manulpika

manulpika

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180 weeks ago @ The Toast - The Case of Thomas/Tho... · 1 reply · +5 points

Okay I commented with my joyous flail a bit earlier but I think I was accidentally not signed in, so let me just say now ETERNAL LOVE FOR THOMAS(INE) HALL

My fave aspect of this story is that all these other people are going around blithely assuming that the clothes one wears automatically correspond 1:1 to a real and obvious fact about you, and our hero was just like... actually... I can put on any clothes I want. And because gender roles were not routinely flouted, they got away with it for so long! If there had been more androgynous looking people hanging around, people would have looked more closely at them and tried to puzzle them out before they got arrested for fornicating. And that allowed Thomas(ine) to not be read as androgynous in their daily life pre-trial but to be either/or as it suited them. Being freer because you're invisible.

Also, that what really bothered people was Thomas(ine) switching back and forth. Like Thomas(ine) was not just transgressing a boundary by dressing in the wrong clothes, but was just off on a different axis acting like there was no such thing as clothing wrongness. And that's the real issue. Like it's perfectly fine hanging around here being a weirdo but you have to be a legible weirdo. foucauldian af.

ILU Thomas(ine)

182 weeks ago @ The Toast - Things I Have Compared... · 0 replies · +15 points

I tried to read this but I hardcore ship steve/tony so every time im reminded of this movie i have to fall on the ground and flail my arms and legs around haphazardly and im at work right now so

182 weeks ago @ The Toast - The Holidays Sad Ficti... · 0 replies · +13 points

*sobbing eternally into the void*

188 weeks ago @ The Toast - WHY YOU ARE ANGRY: A T... · 0 replies · +14 points

"Choose one" is a bit unrealistic here mallory

190 weeks ago @ The Toast - Dad Magazine: March 20... · 4 replies · +35 points

Recently found out that a dad of my acquaintance runs a march madness league that was won a few years ago by a local cow that someone had made a bracket for. The dad/league manager then ate steaks from the winning cow. #dadsconsin

ETA: This dad made a bracket for his unborn grandchild, because "bracketology begins at conception"

190 weeks ago @ The Toast - Reactions I've Had To ... · 0 replies · +11 points

For whatever reason I was super into the two spines. "I feel like shit but I do have two spines right now so" "did you know on average women have more spines than men"

that sort of thing

196 weeks ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +32 points



Sasha living my dream life

196 weeks ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +1 points

Hey Kaylar! I know this is super late but I wanted to share that I've had that kind of experience before, and I had to jump through many fewer bullshit hurdles when I just went to a regular gynecologist in a hospital. She even prescribed me psych meds! No referral necessary! And when I told her I wanted more we talked about it for like one minute and she basically let me name my dosage.

In my experience campus clinics expect you to be young and foolish, and treat you like a kid. If you go to an Adult Doctor's Office and present as a Serious Adult Patient, they are much more likely to assume you can make decisions for yourself (unfortunately). So if you're able to go to a big hospital, that may ultimately involve less anxiety.

199 weeks ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 0 replies · +2 points

I found my most recent therapist on yelp, because I find everything else on yelp and I figured I'd be able to decode the reviews on there better than through the insurance website. She was MARVELOUS and I highly recommend getting a therapist that's expensive as fuck if your insurance will cover it. Before this current job I didn't have mental health coverage and mostly saw terrible therapists, so I feel you.

I also started on meds recently, and they are fantastic. I didn't start until my anxiety went through the roof when I was pregnant, so I don't know if it would have helped when I was only a little anxious.

Re: reactions, it's always possible, but there are SSRIs that have been out there for decades and studied intensely, and the FDA is positive that the benefits outweigh the risks for most people. In the very first week of taking Zoloft I was nauseous a few times, but that was it. Other people I know have had similar, very mild side effects.

199 weeks ago @ The Toast - Cocktail Hour: Open Th... · 1 reply · +15 points

1) Do a thing that seems like a good idea at the time
2) Discover some things about it are great and some are horrible
3) Try to find a better thing with more of the good parts and less of the bad parts

repeat

Seriously the best advice I would give my college-age self is to not wait until you think you know the perfect job or the perfect apartment or whatever, to just try things and refine your life choices from there. Did you spend all of college locked into the plan you made at freshman orientation? No one spends their twenties locked into something they thought of while they were in college either. You can only find out what works for you by trying it. In five years your shitty first real job is going to be a great story you tell people at parties.

ETA: What I'm trying to say is Don't be Aaron Burr. Be Alexander Hamilton. I have a college friend who super is Aaron Burr reincarnated and being fixated on fulfilling everyone's expectations of her from when she was in college is not making her happy.