en-us https://www.intensedebate.com/users/1117703 Comments by lmbrown2006 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85130798 to get her in and she did, they offered her a position in the department and as soon as they did what did she do the show her appreciation she began having an affair with one of the boss’s son-in-law and as the cover up she used my husband’s name and friendship as the person she was having the affair with. She was telling her personal business to other employees about this affair but using my husband’s name thinking they wouldn’t come tell me. In turn there was a big confrontation at the job site, I could have lost my job but My manager’s took my side and when the truth came out that it was actually the boss’s son-in-law she was fired because his wife was also a hospital employee. Needless to say I have never spoken to her again and I will never help anyone out again to gain a job at the hospital. Tue, 6 Jul 2010 13:40:32 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85130798 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85130556 And get her interviewed, hired and a start date she did all the paper work and all she had left to do was the drug and alcohol testing and we know the rest she didn’t show up for them so I looked like a fool she claims she got sick and was admitted to the hospital but I know better. Secondly, my first cousin at the time the hospital was hiring through a temp service for some positions I helped her through that process with the information that I knew to get her in my department once in she had to work so many hours to be considered for a regular position in the department she did everything and worked as many hours as she could and there was times I watched her children so she could work more hours so that she could get the hours in before a 6 month time frame. At the time of her max hours I was asked my the director and the managers about offering her a permanent position she wasn’t always the best employee, didn’t try her hardest but she did come to work and she did get her hours in I gave a good word and everything I could do Tue, 6 Jul 2010 13:38:28 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85130556 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85130445 Lesson 14 blog 7/6/10 Due 7/710 In my opinion opportunity is what you make of them if given an opportunity to improve one’s self take it and make the most of it and be thankful. Nepotism is a way of using people, places or things to get what you want or need and this to is done in a good or bad way because some people will use this for good and then some will use Nepotism as a way to take advantage of you, use you and throw you to the side once they got what they wanted. As I stated I did use my mother’s name to get the job I currently have or should I say to get my foot in the door and since I did that I have many opportunities available to me and for my children But I have in two cases tried to do the same thing for people because I now too have a good name at the company and it has back fired in my face. In one case my half sister and she has been working in the same field for a long time so when she needed to find a better job I used myself as I way to get her in the hospital Tue, 6 Jul 2010 13:37:23 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85130445 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85127377 Lesson 14 response 7/6/10 Due 7/7/10 I believe some people used opportunity to their own benefit some in a good way some in a bad way. And to me Nepotism is wrong to a point but it is a part of life. I to got my current job at the local hospital because of my mom she is currently a 40 year employee, I have been there for 7 years. And as teenager I volunteered at the hospital every summer while in high school but I didn’t have to do the work other volunteers had to do, I got to work in my mom’s department helping her. It’s funny because when I first moved back here I tried to get in the hospital thinking My status of a honorable vet would get me in and over a year went by and I was never called but when I reapplied using my mother’s name they called the next day, I put in my two week notice at the job I had and I’ve been at the hospital every since. Tue, 6 Jul 2010 13:12:42 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-8-lesson-14-affirmative-action__trashed/#IDComment85127377 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84711403 But in my opinion I don't think that their values has changed I just think they know with so many different cultures and races this day in age that they know they are out numbered because although we are all different those different cultures and races with pull together for a cause that is right. To me this is a learned behavior my youngest children go to school there is a boy in their class that constently calls them the "N" word and anything else assoicated with being black and the school does nothing because the teacher doesn't actually hear him but they are only 11yrs. old he has to be learning this behavior somewhere other then school. Sun, 4 Jul 2010 14:28:32 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84711403 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84710799 Yes everything in this story did happen and it's funny because my uncle and his family are at my home visiting for the holidays. We were always scared for him we would often tell him if he came up missing we know what happened to him. But he said they never bothered him and he didn't bother them but i'm sure somewhere within himself he had to have some fears. "The Compound" as they called it was there own land they purchased and 6 families (all related KKK members) built their homes on it. But from speaking with them just last night I have learned that the family members are not actively involved with the KKK anymore, I don't know for how long but his wife stated that her father went into a depression when her sister was killed by a drunk driver, which her parents divorced because of his treatment towards people. Her other children still live with her mother and they are all in contact often they all still live in the same town and she sees her father every weekend but they haven't spoken in over 2 years. Sun, 4 Jul 2010 14:21:56 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment84710799 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment83896081 My uncle, and we are black, first dated the daughter of the head man of the KKK, what is that the loyal knight or exhulted knight or something and after a year of them dating they got married and at the time she was 23years old and my uncle was 52 years old. Now not only did they get married my uncle lived