As an African American Penn Stater, it is hard to find a party EVERY WEEKEND that has predominately black people. Therefore, I find myself attending a predominately white party on the majority of weekends, which I have absolutely no problem with. White parties tend to have more “social like” atmospheres while blacks parties are strictly filled with loud music and dancing. When I go to a white party, it is very easy to become the center of attention. First of all, everyone is already looking at you because you are of a different race and second, showing white people your dance moves is definitely a show stopper. Now when I go to these white parties I make sure I know most of the people attending so I won’t feel completely awkward. When my organization throws parties, a lot of people will either force me to dance or force me to teach them how to dance. My favorite phrase is “Mikel, teach me how to be black.” I am always honored when I hear things like that. When I came to Penn State, I promised myself I would expose myself to as many news things as possible, including different races. Attending black parties is such a hassle anyway. First of all, all of them charge an entry fee and there is nothing offered inside (if you know what I mean) besides a bunch of loud music that you perhaps might not be in the mood for. Black parties are always such a workout anyway. If you have any type of game, you’ll find yourself grinding the majority of the night and your legs feel like they got run over by a bus. I really enjoy white parties because most of the time everyone is friendly and from personal experience I don’t always get that vibe at black parties. I want to try and split my time between both types of parties over the next couple of years so we’ll see what happens. When you’re at a black party pretty much everyone knows how to dance so you’re not really special if you know a few dance moves. At white parties, you are in fact the life of the party. I also want to try and attend a few parties represented by different cultures, such as maybe an Indian party (if they let me in). Something I would really like to see happen before I graduate is a mixed party that has a different types of races. I think I went to one before but it was still definitely majority blacks. I want to see as many races represented possible at this said party. I just hope that everything would end well.

I’m not really sure what keeps me from asking if a female was satisfied after sex, but it doesn’t really seem like the thing that would be talked about immediately after. I guess we as guys just automatically assume that they had a good time if we had a good time.
These types of conversations do occur, but usually at random times I believe. Perhaps during therapy or maybe even while the couple is having dinner. Like we talked about in class, sex is definitely male centered because it is over once the male orgasm has occurred, which sucks for the female but that’s just how it is. It takes the female a lot longer to reach her orgasm and a male goes for as long as he can, but there just comes a time where he can’t go anymore so as a result, the female gets the short end of the stick.
My ex girlfriend and I talked about this issue maybe a few times. It didn’t really seem like a big deal for her considering that her past sexual encounters were some what of the same, where she couldn’t reach a full orgasm. Not to get to detailed, but I think what she most looked forward to during sex was the overall experience of it. Things like physical touching, cuddling, and foreplay were apart of it too and I think that’s some things about sex that females do enjoy.
Females see sex as this beautiful thing, while males just really see it as more of an energy release. I think as long as that is a theory, the issue of talking about being satisfied won’t be talked about as much. Don’t get me wrong, communication is key during intercourse because we are then able to tell our partner exactly what we want at that moment in order to get some satisfaction.
I don’t believe there is a solution for females to get an orgasm more often. Maybe someone will figure it out one day. Or maybe it’s just like the kid said it in class. Maybe enough “guys just aren’t hittin it right.” I think more females should talk with their partner if they feel if it’s a huge issue because generally a guys is going to just think that you had a good time if he had a good time. So I guess you could say it’s just one of those things where we’re not going to ask if you’re not going to tell. Communication is key with a lot of different aspects of like and sex is one of them. Sex is something special between people and the experience should be great for both the male and female.

