchair-therapist-im-not-a-player-i-just-crush-a-lot/#IDComment74181591 Now, come on...you don't REALLY mean that MWHM? Then again, when have you ever known me to be mindless? Sat, 8 May 2010 21:04:16 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/05/07/armchair-therapist-im-not-a-player-i-just-crush-a-lot/#IDComment74181591 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/05/07/armchair-therapist-im-not-a-player-i-just-crush-a-lot/#IDComment74181401 Great lyrics...now I gotta go download some Ani Difranco. Sat, 8 May 2010 21:03:23 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/05/07/armchair-therapist-im-not-a-player-i-just-crush-a-lot/#IDComment74181401 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/05/08/when-its-not-a-happy-mothers-day-the-psychology-of-motherlessness/#IDComment74181234 Don't say you weren't warned! Sat, 8 May 2010 21:02:43 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/05/08/when-its-not-a-happy-mothers-day-the-psychology-of-motherlessness/#IDComment74181234 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/02/11/sometimes-a-suicide-needs-a-tribute/#IDComment65668912 Hi - I saw the search and wondered who it was. Thanks for reading, for commenting, and for thinking about her, as she is definitely missed by many. Sat, 3 Apr 2010 00:25:47 +0000 http://www.mypolaropposite.com/2010/02/11/sometimes-a-suicide-needs-a-tribute/#IDComment65668912