with them on the KKK compound for years they also had a baby and within the past 5 years moved into their own place. Although she had two other children that still live with her parents on the compound but the kids do visit with them in the summer and holidays. But my uncle told us often that her father or any other members of the KKK there never bothered or was disrespectful to him. Lesson 13 due 7/4/2010 Thu, 1 Jul 2010 18:52:45 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment83896081 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment83895965 . I hear a lot at work and I work in a very big hospital but I hear many employees so about different doctors things like if you can’t understand other language why be hear, go back to your own country, or that they are plain out rude and ignorant just because they are in the US and I think this is so wrong I mean what did they do to be mistreated. Shouldn’t be a choice, if you want to be a US citizen do it by the rules if you do it illegally you will be sent back until you do it right. I don’t know but I was always told I was too kindhearted, lol! And this KKK video, it was so disturbing to me again noting but violence. How does violence by anyone make something right? And immigrants can be of any nationality and if some of the first immigrants were white and they were mistreated when they came here why would you turn around and start a group of people to mistreat everyone else for not be like you. But they are not all cracked up to be what they think they are meaning, and this is a true story Thu, 1 Jul 2010 18:52:10 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment83895965 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment83895526 I have to say the subject of immigration is one that I don’t get anyway. It is an issue but what I don’t understand is why the immigrants illegal or not are treated so poorly. I mean if they are caught here illegally they are jailed and mistreated until they are deported, why? If they are caught here illegally explain to them there is a process to being here and take them back to the border and that be that, why mistreat them first. How bad does that make our country look when they are already thinking they can have a chance to make it by coming here. I mean aren’t we all still human beings created by GOD. And the immigrants that are here legally they followed the rules to be here but why are they still liked down upon as if they did something wrong. Thu, 1 Jul 2010 18:50:47 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment83895526 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment83829954 The point you made of Dr. Richards making a good point of people are people in this issue is the truth. When I read your comment I remembered a friend of mine had to go to a DUI training program and on the last class you brought a guest and you went on a tour of the county jail. When we got into the jail and we went around the corner there was the gym area, inside the gym the size of a basketball court was hundreds of bunk bed and hundreds of illegal immigrants I couldn’t believe my eyes! Hundreds of men stuffed in a gym surrounded my glass walls, they were dressed in a whole different jail outfit from the regular inmates, they couldn’t speak English and they all ran to the glass when they seen us yelling in their language as to say “get us out of here!” And needless to say the gym area had been taking away from all the inmates to house the immigrants there. Now I went home with the thought in my mind “immigrant or not and inmate or not aren’t we all people, human beings?” Rather it be jail or not shouldn’t we all be treated fairly. Thu, 1 Jul 2010 15:23:57 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-13-immigration__trashed/#IDComment83829954 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83177192 Which to clear this up my 15yr old father just died in April the girl my daughter is dating is his step-daughter. She told me she would never marry the same sex when she came out to me but she is now talking about a boob reduction and I have concerns but the issues of adoption. I really don’t know how this relationship will play out these girls are young my child is 21 and the girl she is dating is 18. I am also concerned with what they may be doing around my grand daughter when I am not around although she is only 4 months and really doesn’t understand I want her to grown up making her own decisions and choices not thinking anything that she has seen is right or wrong. Lesson 12 6/29/10 Tue, 29 Jun 2010 19:36:13 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83177192 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83177134 And that is my child male or female no one is going to disrespect my child, this stressed my daughter so and after that relationship was over, she stayed to herself but still attracted to the same sex. She even dated or had a few “male friends” as she would say her first year in college. Her second year of college she even had a baby, my granddaughter is 4 months old and I really felt that okay this was a phase and is now over. But she has now started dating another female which I don’t have a problem with her dating a female, this time it’s who the female is, her sister’s step-sister by marriage. She had never been public with any of her relationships but people in our town now that she is BI put the know her heart and accept her al well. And she has never been publicly open around her younger sisters until recently not so much around my twins who are 11yrs old but around her sister that is 15yrs old and she is very upset that these two girls are even dating and when her step-sister doesn’t spend time with her she calls her mom. Tue, 29 Jun 2010 19:35:49 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83177134 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83176959 Lesson 12 was very well put together. When watching pt 1 lecture I wanted to speak on the statistics of being open to marriage or lifetime partner with someone of another race. But when I watched lecture pt. 2 on LGBT Issues. I knew I had a few things to say. Because this issue is one I am dealing with in my home. My oldest daughter came out to me when she was in 11th grade that she was BI, I had suspected it for some time but would just chalk to up to being a tomboy. I Love and accept child regardless of anything and I do believe you can’t help who you are and who you love, but I do still have some issues with this. The first real relationship she was in that I knew of was a not healthy and this chick was crazy! Tue, 29 Jun 2010 19:35:17 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83176959 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83160225 