hystericaldora

hystericaldora

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7 years ago @ The Toast - Open Thread! · 0 replies · +7 points

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7 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 1 reply · +47 points

The number of times my mother has brushed away something my father/brother did with a, "Men are just like that." !!! NO. NO. Expect better.

7 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 1 reply · +33 points

Several! For the most part, they agree that Mormon SAHMs blog for the same reason they engage in MLM schemes: needing some kind of mental stimulation that doesn't involve working outside the home. I think Mormon missionaries might be required to journal, too, so it might be a habit they already have.

7 years ago @ The Toast - WHY YOU KEEP HAVING TH... · 0 replies · +24 points

Speaking for my own parents, who hop from crisis to crisis because it means they never have to contemplate the meaning of any of it - it's fine to send it to them, they won't understand it anyway.

Haha. Ha.

7 years ago @ The Toast - WHY YOU KEEP HAVING TH... · 2 replies · +91 points

She also claims that it's possible to express your anger about someone's actions without it becoming an all-consuming fire that sucks the oxygen out of your loved one's lungs, but I haven't tried it because, like, whoa professional feelings coach, what if you're wrong??

7 years ago @ The Toast - Why Everyone Is Attrac... · 2 replies · +58 points

the growler-filler at a nearby brewery recently commented that she hadn't seen me in a while, and I was so thrown off that I recounted all of my busy holiday as an apology, and now she knows what I did for Christmas and it's just too much intimacy.

7 years ago @ The Toast - WHY YOU KEEP HAVING TH... · 7 replies · +161 points

BECAUSE YOU REFUSE TO ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL ANGER AND INSTEAD SEARCH FOR A NEARBY REPLACEMENT EMOTION YOU DO NOT ACTUALLY FEEL BUT WOULD PREFER TO EXPERIENCE INSTEAD

My therapist and I have been hashing this out of late, and did you guys know that you can feel anger without taking it out on someone? All of this time, I have been afraid to feel angry in case I acted like a jerk, and it turns out they aren't the same thing at all.

7 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 3 replies · +48 points

There are signs near the local bison herd that describe how to tell if you've pissed off a bison. E.g., if it starts charging you, you made that bison angry. There are no signs about what to do if a bison is charging you, which I've always taken as emphasis on how important prevention is in re this particular problem.

Leave bison alone, guys.

7 years ago @ The Toast - How to Help Your Frien... · 1 reply · +4 points

There is a fair amount of violence on this show, but it's treated with a great deal of weight and seriousness - it's not gratuitous in the slightest. I also have a problem watching/enjoying violence stuff, for the record. The violence on Breaking Bad prevented me from liking it, the violence in Game of Thrones has kept me from trying it, I'm still really angry that I let myself get talked into seeing The Revenant because of the violence, and so on. But I love The Americans.

You can always shut your eyes during the violent bits (there's probably <1 per episode) - the significant glances are more important to the show than the murders.

7 years ago @ The Toast - Link Roundup! · 1 reply · +16 points

When my dog sees the UPS guy, I usually do a LOUD CLAP and/or bang something against the table, which distracts him for a moment. In that moment, I ask him to do some command (sit, or something easy), and then move through a bunch of different commands, offering treats. This routine has also gradually decreased the number of things he barks at/time he spends barking, even when I don't do it.

If I can catch him when he's alerting to something but before he starts barking, I do the look at that/look at me protocol, like they have here. This is also really effective at getting him to not go nuts about stuff (sometimes we can walk past other dogs outside now!), though, again, somewhat slow going.

If that doesn't work, I know some people who have had success by teaching their dog to speak on command. Seems counterintuitive, and will probably suck for your neighbors while you're doing it, but I guess it's much easier to teach a "quiet" command if they know how to do the opposite. I think you just do something that will make the dog bark (they used a knock on the door), praise for "speak". When he gets the hang of that, use the "speak" command, and then praise for "quiet". That should teach him to shut up on cue.