I think that white men tend to avoid minority women because its just one of those things that society isn’t used to yet. Whether you believe it or not, we still live in a world where people care too much about what other people think. Now there are some white guys out there who have that “don’t care mind set and would approach a minority female.
From my experience with going to frats here at Penn State, I feel like white guys have more of a problem with approaching darker skinned females. Lighter skinned females tend to get more attention from white guys. Its just how the culture is.
Let’s not forget that it wasn’t that long ago that segregation was in full affect in our country. It will probably take a little more time for jungle fever to be seen as normal. I think that minority woman are less approached by white guys because they are not ready to step outside comfort zones.
Also, we must always consider that even though we as college students are “grown,” are parents perceptions of us still matter and I think most students would agree with me when I say that we rather not argue with our parents on such issues.
I think a lot of it has to do with appearance. Minorities such as blacks don’t have long, straight hair like white girls do. They tend to have more nappy hair, which is seen as less attractive in our society.
I also think that white guys are sometimes afraid of minority women because they tend to be louder than white woman. It’s not that white guys want a quiet girl. I think it has more to do with a guy wanting to have more control over the relationship and any sign of a girl that is loud all the time would make that kind of difficult.
Minority women are also known to be more conservative when it comes to hooking up with guys, especially black females. There’s nothing wrong with that, but guys are always looking to get it in and they’ll usually go for what is easiest.
Who knows if white guys will ever start to approach minority woman more frequently. We live in a world that changes fast in some ways and slow in others. Inter racial dating is just one of those things that seems like it will change slowly. On the other hand I can honestly say that I’m proud of where are country is at. I believe that one day “jungle fever” will be just as normal as other forms of dating. What needs to happen is our society needs to stop judging and just let people live their lives.

If I were to send any message of change to the American people it would simply be to stop the violence. We currently live in a world where men go into schools and shoot kids and psychos go into movie theaters and go on a killing spree. It literally scares me that we live in a world like this. I’m not even going to say that gun control is the problem because that’s just a whole different issue but I do feel it’s important to say that how we raise our children will definitely affect the way they turn out to be. Even if they do have something mentally wrong with them, a parent should be getting that child help in some form. I feel like people just blow those types of things off. It really disappoints me. Kids need good role models and I feel like if they do have these good role models then they are less likely to get involved in any type of violent activity when they are older. Some people excuse the guy that shot all those kids in Connecticut just because there was something wrong with him. I’m sorry but that just does not cut it for me. That man needed to seek help and better yet, his parents should have been seeking it for him. Also, all these wars going on are completely unnecessary and it’s really unfortunate that children have to grow up hearing about soldiers dying everyday, even if they are dying for their country. I want my kids to grow up in a world with minimal violence and that starts off by letting them know that violence is wrong. But I can’t just be all talk because actions speak louder than words. And I obviously wouldn’t be their only influence so I would need “my world” to back me up on this, but it just seems like that’s so hard to do now a days. I can only pray that our world gets better. I’m not saying that I want to live in the perfect world because that will never be possible. I just hope that our world improves for the better when it comes to violence. The way I would plan on communicating this wanted change is using becoming an activist through my broadcasting career. I think I would want my own show or something like that. I would share my wants and desires for this world as well as have others come on to the show and talk about what they feel needs to be changed in order for this to occur. I’m excited for the future. I want to make a difference in this world and this is how I’m going to do it.

I feel that nepotism is more socially acceptable than affirmative action because nepotism has more to do with your connections and who you know rather than being helped out just because the color of your skin. I am all about nepotism because it just goes along with the saying “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.”
The thing I don’t like about affirmative action is that it helps out people who only based on the color of their skin and not based off of their qualifcations. Now, a person that is affected by nepotism may not have the proper qualifications either, but it’s more likely that they were judged a little more on their qualifications.
In fact, I am even proud to say that I am a victim of nepotism. Tons of pre-law major have probably dreamed of working in a law firm. Luckily for me, my dad is a lawyer and through him I was able to be an intern in his office a few summers ago and I had a great experience. I don’t think my dad would have let me do it though if he didn’t think I could handle it. I was so thankful for the experience and the opportunity and I don’t regret for one second that I got the internship because of him. I hope to one-day help out my kids the way that my dad helped me. Competition is tough in this world and if there is any way that you can get a leg up through nepotism, you should take it.
On the other hand, with affirmative action, I feel like sometimes I was accepted to Penn State just based off the fact that I am black. Don’t get me wrong. I feel like I deserve to be here and I have maintained a great GPA thus far, but it would still be nice to say that I know I got in here based of my qualifications and not just based on a law. Also, I just joined an organization on campus known as Lion Ambassadors. Historically, the organization has been predominately white. The application process also involved an interview and I feel like I did very well. But I can’t help but ask if I was accepted into the organization just so they could meet their quota. Regardless if I have been affected by affirmative action through these things, I feel like I have proven myself worthy and have made sure that I am making the statement that “I deserve to be here.” I feel so blessed with all of the opportunities that I have been given weather it be affirmative action or nepotism but there’s just something about nepotism that makes me feel less guilty.

