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ThisIsYourConscience.com : The Inconvenient Reality Of Rape That Respectability Arguments Ignore

Thu, 10 Apr 2014 00:09:08 +0000

- man gets hit by a car, friends ask if he looked both ways before crossing the street. - kid get his bike stolen. his mom asks if he locked it - dude gets punched out in a bar. 'gosh what'd you do to piss that guy off?!' society blames victims all the time, not just in sexual assault cases. why would we think the pattern would change just because the assault is of a sexual nature? any way, while linc writes authoritatively here, he neglects to mention that there hasn't been a criminal charge called rape in canada since like 1984 or something. the complicating thing is that children regular do behave sexually and/or mimic grown peoples' sexual behavior. in some cases the assault might be in the ways that a child is privy sexual content or suggestion. there are many layers to child abuse. one of the less talked about facet is how parents audition their children for potential abusers. think a seedier version of 'toddlers and tiaras'. while our society sends very mixed messages, to be clear, nothing at all justifies an adult responding sexually to a child. we should be as outraged when we respectably sexualize children as when some creep treats a child as sexually capable.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Beautiful Women Are Never Asked On Dates, But STRIPPERS Are? Bullshit.

Wed, 9 Apr 2014 23:47:34 +0000

nonsense. if some one isn't trying to wife a beautiful woman either she's high maintenance, friend zoning eligible guys or she's high maintenance.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Are Selfies A Sign Of Narcissism? Or Is Society Far Too Self-Righteous?

Wed, 9 Apr 2014 23:43:54 +0000

this song i thnk say selfie takers are in fact airhead narcissists. those are the safest kinds! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdemFfbS5H0

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Ladies, Here's 1 Important Thing YOU NEED To Know To Connect Emotionally With Your Man

Wed, 4 Dec 2013 00:04:09 +0000

do you think those old school 'love birds' were a pack of skinny jean wearing emo narcissists? 'dear wife it hurt me when you...pshah!' yuo really think the old headz were having those kinds of convos much? it was go to the bar and drink it off, more times. while you have some emotionally literate type relationships, i'd venture most stayed together because men and women had pretty separate lives and limited opportunity to bore and annoy each other with emotional minutiae and neediness. then there was the good old fashion violence. if a woman acted our of sort a man could either smack her up and/or leave her in financial destitution with little prospect of gainful employment. those things kept marriages together - and just barely. socially we're a bit lost because so much in society has changed and we still want the old institutions to work. in many cases expecting an old skool partnership makes about as evolutionary sense as growing a thick coat of fur to live in the tropics

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Black Men Need To Feel Needed By Black Women

Fri, 22 Nov 2013 21:25:41 +0000

i dunno. haven't devoted much thought reading those kinds of motives

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Black Men Need To Feel Needed By Black Women

Tue, 19 Nov 2013 13:14:10 +0000

black people relate differently, often more cruelly, to each other than to other races. that's part of why in ontario at least, most 'inter-racial' relationships involve a black person. most people see this as proof of racial harmony. it is sometimes. it is also proof that black folks, of any gender, value others over themselves. sad state of affairs, but ah well. live goes on i guess.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Black Men Need To Feel Needed By Black Women

Mon, 18 Nov 2013 23:23:07 +0000

'feeling needed' is often the first step to being 'used'! careful nephews! and, more broadly, be wary of this post-scandal 'black love' resurgence.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Believe It Or Not: Squirting Turns Some Dudes OFF

Fri, 1 Nov 2013 22:50:32 +0000

you know what? let's say it IS pee. the fact that you could screw a woman into not caring if she wet herself should trump any, all be they rational, fears of being peed on. if any thing there are plenty positions that make sure it lands on her. man up for god's sake.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Nothing's More PATHETIC Than A Woman Who Can't Accept A Man Not Wanting Her Anymore

Fri, 1 Nov 2013 22:47:34 +0000

she's prolly just pissed things ended on his terms and not hers.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Jay-Z Got 99 Problems And Losing Money Over Morals Ain't 1