I do agreed with you on “Keep it to yourself”. I too have had many gay members of my family, some who put it out there some who didn’t. I don’t have a problem with gay/lesbians at all, but I think that it is their own business. My Daughter is Bi and this was a shock to me when she came out and told me. But she is my child and I love and accept her regardless. But I did have a problem when we were on vacation my 15yr old came back to the room and she the her sister and the girl she is dating was holding hands at the mail. This upset me because usually my daughter doesn’t fault her sexuality and especially around her younger sisters. And now she keeps repeating she wants her boobs reduced. My daughter is a very beautiful young woman dressed as a woman or her favorite “tomboy” outfits! And to me being Bi or anything else I don’t want to see my child changing her body. Even since she came out to me she has since had a baby, and she back to dating girls. Tue, 29 Jun 2010 18:25:48 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-7-lesson-12-multiculturalism-lgbt__trashed/#IDComment83160225 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81817565 And when everything else failed she had a baby so that her and the boy could be together. But her mother sewed and glued her hair till she was near 20 yrs old. Now at the present time she is married to a different man of color with 4 sons, they own a daycare and are pretty well off but she still gets her hair done sewed in weekly but now acts black but still looks down at us. her second sister is enriched by both races and is proud to be black and Italian, the baby sister on the other hand still only favors the Italian side but tries so hard to be black. Blog comment lesson 10 6/23/2010 Thu, 24 Jun 2010 01:11:17 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81817565 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81817484 Also they were raised to look in on people of color, they always acted like they were better then us. But what was really funny was the one girl was born with kinky short black people hair! Her mother was always scared to put a relaxer in it and was to scared to ask one of my aunts to do anything with it. Out of pride the mother brought books to learn how to glue and sew in weave and had to do her hair weekly so that she would have white people texture of hair. At that time in my life and this had to be late 70’s early 80’s I never heard of weave, glue or sewing in the tracks and surely never seen an Italian woman reading a book to learn how to do it. My cousin never even dated a boy of color until she was 16yrs old and all hell broke loose her mother had a fit tried to keep them apart and everything and when she couldn’t she blamed us remind you the “us” is myself and her two black/white sisters. Thu, 24 Jun 2010 01:10:39 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81817484 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81817405 The girl like me video brought back so many memories. And the many issues of race and “acting white or black”. My uncle on my father’s side had several different sets of families. He had children that were all black, he had children that were mixed white/black and he had children mixed black/Italian. We never really knew the black children until later in life when we teenagers, I spent a lot of time with the set that was white/black. Where these girls till today were raised to be black they did everything black and always acted black. Now the children that were black/Italian we didn’t spend to much time with until we were teenagers but they were raised to be white or Italian. We started spending time with them when they moved to our city and it was funny how white they acted but with trying so hard to be black. Thu, 24 Jun 2010 01:09:59 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81817405 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81814406 I too enjoyed the lectures and videos this week I can relate to the “acting white”. Being a teenager in high school I was popular and had a lot of friends. I am a light-skinned black female so I was always told I acted like I was better then everyone else, which I didn’t think so. And with friends of color and even my family I was always told I was “acting white” because I spoke with proper English, I didn’t talk in slag. I was often told by several people, girl you will never pass for black with the way you talk. At times it bothered me because I wasn’t trying to pass for black I am black and I was never “acting white” I was being me. Comment Lesson 10 6/23/2010 Thu, 24 Jun 2010 00:44:44 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-6-lesson-9-stages-of-racial-identity-people-of-color-stages-1-4__trashed/#IDComment81814406 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment80486609 Specially if they see the other girls speaking and some are white and black. I know there has to be an issue somewhere where these girls are learning this behavior. How can you go to school with a black girl all you life, they are going to the 10th grade and hang out, stay at each others homes and not speak to the parents avoids the parents at all costs in there friends home. I say to myself which parent are they learning this from because most the families are split up and they live with the mother but spend time with the father and the mother’s seem to be okay. But are they scared of my race or are they scared of saying something about race that they aren’t afraid to say in front of my daughter? Wed, 16 Jun 2010 21:47:46 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment80486609 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment80486565 My 15th now she has some friends that will come to the house eat, play games, stay the night and are fine, my daughter will go to their homes and now the same thing and there is never any problem with the girls or the parents. Then there is some that will come to the house with my daughter never even speak to me will sit at my dinner table, eat my food and turn around and leave out the door and never say a word to me. there is one girl who I am very good friends with her mother and she doesn’t even know it. she is mixed white/black but her mother is white, she will come to my house but she will not come in will only talk to my daughter, will not speak but will ask to use the phone call 20 different people and thank my daughter and then leave. I mean there is a lot of times with these girls my daughter has to say, aren’t you going to speak to my mom? Wed, 16 Jun 2010 21:47:20 +0000 https://www.racerelationsproject.org/2010/06/week-5-lesson-8-stages-of-racial-identity-white-people-stages-3-4__trashed/#IDComment80486565