This is a question I even ask myself every now and then. My answer is always the same. I don’t know. I guess you could say that I am afraid to die a painful death. The only reason I would be afraid of dying is not being able to have the chance to live my live fully. I am a Christian and I believe that when God says it’s your time, IT IS YOUR TIME. Death is such a sad, but natural thing. Whenever you hear about a sad death such as a shooting or a car accident, we become afraid and frightened that something like that could happen to us. However, when we see old people die, we accept it because they are dying naturally and we hope that that is the way in which we die.
I think it is interesting how different religions have different ideas on what happens when we die, but what really interests me is what research says people who were flat lined experience when they die. I think its no coincidence that the people who are believers in something experience a more pleasant feeling and the non-believers don’t have such a pleasant feeling.
It’s really weird how people are afraid to die, but are still curious as to what happens when you do. I always wonder if this is why some people commit suicide. Not all people that commit suicide are depressed. Some are just crazy and ready to meet their maker.
So maybe I’m not afraid to die, but I am afraid of not being with my maker. That’s why I try to live my life right. I think death is something that happens to you when it is supposed to happen. I am a strong believer in fate and I really believe that people die when they are supposed to. God has a funny way of doing things sometimes but he has his reasons. Yes, it is sad when young people die, but that is how fate and God planned it all along.
In conclusion, I guess you could say I am not truly afraid to die, but I would prefer to live the rest of my life out as long as I can. I really hate missing out on things and missing and missing out on the rest of my life would not be something I prefer. I think death is a complicated thing and we should just let it be. We shouldn’t be scared. The only thing we should be scared of is how we die. I have to say I don’t think I would want to die a slow, painful death. I would prefer it happen naturally without any complications.

Well first of all, I’m not sure how people would be able to disprove that there is a God, but if it were to happen I think I would be somewhat devastated. I wouldn’t know what to do with my faith. I would feel kind of stupid for investing so much of my time into something that wasn’t real. In fact, even the fact that I’m typing something like this right now makes me feel a little uncomfortable. I think if we were to receive news that there was no God, some people like myself would be in complete denial while others would perhaps start to live a different lifestyle. I bet if this were to happen, people would start behaving differently and lose some of their morals. I feel like the Ten Commandments would go straight out the window for some people, but not me. Regardless if there was a God or not, I would still want to live my life the way I have been. I feel like it’s important to have faith in something and channel that faith into living your life the right way. It’s just so hard for me to believe that something like this would ever happen because there have been so many times in my life when I just knew that a higher spiritual being was watching over me and providing me with guidance. If this situation were to happen, I would still want to go to church and give God the praise. I just really would not be able to take other people’s word for it. I think it would be wise for everyone to just go about how they were doing things. In fact, I think if news like this were to come out a lot of people would ignore it just like people did with the apocalypse. The world just doesn’t believe things like that that easily. People have had their beliefs for so long that changing them right in the middle of their life forcibly would just not work out.
To conclude, if this event were to happen I would not even bother believing it. I would feel a little hurt in a sense if somehow it were to be well proved, but I just don’t see that happening and I really think I would continue living my life the way I have. I love worshiping God and giving him praise on a daily basis. He has been so good to me and to just ignore him after what people say would be disgusting. I hope that everyone else would do the same, but I do have to question what everyone else really would do if something like this were to happen.

I really enjoyed talking to the Iranian man. It was quite the surprise and I thought it was very necessary for our class to do. It gave everyone the opportunity to see that Iranians are normal just like we are.
It was nice to know that he enjoys the same television shows such as Friends, and Grey’s Anatomy. I also didn’t realize that Iranians also like some American music.
He was very friendly and I admired the fact that he was so open about all the questions that were asked to him. It seems that he had a great sense of humor that was perfect for the class to laugh at and enjoy.
It seems that he doesn’t really care about what other people think. From what I can tell, he seems to like to live his life freely without caring about what anyone thinks of him. Our Iranian friend is very good at english. Communicating with him did seem like a challenge at one point when he didn’t exactly understand the one question, but It all worked out in the end.
I really wish we could have seen what his house looked like so we could compare what a typical American house looks like to an Iranian house. I also really admired his opinions on Americans. He was very honest when talking about his perspectives.
It was sad to know that people in Iran are terrified about bombs every day. It makes me feel so blessed to live in a safe country like America.
One thing I did notice is that certain things that he said were only funny because of his accent. I have to ask why this is. Why is it so funny when foreigners say something completely normal?
When asked about what he thought about his government, Sam asked him not to answer. The Iranian man did seem hesitant to answer at first and it was wise for Sam to tell him not to answer. As Sam pointed out, it is highly frowned upon for citizens in that country to speak so low of their government. Assuming that he would have done so, I’m glad that Sam stopped him because if his government would have somehow found out that he spoke about them in a negative way, he could get in some serious trouble.
Skyping with our Iranian friend was a great experience. I have never video chatted with someone that was in another country so that made things even better for me. Talking with him really made me wish that we had world peace and wars would come to an end. I hope that we can communicate with him again soon. Getting to know more about him and his culture would be awesome.