Fri, 1 Nov 2013 22:45:51 +0000

there's no contradiction. for jay-z, money is morality.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Interracial Relationships Don't Make You LESS Dateable - Unless You're A Racist WHORE

Thu, 6 Jun 2013 02:37:58 +0000

assume? you said that you have no obligation, and thus, suggested you don't do much to challenge white supremacy aside of take care of your family. now you are saying something different. well isn't that an interesting 'set up' for your 'reveal' and 'outrage response'. if this is in fact true i applaud your activism. why though do you think and 'activism' as popularly conceived is something of an industry.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : How To Date A Man Dealing With Depression

Thu, 6 Jun 2013 02:23:14 +0000

women expect a man to be emotionally available in a way that comforts her. having to support a man emotionally is a close second to having to support a man financially. not sexy. depression as a condition carries the prospect of both. so yeah. you do the math. also, women are more likely to suffer from depression than are men. so that makes him even more of a liability in her eyes often. either way i'm pretty sure that what a lot of people call 'depression' is really a healthy reaction to living in an exploitative social system and encountering passive-aggressive would-be manipulative douches. once a person comes to terms with those sociological factors, and make the necessary adjustment, s/he is much less likely to be troubled, and more likely to be merely amused.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Interracial Relationships Don't Make You LESS Dateable - Unless You're A Racist WHORE

Wed, 5 Jun 2013 01:47:12 +0000

um. people adjust their thinking to circumstances that people dictate all the time. nothing is static, even things that don't appear to change. i have several friends who have not been in car accidents. that doesn't mean car accidents don't happen. there are several studies that illustrate that toronto's color consciousness translates into statistically significant discrimination. that you know a few people who've not be subject to the dynamic doesn't mean it doesn't exist, or effect the thinking of others. well linc said that black women are more likely to do it than other women are. just because two groups both do something it doesn't mean that is done in the same frequency or have the same effect. well that's you're perspective and nothing can change that. however, the logic of the world, says different. people aren't all the same every where. rather many of those similarities have been manufactured. it is great that in an internet forum you say that, however, many devoutly prejudicial people say similar things.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Interracial Relationships Don't Make You LESS Dateable - Unless You're A Racist WHORE

Mon, 3 Jun 2013 18:59:21 +0000

i respect other opinions too however, they need to be well founded and show a command of evidence of some sort. people change all the time. holding the same view also demands 'change'. the question those is how the world change, and who dictates that change? racial politics in canada are just as intense if not worse. despite toronto's multiculturalism there is still a very clear race politic at play in most cultural institutions. darker skinned people of any race more likely to be stopped by police and sentenced more harshly. this sometimes by other coloured folks. also, some pairing are more likely than others, or receptive to certain pressure than others. linc in fact wrote about black women putting black men under more financial pressure than women of other races do (he ended that article with a weak faux humanist line about it being a human problem). i've also been privy to conversation where east asian women talked about why white guys were great, why they'd never date an asian man, and just under what circumstances and for how long they'd date a black guy. so people do make all sorts of racial calculations, and racist assumptions, even when signing 'kumbaya', most of those calculations are about avoiding challenging white supremacy, or how best to support it.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Interracial Relationships Don't Make You LESS Dateable - Unless You're A Racist WHORE

