Writers, editors, contributors, illustrators, commentators, lurkers, you have all been a part of something incredible and it has been a pleasure to feel all the feels alongside you. Toast Wake weekend in Atlanta!
wasabi tuna (canned tuna + wasabi + mayo) on cucumber rounds or crackers
Pricey, but Lapham's Quarterly. Each issue has a theme and presents a collection of well edited and globally/temporally diverse selections of fiction, nonfiction, art, and photography on the theme plus fun infographics and original essays.
Have you tried myNoise.net's Tibetan bowl white noise generator?
Neither an archivist nor a librarian, but an ATL-ien and cardigan wearer, so I'm happy to provide suggestions and would love to tag along to a meet up.
I feel kinda weird speaking on behalf of my husband, but as an observer of his life after abuse: he has not and has no intention to forgive his father. But he's OK with that, and as you said, it's not taking up time or energy or part of his daily thought process. The problem is that Mister's grandmother (Abusive Father's Mother) will not let Mister not forgive. Mister has never asked Grandma to not have a relationship with Father. The Forgiveness Is The Only Way narrative's pervasiveness is terribly reductive. If you've found a way that works for you, live it.
I moved to ATL after a childhood/20s in California and college in Seattle. There is an element of culture shock at first, but the neighborhoods around Emory and the Northeast sector of the city generally (I'm in Doraville) have a lot of other academic/professional transplants and a large multicultural immigrant community that made my adjustment easier than I initially expected. Join the southeast channel on toastieslack and/or Atlanta Toasties on FB or stay in touch here if you have any questions about the area or want a welcoming committee.
No time like the present. I have half a mind to spend the rest of the afternoon with OT and gin and wearing my lilac charmeuse slip dress.
A thread earlier in the week supporting a Toast supporting a grieving friend/relative at a distance suggested even grocery store/restaurant gift cards.
It's probably better for my stash and my bank balance that I am now on the other side of the continent. We can chat again next OT and that will inspire me to get cracking.