We live in a society that teaches men to not show emotion and not express themselves. We live in a society where women are taught to lay out everything they are feeling on the floor. We live in a society where your gender shapes who you are mentally and emotionally. This is just one reason as to why women to women compliments are seen as more acceptable then men to men compliments.
Women are generally more open about their emotions, therefore are more likely to express how they feel about people, including other women. So when a woman says to another woman that she is “hot,” there is no such thing as an awkward feeling because they both mutually understand that it is just a compliment that is being expressed. Also, when guys here this type of expression, they also understand it to be just a compliment because men know that women are generally more emotional. Women also like to get an honest opinion from the same sex, because sometimes the guy will not say anything.
Most men would feel uncomfortable receiving a compliment from another man because most men are taught not to express emotion and hide their feelings. If a guy were to tell another guy he is “hot,” the question of sexuality would definitely be raised. There would be this feeling of awkwardness because it is not common in our society for men to give overly generous compliments to each other. In fact, probably anyone from both genders would question if the guy complimenting were gay or not.
It does seem kind of weird that both genders can’t behave the same way when it comes to this concept but it’s just how our society is. The idea of men complimenting each other is seen as weird because men are much more protected with their emotions. It is much more common for straight women to hook up then for straight men to hook up. Girls are much more willing to try new things and explore what’s out there. Girls not only like to express emotions, but receive them as well.
Men do care about how they look, but could probably care less on the opinion of another guy. The main goal is to impress the ladies so this could also be another reason as to why it seems abnormal for a guy to compliment another guy.
In my opinion, it shouldn’t really matter. I personally wouldn’t go as far as to say a guy looks hot, but would definitely tell him he looks good, especially if he asked. I think that people should just appreciate any compliment however. We shouldn’t feel uncomfortable about compliments from anyone. We need to just accept them and move on.

There are many people in our society that struggle with issues. It is sad to say, but there a lot of issues that a lot of people deal with. Anyone who struggles with issues such as cutting needs to do one simple thing and that is express themselves to anyone. Personally, it is real hard for me to watch people struggle, especially on the inside. It is important for these people to talk about what is going on with them, because if he or she bottles up there emotions on the inside, it becomes more difficult to cope with the issues.
If I was talking to someone directly that was struggling, I would tell them that if they needed anyone to talk to that I would be there for them. I have always been an open-minded, compassionate and understanding person. A lot of the time people who struggle with personal issues do not have anyone to talk to. I feel like I would have no choice but to offer a helping hand if this was the case.
The next step for people who struggle could possibly be suicide. I feel like it’s my job to convince them not to come to this decision. If they feel like they couldn’t talk to me, I would refer them to some type of psychologist depending on what the issue was. Psychologist are obviously very good with helping their patients come to solutions that deal with their problems. Talking with a complete stranger is very helpful because you never have to worry about your information spreading.
A lot of people deal with the issue of coming out of closet and that is understandable considerable how our society is. Being gay is becoming more acceptable I our society, but it is still frowned upon by many people (mostly because of religious reasons). I would tell people that struggle with this that there would definitely be more people that have their back than they think. There are some hateful people in this world and the fact that they would be able to deal with them would make them a stronger person.
I’m not exactly sure on the number of people that struggle with personal and private issues every year, but I do know that just by simply talking about problems can relieve stress. Anyone that deals with personal problems deserves to have someone to talk to. Personally, I want to live in a nation that doesn’t deal with depression because it turn makes me depressed. If we can all just freely talk about what’s going on inside of us, who knows how much better our society would be. I believe that one day we will get to this place. The question is when.