Mon, 3 Jun 2013 18:46:52 +0000

i've no issue with opinions that are different from my own. rather they fascinate me. they do though have to have a certain depth and broadness to them. most of the 'all love is love' arguments are pretty poorly constructed, allow for blatantly racist or sexist attitudes to go through unfiltered and are actively avoidant of really important dynamics. it is part of the 'new racism'. canadians like to act as though everything is soo much better here, but the racial dynamics (i.e. in toronto, dark skinned people of any race are significantly more likely to fired from a job or stopped by police or more harshly sentenced), often by people who are mixed (like zimmerman who you don't want to talk about) or have connections to coloured people suggest that the mixing thing isn't what folks pretend it is. and the history of black people in canada, largely being absorbed into majority white population, or other wise not being allowed into canada because the nations architects wanted to make the nation 'white' suggests otherwise. these histories all influence who is here and in what capacity and why. the kumbaya approach to things, like the racialism veiled in some faux humanism, makes little account for that. also, mixing doesn't happen in equally across every community. certain pairings are much more frequent than others. that suggest that a racial logic, and other factors are still very much at play, that and the racial calculations that make some people more receptive. i mean linc wrote about this - before covering it up with that stale and phony humanism - in how black women in toronto hold black men to a financial standard different than do women of other races. i've been privy to conversation in toronto in which asian women described when and why they'd date a white man, why they'd never date an asian man, what sort of black man they'd date and for how long. is that just all and mixing or just new sort of racism that we'll tolerate because we don't know how to responsibly critique inter-raciality or might be exposed as racists if we dare to point out the racism that they can promote? so a lot of the 'everyone one is loving everyone else' talk just masks inconvenient kinds of racism. people agree to look the other way usually because they don't want to expose their own racism, or believe that supporting mixed relationships somehow means they aren't white supremacists.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Interracial Relationships Don't Make You LESS Dateable - Unless You're A Racist WHORE

Mon, 3 Jun 2013 17:11:25 +0000

there's little evidence to suggest that is true. and many, many black public figures are married to white women. these guys are often quite comfortable and move in racist or republican spaces. the international community does care how america treats its citizens. it probably wants its citizen to tell the american government to stop droning its kids. organized activity is evidence of an 'agenda'. promoting is organized activity.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Interracial Relationships Don't Make You LESS Dateable - Unless You're A Racist WHORE

Mon, 3 Jun 2013 17:06:47 +0000

what? look at he nfl, lol. just because some racist white folks had violent reactions to it doesn't mean that others have didn't promote or encourage it. and of course you had black men promoting dating white even while some of their 'brothers' were swinging from trees accused of 'eye-raping' a white girl. i think the white folks who did it were singing kumbaya as they went home to their black maids.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Interracial Relationships Don't Make You LESS Dateable - Unless You're A Racist WHORE

Mon, 3 Jun 2013 16:56:34 +0000

that's not true and you should know because it makes little sense. if you can identify statistically significant group behaviour, then there are factor at play. given that a group, black men, have observable dating patterns it is very unlikely that individual choice is driving things. and of course there are things beyond peer pressure that influence group behavior, and even choice.

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Interracial Relationships Don't Make You LESS Dateable - Unless You're A Racist WHORE

Mon, 3 Jun 2013 16:45:36 +0000

yeah that's what people who have they're head in the sand usually say. by that logic if we stop thinking about racism it will just disappear! try that and let me know how that works out for you. folk like me? what about folks like 'we'? why do you sit around and do nothing with your head in the bloody sand making up or buying into lies cover up YOUR inaction while the rest of 'us' are to be out here tucking?

ThisIsYourConscience.com : Interracial Relationships Don't Make You LESS Dateable - Unless You're A Racist WHORE

Mon, 3 Jun 2013 16:41:01 +0000

adonis, much of what you wrote is nonsense. but i guess since you promote inter-racial dating you can't at all have anti-black attitudes, lol. a black man dating a white woman was at times encouraged by white folks too. and black men often celebrate other black men for taking uncle charlie's woman as a sort of planatation revenge for the black women slave master's 'raped'. american has too shown black men with white men more frequently than it shows black women with non-black men. there certainly is a color complex around black women, and often the guys who date out get more attention from black women, in fact i knew a few guys who dated asian and white women just so they could sleep with more black women. but the idea that 'america will never accept black men dating white' is absurd. and again, most black people the world over are married to and involved with other black people. so while those dynamics are real and over riding they don't have to be determining.